Why are you long term Single?

Big health problem up until 20 years ago, I'm 64 now. It's too late for me, I accept it. Used to be bitter back in the day but not now.
Besides that female friends tell me 'they're not worth it..😕

Because no other person, man or woman, is worth giving up my peace for. Simple.

Because after 10 years in a relationship that got progressively worse, followed by various lodgings & sharings until I managed to buy my own flat, I know that I’ll always be happiest & healthiest single. And while I have a pretty good social life, I simply couldn’t face the idea of anyone else living in my home. Not unless they’re a cat.

I don’t think I’m straight, possibly gay, possibly asexual but not completely sure. Definitely no interest in sex with men. Even if I knew what I wanted in terms of dating I have lots of issues (autism, adhd, mental health issues plus I’m not at all attractive) which mean I don’t think I am dateable, I’m socially awkward. I am also poor at putting in boundaries, I put myself in a position with a man which ended with me being raped several years ago so I’m scared to put myself in a situation like that again by dating someone I don’t know. I have kind of accepted I will be alone forever now, it’s miserable and lonely and not how I thought my life would turn out but it is what it is.

Preference. I love men, don’t get me wrong, just didn’t meet anyone I could face 24/7 with. Luck of draw - long term winner seems to be me tho’.

Got cat. Cat lovely 24/7.

I've had a couple of short relationships through my forties and have come to the conclusion it's not worth it. They wanted to be in my pocket the whole time. I have DC, and I'm very independent. I wanted to date and have the fun, good bits, but they wanted to insert themselves into the fabric of my life. It was too much.

I met my ‘best’ partners in real-life situations such as hobby groups and at bars etc.
OLD isn’t for everyone, and that’s fine. 😄

Single mum with no time to date even if I wanted to, and TBH I don't want to - I like being able to what I like, when I like (as much as you can with kids) and not having to consider what someone else thinks about it (again, apart from the kids)

When I consider it, my nose wrinkles up involuntarily - I just don't think that the benefits of having a partner is worth the hassle of one.

Because I got my heart broken then got a chronic illness. Online dating seems a huge waste of my limited energy and honestly, I'm not really over my ex even years later. It all just seems a huge effort and beyond my grasp to find anyone worth it.

I think I value simplicity and calm over romance these days.

I do feel alone though.

Life is just better when I can do what you want, when I want. I watch the films I want, go to the theatre I want, listen to the music I want. I can see who I want, when I want. I don't need to take anyone else's opinion into account.

I just don't really see how a relationship would benefit me.

Couldn't agree more. I'm pitied by people who haven't been single since their teenage years. What's there to pity? My life is bliss thanks very much

I'm in the process of leaving my abusive 8 year relationship and I'm loving reading all of these!
I cannot wait to never have to live with another man again.
In fact I'd be very happy to stay single forever and not have anyone have any say over my life again 💪🏻

Too busy. DD/Dogs/horses/work

Too independent.

Love my own space too much nowadays

Can't actually remember why I used to bother with men at all! Had LTRs most of my adult life.

Don't miss it at all.

11th year single for me. I ended up with PTSD from my divorce which was utterly horrific. I will never trust anybody again. I'd never bring somebody into my children's lives. I've made peace with that now. Also I see so many of my friends in utterly shit marriages or relationships and there is no way I'd put myself in that position. It's not worth it.

Because despite two good long term relationships, single (and childfree) is how I am happiest.

Just lucky I guess 😂

Nailed it :)

That should say someone they don't like!!

I've done too many safeguarding courses to risk bringing a strange man into my house while my dc were young.

I escaped an emotionally and financially abusive relationship

I don't want to have to have sex on demand

I don't trust easily thanks to being cheated on

I would rather spend time with my children

I don't want to risk my relationship with my children (15 and 18) by bringing home and none they don't like.

I don't want to deal with a man child.

Single since 2013...ex husband kept me sleeping with him until 2019 with promise we might get back together....just started seeing someone in last week who knows how this will go!!

Because my ex did a hatchet job on me(he was abusive) and I refuse to settle for anyone but Mr Perfect (for me before anyone says anything) now. It also takes a lot for me to trust a man and let them in.

That and I can't be arsed with online dating and have a busy demanding job so don't feel like going out in the evenings to meet yet another random man who I won't fancy.

There is someone I fancy so I may have to become less of a hermit.

Because it's pure bliss.

@Almostwelsh Honest. Same here. No one wants a relationship with me. Shame 🫤