To be annoyed at a nickname change at work?

Tried very hard when they were young to prevent people shortening my children’s names. It never worked. My own name is shortened or has ie added to it virtually at random. I’ve given up with all that now. I do still get upset when people pronounce my grandson’s name incorrectly because they can’t be bothered to listen to how it is pronounced. People are generally rude and ignorant but you can’t do very much about it I’m afraid.

Do not speak for all men. My Dad was David and hated Dave and Davie, found them both cringey.

Is it possible they think the ie sounds more formal?

The Deb/Debbie example from Deborah?

I get it though and if it bothers you make a casual comment about how you don't go by that.

I have people who shorten my name to the initial.

An example would be my name is Anabelle, I introduce myself as Anna, and they call me Annie.

I just correct them without making a fuss, or make a joke about how my name is already a nickname.

I came to say exactly this, @ArchesOfsunflowers.

Correct them every single solitary time.
And if they accuse you of being rude, remind them that no - it’s them who are being rude.
Then correct them again.

My partner has a name with a very common short version. He was named after his father, who was always called the short version. When people address him as Shortname he always says 'it's Longname'. Very clearly and definitively. I think it's the only way to do it.

People add the -ie sound to indicate warmth and affection. It's likely they do know what your actual nickname is but are adding the -ie to show familiarity. But if it's not you and you don't like it, gently correct them.

I have the opposite problem where my preferred name shortening ends in the -ie sound, but people at work keep giving me the one syllable version. e.g. If my name was Rosalie, and I went by Rosie, a lot of people want to call me Rose. I suspect because it sounds more professional to them.

I doubt they’d be renaming a 50 yr male called David ‘Davey’ or something so familiar!

I really don't think you could have come up with a worse example. David is almost universally changed to Dave or Davie, regardless of age or seniority. Men would not consider it to be infantalising. Maybe your nickname is so common that people don't consider it demeaning.

Is it Deb? If I was introduced to a Deb at work, I might feel it was too over familiar for me to use as a work colleague rather than a friend or family member and presume Debbie was better instead.

I usually find people shortened my name or use ie in an affectionate way.

For instance, in Liverpool people always shortened it, because they're being friendly. I quite like that.

I have a name that isn't commonly shortened, but can be - my family did.
If it ever happens in another context, people either get ignored, or glared at.
The only time someone persisted was a really arsey chief exec, it was a real power play for her, but even she got the message eventually.

@ArchesOfsunflowers just correct them. That’s not acceptable.

Incidentally, my friend of indian decent and I always use a convolution of our names when we go away to book restaurants etc I have an easy first name and she has an easy surname. So we usually combine them. Although we just used her name in Mauritius. Socially with people you’ll never meet again it matters, at work it does,

I also think it's really rude. Especially when you are their superior. Sounds too over familiar in a work environment. Would you feel comfortable sharing the name, perhaps there could be another reason they are shortening it?

Is it Lynn into Lynnie,my friend gets this,I use a shortened version of my name and quite a few people call me it twice in a sing song voice!!!

Out of interest, is it Ruth?

People who like me don’t do this to my name as it’s obviously unsuited to me. Think Jane/Janie - the ie is cutesy and very Not Me.

OP, it’s hard to do without sounding tetchy in my experience! But asking people to get it right is the only way. I had ask my own parents not to use the ie ending, I’ve hated it since I was a child and in my 20s I couldn’t put up with it any more. I felt mean but they stopped.

Very annoying.

Do you think that someone influential at work could be using that name for you and that's why people are catching on to it? Like someone is sending an email out that "Katie's coming to the office on Tuesday" or mentioning you in a meeting?

I usually say ‘I know too many Katys. I’m a Kate or a Katherine or I’ll think you are talking to someone else. Now what were you saying about the book club?’

@ArchesOfsunflowers I understand your reluctance, but I think it's about finding the words and using the right tone. Instead of "don't call me Katie" try "Sandra, I don't go by Katie, it's Kate". Then when she says Kate, thank her. And if she calls you Katie again, say it again.

@NearlyBritishSummertimeYay How awful that Rebecca's mum knows she doesn't like being called Becky but still does it. Just why would you do that?
It reminds me that my grandmother called my mum by her ugly middle name, which she hated. And it got shortened to a non-name which was even worse. Her father, siblings and my dad did it too. None of them seemed to care that she hated it, they just laughed. Later in her life she finally decided she'd had enough, and started introducing herself as her real name. She was so happy to hear people call her by her real first name.
I understand how you feel @ArchesOfsunflowers , it isn't just that they use a version of your name, it's a somewhat infantilising one. But I'm sure you can reverse this. If you make it clear enough, often enough, they will start to correct each other.