To not want to pay for my bridesmaid dress?

UK. I paid for my bridesmaids and flower girls dresses and shoes (my best friends and their daughters and my niece). They chose the dresses and shoes too as I wanted them to be comfortable on the day. They have all used all their items since and had great wear out of them, of which I am truly glad. I would never have dreamt of asking them to pay!!!!

Luckily my mum is a hairdresser so she was hard at work the wedding morning and I paid for all of their make up to be done too.

Nah, never come across that. Bridesmaid 3 times and never been expected or asked to pay.

I've been a bridesmaid at my brother's wedding and had two bridesmaids at my own wedding..

My dress and shoes were bought for me, along with earrings as my bridesmaids gift, all paid for by SIL's parents.

When I got married I used a contribution from my dad to pay for my dress, veil and shoes and also the bridesmaids outfits including shoes and hair accessories. I told them that they could keep their outfits to do whatever they liked with them. I would never have expected them to but their own dresses although they did both volunteer to.

No I paid for my bridesmaids dresses. Personally I think it's a cheek to ask them to pay for something you want!

Are you in England? Sorry but this is horribly rude of you. You should have covered the full cost. Yes they’d have bought a new outfit, but one completely if their own choosing that they’d likely wear again! They’ll never wear a bridesmaid dress again fgs.

My bridesmaid's dresses were made for them and we paid for them. It wouldn't have occurred to us to say 'Would you be the bridesmaids and by the way, you can pay for your own frocks'!

Not in the UK. Bride or whoever pays for dresses.

I didn’t have bridesmaids because I couldn’t afford dresses - there’s nothing wrong with a small wedding, no way would I have asked anyone to buy their own, cheekyfuckery of the highest order 🤷‍♀️

Tell her you've tons of jewellery and don't need anymore but can't afford the dress ;-)

No it’s not??

My bridesmaids and I split it. I got that they wouldn’t have chosen the dress I did necessarily, but all three said they’d buy a new dress for the wedding if it wasn’t for being a bridesmaid so were happy to contribute something.

Sorry! I didn't mean strange weird, I meant more unusual or non-traditional. No offence meant!

I had quite a 'budget' wedding but I bought all of my bridesmaids dresses. I asked them to wear their own shoes but they were wearing black so they all had some anyway if they didn't want to buy. Paid for them to have hair and make up done too.

I've never bought my bridesmaids dress either.

Tradition is that bridesmaids pay for their own dress.

This only is a tradition in America
Uk tradition is bride pays for all expenses incurred with being a bridesmaid

"Not in the UK" is the new 'cancel the cheque".

I have lost count of how many times I have just read that very same reply.

I think its best she only have 9 bridesmaids now.

So its not just the dress you are paying out for. It's everything else as well. Don't forget about all the hen nights and planning as anyone who has 10 bridesmaids, isn't going to be happy with one night up the town for a few bevvys.

Never heard that before when I got married it was normal to buy your bridesmaids dresses if you couldn't afford it you had less bridesmaids.

I think that’s the case in the US but it’s never been the tradition here - it seems to be a very new thing ( perhaps another imported custom?)

I gave my bridesmaids £100 to get a black dress/jumpsuit/whatever they wanted, they were scattered all
over the country and had very different styles so it seemed the easiest thing to do. Didn’t care what jewellery, shoes or accessories they had (although some had black outfits they already loved I told them to use the money for new shoes etc if they wanted). We were all still in university/new graduates at the time so £100 seemed like plenty (none of us had particularly expensive taste).

I thought I was being practical rather than strange!

10 bridesmaids is going to be horrendous. However it makes it perfect dow you to drop out as she has plenty of others.

No way should you be paying for anything.

Ridiculous and mean. I paid for everything for my bridesmaids except their hotel rooms.

the bride has decided to choose ten bridesmaids

10 bridesmaids is ridiculous and chavvy, regardless of who is paying.

Are there 10 groomsmen as well? Who is going to be left sitting in the 'audience' to actually watch this tacky freakshow?

Not in the U.K. it's not. Very much tradition and current norm that the dress is paid for by whoever is paying for the wedding.

Honestly, as a rule I would say if the bride is choosing the dress, she pays for it. However, if she wants the bridesmaid(s) to pay, they choose their own dresses.

Having said that, I think it's so tight to ask a bridesmaid to pay for her own dress, but that's just my opinion

She's taking the piss.