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To not want to share a room on holiday with MIL

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seeitthroughmyeyes · 02/04/2024 12:01

My LT fiancé's parents kindly paid for all of us to go to new forest this year with his three nephews, sister, her husband and his parents. The three nephews are an absolute pain, they are badly behaved, rude and irritating.

I've now been told I'm no longer going to be sharing a room with my fiancé as the three boys want to share a room with their uncle. Obviously, I'm not happy sharing a room with my MIL for 4 days, although I love her to bits. I'm a grown adult.
Both my fiancé and me have agreed we no longer want to do family holidays with them because it's exhausting and we aren't exactly a big fan of children, albeit they are family.

AIBU for not wanting to share a room with my MIL and no longer wanting to participate in family holidays with them?
If so, how do we go about telling them in the future we no longer want to join without upsetting them.

OP posts:
Harvestfestivalknickers · 02/04/2024 12:03

By telling them its not a 'holiday' if your DN's dictate the sleeping arrangements?

JudgeJudging · 02/04/2024 12:03

Your fiancé says 'In what universe does someone go on holiday with the man she's going to marry and his family and share with her future MIL? We revert to the original arrangements, or we're not going to be going.'

trippily · 02/04/2024 12:03

He needs to say no, obviously that won't be happening. And then just turn down any furtger invites.

AppleKatie · 02/04/2024 12:03

Your DP needs to tell his family that this year (and every year) he is sharing with you not his nephews! And if that goes down badly neither of you go- it’s them not you OP!

Anameisaname · 02/04/2024 12:02

Um why doesn't your fiance say no, I'm sharing with my DP!