To not want to share a room on holiday with MIL

I wouldn't necessarily expect an egg each. She probably just brought one for the child and one for you and DH or two for you both to share.

I think you are overreacting.

Room 1 - bil and his 3 dc
Room 2 - mil and sil
Room 3 - fil
Room 4 - op and.df

@seeitthroughmyeyes

I did inform MIL to not book anything again without informing us. We are also going to let her know we will not be participating on family holidays as it's not something we personally enjoy. Wish me luck!!!

Don't be too (or at all) subtle. She/they will either not believe you or think you'll change your mind in future. 🌹

You have to make a stand OP, or be condemned to a lifetime of kowtowing to her!

Is this some kind of ploy to prevent you two having sex on holiday because you aren't actually married yet? Or to encourage the parents of the three boys to have some more sex in case of a future grand-daughter?

I just KNEW she'd have nabbed your Christmas too! These types always think they 'own' Christmas! Totally understand and relate to your fury.

And I do indeed wish you luck! In my experience, when you start to put your foot down, you get an 'extinction burst' - the bossy one freaks out even harder as they feel their control being challenged.

Hold your nerve! And think of the relief when everyone else is being pushed around the bedrooms like her own personal chess pieces and you don't have to go through it.

Personally I'd give this holiday a swerve. Let your fiance suffer enjoy his nephews without you there as an encumbrance.

What job are you in that you get so much holiday that you're ok wasting it on dictatorial rugrats and their enabler adults?

Exactly

well in that case you need to opt out of this one. 'we didn't enjoy it much last time so don't want to do it again.' they can hardly argue with that.

You've made the right call here OP! My SiL very much books holidays based on her and her children's needs and we're all expected to go along with it. She decides the location, books the accommodation and decides what we do, what we eat etc. I hate it. There's another one coming up and I've made it clear to DH I'm not going on any more. Our situation is different in that we also have children, but they don't get a look in with regards to needs or attention when SiL and family are there. You won't regret sticking to your guns on this one!

Yip 4 bedrooms and they are trying to shoe horn 4 people into one of them. I don't think I've ever seen holiday accommodation with 4 bed in one room other than a family hotel room

Such a shame you will come down with D + V day before you are due to go!

That sounds like the shittest holiday ever, I wouldn’t go. They clearly have you there to have a break from looking after their shitty kids. I would 100% be getting flu that week

There's obviously only 4 bedrooms, not enough for the group, so you and DF are being split and squashed into other rooms. MIL must think you two are easier to manipulate than the parents of the wild boys.

I think someone is lying and this has nothing to do with what the nephews want. It is because they don’t want to pay for an extra room for your fiancé and you. If you share with MiL and he shares with the boys they don’t have to book a room for the two of you.

This is so inappropriate. It would be a firm no from me.
The nephews don't get to dictate. Sounds like the parents are encouraging this so they get an easy time and your husband has to deal with them. There's no way I would want to share a room with my MIL at all over my partner, and I like my MIL

We weren't particularly happy when we found out it had been booked prior to discussion

I don't blame you; who on earth does that, risking that you might have something else on which you can't move?

It works out well though, since if you simply back out they'll be no worse off than if an "unmovable event" had stopped you going, and hopefully they'll have the sense to ask you next time (even if you don't intend there to be one)

Fuck that. Just don’t go.

Sounds miserable (with or without sharing a room with MIL). Who wants to go on holiday with badly behaved children and an over indulgent grandma? Why on earth would your partner want to sleep in a room with his nephews who will undoubtedly get up early and be over excited? Ridiculous.
I'd sack it off entirely. More fool them that they booked without consulting you beforehand.
If your partner still wants to go that's up to him. Next time they book a holiday and inform you that you will be going, refuse instantly. Don't dither and say maybe or get pushed into it with a guilt trip. You don't enjoy it, it's not how you want to spend your precious annual leave and that's that. I'm sure it will call ructions but I'd rather that than the holiday from hell!

I find these threads really eye opening.

I can't believe that grown ups get themselves into these situations.

Why are you doing something you don't want to @seeitthroughmyeyes ?

And why is your fiance?

Presumably you are both at least late 20s, or in your 30sor even 40s?

I think it's appalling that a young nephew has the 'say' over where adults sleep.

He sounds utterly spoilt and his parents need to give their heads a jolly good wobble.

Just don't go.

Let the control freak MIL and the spoilt nephews have the holiday - alone!

Exactly what I would be saying.

No way would I ever have shared a room with anyone other than my DH. I certainly wouldn't even have considered sharing with my MIL. She was an extremely heavy smoker and snored like a train as well.

I'd back out of the holiday and go somewhere else, just you and DH. If/when asked why then I would have no qualms about being blunt and honest.

This. Why doesn't your fiancé speak up?

Why go on "holiday" with your MIL.
Baffling.

Set your stall out right now.

Don't go.

Make it clear how things will be in future. You're being bullied and used.