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Did anything good happen to you in your forties?

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Sashamalia · 29/03/2024 23:36

To anyone over 40, I am not calling you old.

I just turned 40. And i feel sad.

I've bought into the marketing that women are over the hill at 40, and basically nothing good happens to us after that age.

I need to snap myself out of it

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Sashamalia · 29/03/2024 23:51

Bingowingo1 · 29/03/2024 23:44

'I've bought into the marketing that women are over the hill at 40, and basically nothing good happens to us after that age.'

What marketing? Literally nothing anywhere says this.

Really?. I think women are always being told through so many different mediums that they're only useful when they are young.

Several Men called me old when I turned 30!

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Mnetcurious · 29/03/2024 23:50

Teeheehee1579 · 29/03/2024 23:43

I am in my mid 40’s and a huge benefit has been for he first decade not giving any shits what people think of me!

Came here to say this! Love this about being in my 40s.

CultTimes · 29/03/2024 23:50

Lots.

Happy to be still here (sadly have friends who passed away before their forties).

Left a fundamental religion and enjoying freedom.

Children are older so have a lot more independence. And more fun things to do with them.

AnnieSnap · 29/03/2024 23:49

I loved my 40s. Old enough to have more confidence and often more disposable income, but young enough to still be fabulous. Aside from that (as if it wasn’t enough), I left my husband of 29-years at the age of 48 and actually met the man of my dreams 🙂

MumChp · 29/03/2024 23:48

I had our 3rd baby. Not planned but very welcomed.

Babyroobs · 29/03/2024 23:47

My forties was just a huge slog raising kids and working etc. Fifties have been slightly better so far !

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/03/2024 23:46

The reason 'they' tell you that is because older women aren't chasing male approval any more. We achieve more because we realise it's all bullshit and we are well on our way to our fuck-it fifties. It is liberating and fantastic. As long as you don't swallow the misogynist nonsense and try to chase youth rather than embrace wisdom and power.

Welcome to the best bit.

Rocknrolla21 · 29/03/2024 23:45

Why your forties and not any other decades? And meaningful things can happen in any decade. I guess the only thing to be sad about is if you wanted biological children and you haven’t had them yet.

Pixiesgirl · 29/03/2024 23:45

Nothing so far lol

Rainydayinlondon · 29/03/2024 23:44

You’re still young and glamorous in your 40s.

Bingowingo1 · 29/03/2024 23:44

'I've bought into the marketing that women are over the hill at 40, and basically nothing good happens to us after that age.'

What marketing? Literally nothing anywhere says this.

Teeheehee1579 · 29/03/2024 23:43

I am in my mid 40’s and a huge benefit has been for he first decade not giving any shits what people think of me!

MenoBabe · 29/03/2024 23:42

My mother is in her 90s so she had 50 years ahead in her 40s.

hazelnutfriday · 29/03/2024 23:41

Life gets better and better. As you get older you become more and more relaxed in being your self, and care less and less about conforming to anything else.

Being in my 40s was great. also periods stopped forever !! hooray!! love being free of the tyranny of monthly bleeds

40s was the best decade ever, until I experienced 50s!

Poppalina37 · 29/03/2024 23:41

The good thing.... I ended up with a surprise baby x

The bad thing.... her dad ☹️

Not where I thought I'd be.... but she brings me so much joy and she is adored by me and everyone around her xx I'm very proud xx but hoped that love for me would have been different.

stormywhethers321 · 29/03/2024 23:40

So far, I've bought my home, rescued a dog and got engaged.

MenoBabe · 29/03/2024 23:39

Sashamalia · 29/03/2024 23:36

To anyone over 40, I am not calling you old.

I just turned 40. And i feel sad.

I've bought into the marketing that women are over the hill at 40, and basically nothing good happens to us after that age.

I need to snap myself out of it

I adopted a baby, and got a new job. It was great. Loved my forties. And my fifties. Just about to start my sixties and feeling great about that too

theeyeofdoe · 29/03/2024 23:39

I don’t think there is any marketing that suggests that.

it’s the decade which women achieve the most.

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