I hate our holiday and want to go home

You miss the countryside ? Go to the South Coast or New forest . How has it cost £4000 with no accommodation and car hire? I wouldn’t want to host you every year and drive you around if I was SIL . Under 5 s shooting and hunting sounds awful. . I would prefer them to make the most of all the opportunities in London , such as the Natural history museum .Hope you didn’t try and shoot any of the wildlife at Whipsnade .

I know that area well and I’m not surprised by your comments. If the weather is poor then there’s sweet nothing to do. It’s got worse since Covid. YANBU

When was the last time you lived in the UK? I honestly very rarely notice cigarette smoke (and I would notice it!). I work in London and commute from a very different kind of area, often visit other areas of the country too. It’s really not an issue at all these days in my experience.

Take back control and make yourself happy for the time you have left

Sorry, that sounds rubbish. Maybe you could stop visiting and ask her to emigrate to live where you live. My parents moved to be near me.

All you and posters like Op are doing is reinforcing stereotypes about Americans that they cannot accommodate and think USA is the best country.
You may not have cigarette smoke but your country is the 2nd biggest producer of pollution in the world, and 2nd only because they have outsourced a lot to China.

YABU - if it’s so expensive, why not pay for person to come visit you and include her in your activities? More fun for everyone.

I’d take cigarette smoke over school shootings, but I guess we all have different priorities 🤷🏻‍♀️

You have my sympathy, OP. I’m sure the cigarette smoke is crushing. It’s one reason I absolute LOVE living in USA. We don’t have to deal with that unless we really want to.

Plenty of camping options in the UK. I think you just need to make better plans

Can’t you rent a car? Sounds like you’re just unprepared for your trip tbh. You say you moved in 2014, do you have your own family and friends in the UK to visit too?

Its kind of what of make it, and it sounds like your making it awful for yourself. I don’t think you can blend anyone for this sorry

I was in a similar situation, although the distance involved wasn’t as far the visits were more frequent.
I do feel for you. It is horrible when you have a trip that you feel obliged to carry out and it is an expensive misery.
I agree with the comment ‘Take her to Scotland’ next time. That might be a good option.
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YANBU at all. Next time come to the UK for one week and only one week to visit Mil, visit Sil, then go back home or to some nice place in Europe. Or you could spend a few days in London, then a few days with Mil, then go back home. It's not your responsability she doesn't want to fly after all. I have a child living abroad and we're travelling very often - both ways.

Get day returns on the train down to the coast, or stay over there. Go to places locally on the bus so you are less restricted by sil's needs.
I'm sorry you're having a miserable time.

Op won't like Europe. Her idea of holiday is hunting, shooting in wildernesses, not architecture or culture. She prefers hunter, gatherer style of holidays

This is someone showing off that she now lives somewhere superior but only gets w weeks paid leave so is sulking like a child just stay at home next time.

Why don’t you plan days out or day trips to break it up a bit.

If they’re staying in a villa maybe they’d have space for you so might be worth checking just incase. Or staying in the same
hotel for a couple of nights but skipping Disney and just having pool days/evenings with them? I guess Maine is still a long way from Florida and they probably don’t have time for a detour with the cost of Disney tickets and school holidays and time off work etc
I agree Orlando heat is horrible in august though.

Jeez just fly granny to your place next year, surely.

I’d suggest a rental car. It’s easy to moan. Take control of this holiday or just don’t do it. Plus, It’s too expensive to play the victim.

Yup. And “nowhere to park” is bullshit. Cars do not have to be parked on drives.

I think perhaps have some you time back home next time and let hubby and kids come over.

Can’t wait to see ‘Entitled SIL visits from the states’. Always two sides.

Although one has to be careful walking across fields, have you seen how many people get killed by cows in this country, quite shocked me

Yes I had a scary cow experience. DS6 had run off away from me into Port Meadow and wouldn't come back. I cut across near some cows to catch him up. I was shouting and trying to help him find a path back without too many nettles when I felt a gentle nudge in my back and turned round to see a young bull standing right behind me who clearly did not welcome my presence.

I actually have no recollection of how we got out of that one.

Jesus, grow a backbone and rent a damn car. Say ‘we’ve planned to do this and will stay on for tea…’ it’s on you to plan-you knew what you were coming to-you can’t blame others.