I believe I'm in an abusive relationship. How.do.i prove it?. I'm not even sure if it's me anymore. An example is he works shifts and won't tell me his rota as he says I'm controlling in asking . We have a child together and I don't work if that makes any difference. Tonight he's shouted at our child and really frightened me he then started having a go at me about our child in front of then. He claims I gaslight him and I'm honestly unsure if it's me