Did anything good happen to you in your forties?

I got promoted, got a fully expensed company car and had a baby.

Late 40s- 50s have been the best time of my life so far.

No dependent children, financially stable, very happy careerwise, confidence through the roof.

I'm 44, "well preserved", (no kids, no work, really) and I'm still waiting for something "nice".
😁

Not getting/ seeking about validation from men is so liberating, I wish I had learned this decades ago!

in my 40s (so far) I have ran a marathon, did my first triathlon, met my girlfriend, competed internationally in my sport, changed jobs so I no longer work weekends... It hasn't all been great but as long as I don't spend too long looking in the mirror/ at photos I can forget my slowly collapsing face 😅

Yes, I started a business which now employs 30 people. I've written a book and we will probably pay off our mortgage now. The only barrier to achieving things in your 40s is your own mind. Fuck what the media tells you, I am not going to be scuttling away to hide myself in a darkened room just because I am in my 40s. Find your inner phoenix and rise.

I've had 2 mega promotions in my 40s.
Been appointed to a board.
Travelled a lot and can now afford to travel well
Had a lot of fun
Enjoyed my children growing up

Love ❤️ your post,@kkloo

You've nailed it on the head,

This is what i think of misogynistic arseholes attitudes🙄 about us women being over a certain age,
in symbolic forms

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Had a baby, retrained into a new career and doing well, did some amazing holidays with dh and kids (who are great company as they're getting older), some fab trips and times with friends and family, still working on getting fit and healthier
Just generally appreciating the wonderful things the world has to offer us.

Left the nhs after many years and started a career in academia.
joined a gym, lost weight, made really good friends

I am rubbish at both but very "enthusiastic" 😂

My 30s have been pretty rough so I feel like my 40s have to be better!

Yes, I finally grew into myself, found my sense of style and really enjoyed developing the friendships that began at the school gates into real lifelong friendships. It was a great decade for me.

I am the wrong side of 55. My 40s were brilliant. I got fit and participated in many running races and triathlons. I was slimmer, fitter and happier than I was in my 20s and 30s. I think it was the combination of more confidence, good health, a tiny bit of spare cash and children past the baby stage.

Make some plans, OP!

Got married to second DH, had a baby. Went out with DH work colleagues,was asked if this was my first!! One of his friends replied they would be very surprised when they hear how old my other DKs are,oldest DD was 20. Easiest pregnancy and birth. Was very fit and healthy. Became a GM the following year at 42. Got married. Became mortgage free,by buying a small unmodernised cottage.

I've recently got a new and much more fulfilling job and am no longer the part timer stuck in a job I hated and doing all the chores at home on my day off. I work way harder now but I am being paid for it and I feel much happier. We've also had some epic holidays as the kids are older and able to travel further.

When I was in my 30s an older friend told me that women just get better and better once they hit 40. I think it's true. It's all the not giving a fuck, we get stronger and wiser and know ourselves more.

Patriarchy likes to give the message that we're over the hill, useless, out of touch. Because they're scared of us.

This is more of a frame of mind issue because many of us watch the same ads, films etc and don't feel the same as you.

Yes Hollywood actresses say that but it's also true that a lot of male actors age out at that age! There's loads of male actors I haven't seen in anything since their 30s!

Downhill you say @Towerofsong ? Speak for yourself! 53 and going strong here!

Moved back to my home country, made new friends, bought and renovated a house, retrained and started a new career, got fit, did some time as a special constable, travelled, had a great social life, got back into motorbikes, learned to do target-shooting, had a couple of lovely relationships. Enjoy your 40's, it's really a fabulous time.

50's is when it starts to go downhill a bit....

My 40s feel peaceful. I’ve come to terms with not being able to have children which I spent many years in my 30s fixating on, which was devastating at the time. I’m embracing life as it is now, it’s different to what I’d expected, and feels like a new start. I’ve been giving myself a lot of love. Enjoying simple joys, going for walks, eating well, having the freedom to see friends, exercise, travel etc. Worrying less about comparison and distancing myself from relationships that’s don’t serve me so well. I feel more connected to myself and I hope that continues as I get older.

So far, I've got a great new job and paid off my mortgage 🙂.

Yes! I became mortgage free, moved somewhere amazing after my DC left home, met fabulous new people and am now 52, happy and am hoping my 50s and 60s will be as great as my 40s.

Some things were good I suppose but I struggled as much in my 40s as I did in my 30s.
I changed career but it turns out I don't really like my new career either.
I travelled a fair bit but I'm tired of that now.
I was hoping that a few questions would get answered in my 40s but they were not.
I never turned the corner that I had hoped I would.
Some things just never come unstuck, I suppose.

Bloody loving my 40s, best decade yet.
Work: decent payrise and got a company car. Flexible WFH in low stress job.
Marriage: sex life is spicier and more fun.
Kids: older and more self sufficient and love hanging out with them.
Home: bought bigger home and have money to do it up.
Me: I have more money and time and enjoy pampering myself. I'm 2st down and I have time to go the gym, to prepare good food and money for treating myself. My maintenance upkeep is more expensive to cover the greys, botox etc but I enjoy the beauty stuff, hairdressers, nails, waxing and regular massages and facials.

I've always have IDGAF attitude to what others think so that hasn't changed. I stress less and just get on with stuff.

Got divorced (a good thing), met DH, got remarried, had DS. Forties were fantastic