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StonwEd · 01/04/2024 12:08

From East Anglia? Has anyone done it? Am I mad?
I’ve just spent yet another lovely week in the Lake District, greater Manchester and Derbyshire. We do this often although not as often as I would like due to very low holiday allowance.
Daydreaming a bit but also not really.
Kids all moved out, own my house outright, prob will sell for around £375k.
Enjoy my job but it’s crap money and hasn’t really got prospects but it is a field I’m sure I can get another job in and I’ve seen plenty of remote working jobs that are related (and better paid 🙄)
Husband is on board with this fantasy, he has a small business so can work anywhere.
I had kids very young so have lived in my home town all my life. Never left but always wanted to.
I’m 45 and I’m finally thinking it might be time. Financially as long as I get a job, we’ll be fine, and I’m so poorly paid as it is, shop or bar work will be fine to start with.
I’ve got a fair bit of savings and I’m thinking of travelling round the north for a couple of months, stay in local b&bs and to know some areas better before we take the plunge. I’d have to quit my job obvs but it’s a risk I’m starting to think is worth it…

And most importantly, where should we be looking? Want nature on our doorstep, but easy access to a town.

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twistyizzy · 01/04/2024 13:42

Willyoujustbequiet · 01/04/2024 13:41

Lol at Nottingham being considered north

Some of those areas aren't really the north OP but yanbu to want to head in that direction. It's a no brainer really.

I agree but for many Southeners Birmingham is North 🤣 For me The North starts at Leeds!

Willyoujustbequiet · 01/04/2024 13:41

twistyizzy · 01/04/2024 12:32

@StonwEd the North basically covers Nottingham up to Scotland. From Lancaster over to Whitby. Over half of the country.
Just saying "The North" doesn't really help..

Lol at Nottingham being considered north

Some of those areas aren't really the north OP but yanbu to want to head in that direction. It's a no brainer really.

twohotwaterbottles · 01/04/2024 13:40

I live in Yorkshire. There are some very pretty parts ( and it's certainly not all poor like another poster suggested) but if you like decent weather don't even consider moving north. I would move further south in a heartbeat just to escape the constant crap, wet and windy weather. My friend moved to Warwickshire and she says it's like living in a different country climate-wise.

StonwEd · 01/04/2024 13:38

Thanks for all the suggestions and things to think about!
still got another 3 and a bit hours in the car so will be googling and I love looking on Rightmove so will look at those links!

I just think if not now, when. I don’t want to die having never moved out of my home town.
just had lunch at Clumber Park National trust cafe, lovely place. Can’t even think how far I have to travel from home to get to somewhere like this!

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Katherineryan1986 · 01/04/2024 13:36

Oh and the Lake District (west side of the UK generally) is very wet, they get farm more rainfall than the rest of the UK

Katherineryan1986 · 01/04/2024 13:35

My relative moved to the Lake district, there are a lot of properties there that can only be bought by local people (not sure exactly what the criteria is), so just be aware of that.

Also, although your children have all moved out, think about whether you want to be near them in the future if they start families. We often thought about moving further north but now that we have grandchildren, we would not want to move away from them.

Mabelface · 01/04/2024 13:32

Glossop
New mills
Marple
Marple Bridge
Etc

All on the train line to Manchester

Floofydawg · 01/04/2024 13:23

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

Sweeping generalisation much. I live oop North. In a very rich suburb of my city.

CloverOrwell · 01/04/2024 13:22

It sounds like a good idea in your circumstances. I would recommend the North East - somewhere close to Morpeth maybe, which has good train links to the south and Scotland, and good access to Newcastle by road, bus and train. Surrounded by stunning countryside and close to the coast, with loads of amenities both in Morpeth and the surrounding towns, especially Cramlington.

AnxiousRabbit · 01/04/2024 13:20

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

What?

Minfilia · 01/04/2024 13:17

I live outside Sheffield in a rural area. I would say house prices here have become astronomical in recent years compared to how it used to be (but I guess it’s the same anywhere!)- but 375k would still buy you a pretty nice house here.

We have lots of lovely countryside walks on the doorstep which is great for us as we have a big dog.

There are of course lots of poor/high crime areas in the city - but not everywhere “up north” is like that 🙄 FWIW I prefer it here to Bristol which is where I used to live. And it’s cheaper!

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 01/04/2024 13:15

CatrionaCat · 01/04/2024 12:44

The whole of the north is poor, dirty, unwelcoming and just a horrible place to live full time, especially those places that seem lovely on a quick visit.

(Northerner here, fed up of southerners moving up and then complaining about sheep in the garden, the stench at muckspreading time "shouldn't be allowed!" etc.)

Be prepared @StonwEd for this attitude.
I’ve moved around a bit in the south to coastal areas and the dislike and bigotry for anyone who dares to move away from where they were born is sometimes quite breathtaking.

twistyizzy · 01/04/2024 13:14

BCBird · 01/04/2024 13:09

I'm.off nxt year. County Durham here I come

Welcome 😁 whereabouts in CD?

BCBird · 01/04/2024 13:09

I'm.off nxt year. County Durham here I come

Bjorkdidit · 01/04/2024 13:07

OP some suggested places to base yourself for a holiday/research trips:

Delph/Uppermill/Saddleworth - all nice villages on the NE edge of the Peak District with lots going on locally and about half an hour from Manchester city centre.

Saltaire - World Heritage site/model village about half an hour outside Leeds, also accessible to countryside and local galleries etc.

Malton - Market town on edge of NY Moors, about 30 mins outside York. Yorkshire coast also accessible.

I know people cited Burnley as A Place No-one Wants To Live In but there's some lovely villages and countryside in the area, one of the country's best spas (Woodland), and it's not that far from many Booths branches, the supermarket that makes Waitrose look like Tesco.

fieldsofbutterflies · 01/04/2024 13:07

We did it. Suffolk to Cumbria.

Best decision I ever made.

VerityUnreasonble · 01/04/2024 13:06

Some other random options (I have no real idea what you want in a house or area! I just like browsing right move)

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/143340449#/?channel=RES_BUY

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/145721780#/?channel=RES_BUY (House might be a bit big, New Mills is much more commutable by train if you need to work)

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/146035793#/?channel=RES_BUY

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/145694075#/?channel=RES_BUY

Or more to Sheffield side:

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/139002272#/?channel=RES_BUY

AllyCart · 01/04/2024 13:05

I would do it, OP.

We live in Yorkshire and love it - I was born Yorkshire but have lived in various countries.

We live on a lovely quiet country lane but we have multiple lovely villages a stone's throw away. We can walk to Cannon Hall Farm (Channel 5 'On the Farm') in less than 30 mins and on to the lovely village it's next to, but then also drive to the centre of Leeds in 30 mins, too. And 30 mins in the other direction you'd be in the Peak District.

But we can also walk out of the front door and straight onto public footpaths through woodland, hills and fields, you can walk for hours without seeing a soul if you want that, or to a lovely country pub or restaurants, etc.

The downsides are relatively poor/sporadic public transport, the winter can be harsh - our lane doesn't get snowploughed for example, and you really need winter tyres in your car. Oh and you'd need to drive to anything much more than a local farm shop to buy anything.

Gymmum82 · 01/04/2024 13:03

bossybloss · 01/04/2024 12:49

Where I live , we have lovely beaches, access to Wales and the Lake District, good schools … and three bed semi for £250,000. And no, not telling where I am 😉

Wirral

Rollawaythestone · 01/04/2024 12:58

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

To quote David Byrne in his song "Lazy" - "I'm lazy when I talk, I open up my mouth, Air comes rushin' out".

Pollyannamex · 01/04/2024 12:56

‘The north’ is a pretty big area isn’t it
and yes we are all poor and uncultured and you can buy a house for 10p

or something…

Glass113 · 01/04/2024 12:54

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 01/04/2024 12:11

I did, I wouldn't do it again if I had the chance. The areas up north are extremely poor.

What? The whole of the North? Behave.

Ilovewineitdoesntlovemeback · 01/04/2024 12:51

Op lives in East Anglia, not Monaco!

Sure she can cope with the change.

bossybloss · 01/04/2024 12:49

Where I live , we have lovely beaches, access to Wales and the Lake District, good schools … and three bed semi for £250,000. And no, not telling where I am 😉

Youdontknowmedoyou · 01/04/2024 12:48

That's our plan in three years time. Leave the flat fens and go north.
You only live once so do it. What's the worst that could happen?
Good luck.

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