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To relocate up north

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StonwEd · 01/04/2024 12:08

From East Anglia? Has anyone done it? Am I mad?
I’ve just spent yet another lovely week in the Lake District, greater Manchester and Derbyshire. We do this often although not as often as I would like due to very low holiday allowance.
Daydreaming a bit but also not really.
Kids all moved out, own my house outright, prob will sell for around £375k.
Enjoy my job but it’s crap money and hasn’t really got prospects but it is a field I’m sure I can get another job in and I’ve seen plenty of remote working jobs that are related (and better paid 🙄)
Husband is on board with this fantasy, he has a small business so can work anywhere.
I had kids very young so have lived in my home town all my life. Never left but always wanted to.
I’m 45 and I’m finally thinking it might be time. Financially as long as I get a job, we’ll be fine, and I’m so poorly paid as it is, shop or bar work will be fine to start with.
I’ve got a fair bit of savings and I’m thinking of travelling round the north for a couple of months, stay in local b&bs and to know some areas better before we take the plunge. I’d have to quit my job obvs but it’s a risk I’m starting to think is worth it…

And most importantly, where should we be looking? Want nature on our doorstep, but easy access to a town.

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Alfreddoeblin · 01/04/2024 18:09

Let’s be honest I doubt that any MNetter ever moved up north to any of those deprived left behind areas. It’s just not going to happen. That’s why they get all so tetchy when people joke about having baths in a coal bin and using an outside loo up north. Places like Harrogate, York, Ilkley are full of people from the south. Sadly many of the locals can’t afford to live there themselves. My family is from York. Some younger members are having to move further out to Pock and places because property is ludicrously expensive. Someone showed a terrace earlier for £350k. 10 years ago that would have been a normalish price for locals.

MereDintofPandiculation · 01/04/2024 17:56

Wolfpa · 01/04/2024 17:45

I did the opposite and moved from the North to East Anglia.

if you want countryside what about North Wales? The perfect mixture between mountains, rivers and the coast.

there are several reasonable villages price wise and you are not far away from Chester and Bangor.

I was going to say if it's the hills and countryside that attract, what about Herefordshire or Shropshire? Roughly speaking, if you draw a line from the Severn to the Humber, N&W of it tends to be hilly (and less crowded).

WeightoftheWorld · 01/04/2024 17:55

Liverpool!

Willyoujustbequiet · 01/04/2024 17:54

UAvoidUrProblems · 01/04/2024 14:30

Okay....I'm not talking about any of that though. I'm talking from an investment standpoint.

The investment is fresh air, health and happiness. You can't put a price on wellbeing.

Alfreddoeblin · 01/04/2024 17:54

floppybit · 01/04/2024 12:24

You could afford a great house in Manchester, Leeds or Sheffield and have easy access to surrounding national parks. Ignore the ridiculous negativity in the previous answers. You have enough money to live in a decent area, not a poor ex mining town!

Fgs why would anyone want to live in a ghastly ex pit village. Decent area = any other posh town down south with less of the poors and certainly no council estates 😂

Wolfpa · 01/04/2024 17:45

I did the opposite and moved from the North to East Anglia.

if you want countryside what about North Wales? The perfect mixture between mountains, rivers and the coast.

there are several reasonable villages price wise and you are not far away from Chester and Bangor.

caringcarer · 01/04/2024 17:33

My DS couldn't afford to buy a house in the Midlands where we lived so he moved up to Hull and bought himself a house there. He's a Class 1 lorry driver so they are in short supply so he could get a job anywhere in the country. He took a £6k a year pay cut to move. He's made good friends up there. He's got a lovely girlfriend, got a cat and he's happy. He's been there 3 years now.

Missamyp · 01/04/2024 17:30

Bjorkdidit · 01/04/2024 16:39

I don't know why posters are getting so het up about the descriptions of the North

Because they're nowhere near universally true and many would equally apply to the south.

I live in West Yorkshire. We have a huge garden and back onto green belt. There's land for miles.

DM also lives in West Yorkshire and has buses that pass her door every 10 minutes to the two nearest cities in about 15 minutes.

There's plenty of places in the south where you'd think you were doing well to drive 15 miles in 90 minutes. The M25 is at least as gridlocked as the M60.

I knew you'd live in a statistical empirical abnormality.
Fact
Rains significantly more in the north where Dp lives compared to me in Buckinghamshire.
1100mm vs 640mm-temps are average temp 10.5c vs 14.5c
Transport connectivity is worse than in most of Europe.

Last year it took us 60 minutes or so to drive 40 miles and park up for a concert in Warwick Castle. It took over two hrs to get to Temple Newsam and park up.

One positive for the North is the farm shops are better and so are the fish chips.
Although it was £20 for 2 double vodka redbulls. in Machester when we went out.

Mabelface · 01/04/2024 17:23

I've lived on the Wirral, Shropshire, Ipswich, Wiltshire, Somerset, Northampton before moving to near the peaks. I much prefer the North to the South.

muddyford · 01/04/2024 17:21

I'm wanting to move from south Devon to East Anglia!

JemOfAWoman · 01/04/2024 17:20

Have a look at Penrith. You can get a nice house for that amount. It's close to the lakes, the Dales and the Borders. Good road and rail links as well.

sunnylanding · 01/04/2024 17:18

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

What a ridiculous over generalisation 🙄

5foot5 · 01/04/2024 17:14

The place was packed full of high quality activities. Not to mention having 3 Waitroses within a couple of miles. 😆

Meh! Forget Waitrose. It's not all that. One of the real benefits of the North is having access to a Booths. My nearest is Knutsford. I only go occasionally but it makes a lovely change.

I second recommendations for Peak District either with Sheffield or Manchester nearby. I live in the North West, in Cheshire, on the edge of the Peak District. Easy access to lovely countryside and Manchester not too far away.

£350k would get you a decent house round here. Not massive but perfectly ok

TheWeeDonkeyFella · 01/04/2024 17:06

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Tis awful, some of us don't know where our next jug of Bisto for our chips is coming from.

OP - go for it, you sound like you've approached a good time in life without ties, financially ok and young enough to adapt to a new life or even move back again if it does work out as you'd like.

Elsewhere123 · 01/04/2024 17:05

Unfortunately in time you get old. Think about which child is likely to want to be in contact with you and where they live now. Being close to a hospital with a bus or train is a big plus

Thiswayorthatway · 01/04/2024 16:58

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Really? 😅😂

dottiedodah · 01/04/2024 16:58

MeMycatsandmybooks Some of the south is as well! Parts of Portsmouth Southampton and Poole are very deprived areas! Honestly rich and poor are everywhere in UK!

StonwEd · 01/04/2024 16:50

Crikey I didn’t mean to start the north south debate. I’m well traveled, aware of the differences between north and south here and have many friends in both. Driving to Cornwall from where we live now can take 10 hours and I swore after holidaying in Dorset I’d never go down there again because of the traffic. It took 9 hours to get to the Lake District the other day, we were so unlucky with traffic but we’ve got back from Stockport in just over 4 today so it’s hit and miss isn’t it.
I’m not considering moving because I’m under any illusion I can buy a mansion for a tenner, I just like the countryside and hills and every time we visit, I feel a bit more of a pull.
What I did like was getting 3 pints in a pub for £12! Can’t even get 2 in my local for that 🫣

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Runningupthecurtains · 01/04/2024 16:50

Bjorkdidit · 01/04/2024 16:39

I don't know why posters are getting so het up about the descriptions of the North

Because they're nowhere near universally true and many would equally apply to the south.

I live in West Yorkshire. We have a huge garden and back onto green belt. There's land for miles.

DM also lives in West Yorkshire and has buses that pass her door every 10 minutes to the two nearest cities in about 15 minutes.

There's plenty of places in the south where you'd think you were doing well to drive 15 miles in 90 minutes. The M25 is at least as gridlocked as the M60.

I live in the south in a market town. We are 9 miles from the nearest train station and I'm more likely to see a unicorn than a bus after 8pm but obviously it's grim ooop north.

Isitautumnyet23 · 01/04/2024 16:48

Bjorkdidit · 01/04/2024 16:42

But it's snowed on one day here this winter. Its been quite warm and sunny all Easter weekend apart from this morning

Friend lives in the south west and they get plenty of wet windy weather.

I know that was abit of a generalisation but the south does typically get sunnier weather. If that doesn’t bother the OP, then i’d say go for it.

Midnightstar76 · 01/04/2024 16:45

Well as a northern lass OP I say go for it!

Bjorkdidit · 01/04/2024 16:42

Isitautumnyet23 · 01/04/2024 16:38

I think if its your absolute dream and DH is on board, then go for it. But go expecting a change in the climate - we’re southerners (South West) and could not cope with it any colder - just had 6 months of rain/cold so very much looking forward to sunny weather soon. As much as I love snow and think its beautiful (on the very rare occasion we get it), I can imagine it gets annoying trying to live your daily life with it. But you’ve only got one life so go for it if its your dream.

But it's snowed on one day here this winter. Its been quite warm and sunny all Easter weekend apart from this morning

Friend lives in the south west and they get plenty of wet windy weather.

Bjorkdidit · 01/04/2024 16:39

I don't know why posters are getting so het up about the descriptions of the North

Because they're nowhere near universally true and many would equally apply to the south.

I live in West Yorkshire. We have a huge garden and back onto green belt. There's land for miles.

DM also lives in West Yorkshire and has buses that pass her door every 10 minutes to the two nearest cities in about 15 minutes.

There's plenty of places in the south where you'd think you were doing well to drive 15 miles in 90 minutes. The M25 is at least as gridlocked as the M60.

Isitautumnyet23 · 01/04/2024 16:38

I think if its your absolute dream and DH is on board, then go for it. But go expecting a change in the climate - we’re southerners (South West) and could not cope with it any colder - just had 6 months of rain/cold so very much looking forward to sunny weather soon. As much as I love snow and think its beautiful (on the very rare occasion we get it), I can imagine it gets annoying trying to live your daily life with it. But you’ve only got one life so go for it if its your dream.

MiddleParking · 01/04/2024 16:36

It isn’t until you see a thread about property/lifestyles in ‘the north’ vs ‘the south’ that you realise how truly and completely stupid so many people are.

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