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To relocate up north

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StonwEd · 01/04/2024 12:08

From East Anglia? Has anyone done it? Am I mad?
I’ve just spent yet another lovely week in the Lake District, greater Manchester and Derbyshire. We do this often although not as often as I would like due to very low holiday allowance.
Daydreaming a bit but also not really.
Kids all moved out, own my house outright, prob will sell for around £375k.
Enjoy my job but it’s crap money and hasn’t really got prospects but it is a field I’m sure I can get another job in and I’ve seen plenty of remote working jobs that are related (and better paid 🙄)
Husband is on board with this fantasy, he has a small business so can work anywhere.
I had kids very young so have lived in my home town all my life. Never left but always wanted to.
I’m 45 and I’m finally thinking it might be time. Financially as long as I get a job, we’ll be fine, and I’m so poorly paid as it is, shop or bar work will be fine to start with.
I’ve got a fair bit of savings and I’m thinking of travelling round the north for a couple of months, stay in local b&bs and to know some areas better before we take the plunge. I’d have to quit my job obvs but it’s a risk I’m starting to think is worth it…

And most importantly, where should we be looking? Want nature on our doorstep, but easy access to a town.

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unlikelychump · 01/04/2024 12:22

Oh we're half way through a fortnight up north / in Scotland and I am actively fantasising about this as well. Not the right time for us as kids settled in schools but it would be glorious.

I don't think I have a need for urban activity as much I thought I did. Don't tend to do takeaways, cinema etc. I mostly want to ride my bike.

Do it op, you only live once!

yeah my bike and my books and cooking keeps me pretty entertained

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Arightoldcarryabag · 01/04/2024 12:23

We moved from South East to Yorkshire.
Be prepared for an almost cultural shift in the climate if this is something you're considering.

In your position my main consideration would be my children and other support networks. Moving up is one thing and you'll benefit from buying power but going the other way might be difficult/impossible although it does sound like you're financially well set so maybe not such an issue.

As there's no rush, research any areas extremely well, try to holiday in the exact town you want to go to etc and my other advice would be to sell to rent with a view to buying once you know the area better. This helps a lot with viewings etc.

StonwEd · 01/04/2024 12:22

Great perspectives. We live fairly rurally currently, not great for entertainment and diversity but could be worse. Generally good weather where we are although not so much this year yet!

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unlikelychump · 01/04/2024 12:22

Oh we're half way through a fortnight up north / in Scotland and I am actively fantasising about this as well. Not the right time for us as kids settled in schools but it would be glorious.

I don't think I have a need for urban activity as much I thought I did. Don't tend to do takeaways, cinema etc. I mostly want to ride my bike.

Do it op, you only live once!

Gymmum82 · 01/04/2024 12:22

I live in the north and love it. We have good jobs and a nice life close to both cities and countryside.
There are plenty of places that aren’t deprived and that can offer the lifestyle you are looking for. Go for it if that’s what you want

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midgetastic · 01/04/2024 12:18

Sone of those areas - national parks - will be a stretch financially

The very cheap areas, parts of County Durham for example are very poor with all the problems that can bring

The weather is a huge difference from east anglia , especially on the west

Getting the rural / urban balance is tricky - close enough to a doctors / pharmacy for example as when you are ill you will feel less like an hours drive

Making new friendships might be tricky if you have always lived in the same area it can be a shock how long it takes to build new friendships - years perhaos

Similar if you are used to being very urban - supermarkets , Ubers and delivery takeaways , specific gym classes, cinemas and such on the doorstep it could be a big change - really think through what you do on a day to day basis/ week to week basis that you take for granted because it's so normal

Keeping in contact with existing friends and family might be tricky - rural roads are fine for a holiday but regular driving can be exhausting and expensive

It's possible that you want to think if this is long term- would you make a different choice as you get older - or temporary

So lots to think about - chose wisely

LondonPleaseButJustForOneDay · 01/04/2024 12:16

If I could comfortably afford to relocate up to North Yorkshire I'd be up and gone within microseconds. Do it.

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

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