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To relocate up north

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StonwEd · 01/04/2024 12:08

From East Anglia? Has anyone done it? Am I mad?
I’ve just spent yet another lovely week in the Lake District, greater Manchester and Derbyshire. We do this often although not as often as I would like due to very low holiday allowance.
Daydreaming a bit but also not really.
Kids all moved out, own my house outright, prob will sell for around £375k.
Enjoy my job but it’s crap money and hasn’t really got prospects but it is a field I’m sure I can get another job in and I’ve seen plenty of remote working jobs that are related (and better paid 🙄)
Husband is on board with this fantasy, he has a small business so can work anywhere.
I had kids very young so have lived in my home town all my life. Never left but always wanted to.
I’m 45 and I’m finally thinking it might be time. Financially as long as I get a job, we’ll be fine, and I’m so poorly paid as it is, shop or bar work will be fine to start with.
I’ve got a fair bit of savings and I’m thinking of travelling round the north for a couple of months, stay in local b&bs and to know some areas better before we take the plunge. I’d have to quit my job obvs but it’s a risk I’m starting to think is worth it…

And most importantly, where should we be looking? Want nature on our doorstep, but easy access to a town.

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bossybloss · 01/04/2024 12:47

CatrionaCat · 01/04/2024 12:44

The whole of the north is poor, dirty, unwelcoming and just a horrible place to live full time, especially those places that seem lovely on a quick visit.

(Northerner here, fed up of southerners moving up and then complaining about sheep in the garden, the stench at muckspreading time "shouldn't be allowed!" etc.)

Thisss !!!!

bossybloss · 01/04/2024 12:46

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I think this is a reverse!! How can any say that the whole of THE NORTH is poor. Maybe like me, 🙃we want to keep the nice places for ourselves 😉

CatrionaCat · 01/04/2024 12:44

The whole of the north is poor, dirty, unwelcoming and just a horrible place to live full time, especially those places that seem lovely on a quick visit.

(Northerner here, fed up of southerners moving up and then complaining about sheep in the garden, the stench at muckspreading time "shouldn't be allowed!" etc.)

HowDoYouSolveAProblemLikeMyRear · 01/04/2024 12:43

I'm a southerner who loved living up north.

I found the North-east so much easier than the north-west because of the weather. Broadly, north is colder, south is warmer, west is wetter, east is drier. I was from the South-East and fine with the cold of the NE, or with the rain of the SW, but the combination of rain and cold in the NW is a challenge for me.

I am likely to have to live there one day and will be looking for somewhere which is so beautiful it still looks lovely in the rain! This is a big deal for me because I spend so much time outdoors. Twenty years ago my key-factor would have been about access to opera and ballet and galleries. You need to identify what matters to you, of course.

Quitting your job to explore the area seems risky though. It could take months for a purchase to go through, and for all that time you'd need to pay for your accomodation and for furniture to be in storage. You'd be in danger of burning through savings at an alarming rate.

I would do lots of investigating online, so that you can narrow down how many areas to explore. You can probably afford a much nicer lifestyle up there. You just need to be cautious when moving to a region you know little about - like anywhere else, there's good and bad.

Viewfrommyhouse · 01/04/2024 12:43

I'd be looking at N Yorks, somewhere around J48 of the A1, specifically. There are some gorgeous villages.

JustFrustrated · 01/04/2024 12:38

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Oh are they? The entire North is poor is it?

Femalefootyfan · 01/04/2024 12:34

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Dear oh dear, such ignorance 🙄

ElaineMBenes · 01/04/2024 12:34

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Lol 😂

Ridiculous

Dancingontheedge · 01/04/2024 12:34

Try it, you can always relocate again.
Just make sure you buy in a decent area where the resale value of your property remains high. There are fantastic areas and very poor areas, and where you buy will shape your experiences and enjoyment.
I moved north, stayed a decade and then moved south again. I still often holiday in the north, but I love where I live now.
Research thoroughly. And remember it doesn’t need to be an irrevocable decision.

Pinkdelight3 · 01/04/2024 12:34

Sheffield is a good starting point. Lots of threads on here about good areas. It's got lots going on in the city but easy to get to gorgeous countryside, and is a good base for both exploring the north and getting down south with relative ease.

LoreleiG · 01/04/2024 12:33

I would, in your position. Depends which area or town of course but so many great areas in the north and you sound due an adventure.

x2boys · 01/04/2024 12:33

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Yes the whole of the North is very very poor 🙄🙄

VerityUnreasonble · 01/04/2024 12:32

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/145092023#/?channel=RES_BUY - semi detached cottage in Leek, assuming you drive it's easy enough to get to Manchester, Staffordshire, Derbyshire (not even that far from South Yorkshire) nice town. Trains are a bit rubbish though.

twistyizzy · 01/04/2024 12:32

@StonwEd the North basically covers Nottingham up to Scotland. From Lancaster over to Whitby. Over half of the country.
Just saying "The North" doesn't really help..

DinaofCloud9 · 01/04/2024 12:32

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Don't be ridiculous. How ignorant.

Femalefootyfan · 01/04/2024 12:32

We moved North from the SE a few years ago and love it. We’re less than an hour from the coast, less than an hour from York, one of our favourite places, the North York Moors are perfectly doable as a day trip, as are The Pennines. We’re older than you OP, our DC no longer at home, we bought for far less than we sold our SE home for, so mortgage free.
It’s taken us a while to make friends (not helped by lockdown) but we’re getting there and as we’re both retired (early), we have plenty of time for hobbies and getting out and about.
We’re mortgage free thanks to buying a house for far less than we sold in the SE for.
There are some beautiful towns and villages so I think your idea of spending a fair amount of time looking around various areas is a great one. Sometimes we just have to follow our hearts, if we’re in a position to do so.

Walkthelakes · 01/04/2024 12:31

I grew up in Sheffield and loved being in a beautiful green city with easy access to the Peak District. Best of both! I have now moved to North Yorkshire and it really is so beautiful. I can be at York park and ride in 15 minutes but also at the beach, moors and dales within 45 minutes . Again it doesn’t feel like a huge compromise. This side of the Pennines is definitely not as wet if that is something that would bother you,

twistyizzy · 01/04/2024 12:30

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

God yes the whole of the North is grim and living in poverty 🙄

AuntyMabelandPippin · 01/04/2024 12:28

There's a lot more rain on the west side of the country, so add that into your location search.

I'd go to Northumberland if I could move, but my DC are all quite nearby and I see a lot of them, which I wouldn't if we moved away. I'm in the west and I get sick of the rain.

Bjorkdidit · 01/04/2024 12:27

Definitely do it. It's great up here, despite nonsense posted by a PP.

Many places in Yorkshire or Greater Manchester in particular can be quite rural, but be only half an hour from the centre of Leeds, York or Manchester, so big city amenities and opportunities.

I won't name specific areas, because the choices really are endless and your plan to spend a bit of time just touring around and seeing what you find is a great one.

AreYouShittingMe · 01/04/2024 12:27

North- east Derbyshire might for the bill OP. On the edge of the Peak District but near enough to Sheffield.
There areas of 'the north' which experience social deprivation but as is often pointed out, 'the north' is a huge area.

CommentNow · 01/04/2024 12:26

Maybe get a home working job and enjoy some holidays in a few places?

StonwEd · 01/04/2024 12:26

Vistada · 01/04/2024 12:24

"The North"

Lol, do you mean Burnley or do you mean Windermere - quite a variance.

Might shock you to know that you can't buy a house for three quid and a bag of chips as soon as you pass Watford gap

That’s the thing. We don’t know. We can go anywhere, within budget so a lot of places will be too expensive.
I know I can’t buy a house for 3 quid.

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floppybit · 01/04/2024 12:24

You could afford a great house in Manchester, Leeds or Sheffield and have easy access to surrounding national parks. Ignore the ridiculous negativity in the previous answers. You have enough money to live in a decent area, not a poor ex mining town!

Vistada · 01/04/2024 12:24

"The North"

Lol, do you mean Burnley or do you mean Windermere - quite a variance.

Might shock you to know that you can't buy a house for three quid and a bag of chips as soon as you pass Watford gap

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