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Cheeky Fckers

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thisisasurvivor · 29/03/2024 20:43

I had a work trip on mon and Tue

Tue was a 12 hour day and was up since 4 working

My friend text at 9.30pm to let me know she needed to drop her soon uo at 8am
The next fcking day to be looked after

I text back that I was not even home yet

She didn't respond

7.40am next day knock on door
She dropped her son off

I was so angry/tired/ bewildered to go bat shit

SHE DIDNT TEXT AFTER TO EVEN SAY SORRY OR TO THANK me

I'm so done with letting this shit happen

Sorry I just need to vent

Next time she asks I need a firm response

No doesn't seem to work as she has been known to come up anyway and say she has no one

I'm a single parent and I work from home

She has dropped her kids to me many times while I work from home

Fcking cheek

She has many sister in laws who can step in wt f is she still as this utter shit

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:57

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/04/2024 11:49

Your sister needs to drop them off at this brunch and tell CF it won't happen again. Those poor kids.

She has no way to take them there and I'm working

She text CF but no response

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dapsnotplimsolls · 13/04/2024 11:49

Your sister needs to drop them off at this brunch and tell CF it won't happen again. Those poor kids.

Testina · 13/04/2024 11:45

thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:40

Lol

Erm ok

Well she is
This was a cf request

Large garage at her house as it is lashing rain

Ffs

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Look, you’re the one presenting the dogs in garage as an issue. If it’s not a problem for the dogs, why mention it?

3luckystars · 13/04/2024 11:44

I see this all the time, people do bad things to you but when they do them to someone you love, like your children or you sister, you see them for what the are (bad) and you get furious.

What an absolute wagon to dump her children off on your sister like that. Not surprised you are furious, but be furious for yourself too! You deserve better too.

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:41

3luckystars · 13/04/2024 11:36

Sorry I came across badly, I was actually standing up for your sister! Of course she is not stupid, she is a doctor so obviously highly intelligent! She won’t be long getting rid of this leech now either I hope.
This CF is just going to move on to the next person, and it could be anyone.
your poor sister

Sorry yes I agree

Got you

Really pissed me off today

Silly mare
And so entitled

(My sisters dogs wouldn't hurt a fly
Cf kids not used to dogs )

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:40

Testina · 13/04/2024 11:39

And they don't like dogs so dogs had to be locked up in the garage
Fck sake !!!!!!!

Your sister doesn’t sound l like a responsible dog owner.

Lol

Erm ok

Well she is
This was a cf request

Large garage at her house as it is lashing rain

Ffs

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Testina · 13/04/2024 11:39

And they don't like dogs so dogs had to be locked up in the garage
Fck sake !!!!!!!

Your sister doesn’t sound l like a responsible dog owner.

3luckystars · 13/04/2024 11:36

Sorry I came across badly, I was actually standing up for your sister! Of course she is not stupid, she is a doctor so obviously highly intelligent! She won’t be long getting rid of this leech now either I hope.
This CF is just going to move on to the next person, and it could be anyone.
your poor sister

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:24

@AhNowTed

Hit
Nail
Right
On the head

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:23

rainbowstardrops · 13/04/2024 11:12

If you know where CF is having brunch then your sister definitely needs to go and drop them off.
In future she needs to say no, every single time! Not an hour. Not half an hour. Just a big fat NO!

Exactly

And the posters who said I took the easy option when I said I was not allowed kids at home while wfh were right

I should have said
Why are your kids my responsibility
I'm busting my guts to pay my debt off by end of this summer
I'm not available for her
And when she drops to my sister it sometimes impacts on me as I have to step in to help with some pick ups and drop offs for her kids
She has a teeny car and not enough car seats

Why have so many kids when you palm them off
Her father is right to book long trips away each summer otherwise she lands up early to his door with the kids

Fck that

I'm not her slave now
Just fuming today

And thanks all there was so many great ideas on here

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Pipsquiggle · 13/04/2024 11:21

God this is so infuriating

If I was your sister, I would go to where CF was having brunch and drop her DC off

Also I would say to the group that it was agreed that I would watch your DC for 1 hour and that I am a DR who has been on nights all week and I need my downtime which is more important than a brunch.

Basically I would publically shame her - not in a hysterical way; a calm, deliberate way so that CF would know in no uncertain terms that she was a fucking bitch and don't pull this shit again.

AhNowTed · 13/04/2024 11:21

AhNowTed · 30/03/2024 16:02

OP she will move easily to the next mug, and rinse them until they've also had enough.

I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

She's a master user.

What did I tell you.

rainbowstardrops · 13/04/2024 11:12

If you know where CF is having brunch then your sister definitely needs to go and drop them off.
In future she needs to say no, every single time! Not an hour. Not half an hour. Just a big fat NO!

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:04

CF knew she was on nights too

Doesn't care less

That's good too my sister needs to provide from 8 to 3pm

And they don't like dogs so dogs had to be locked up in the garage
Fck sake !!!!!!!

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 11:03

AuntieDolly · 13/04/2024 10:52

Tell her to come and get them now or you're calling the police and social services. I can't believe the cheek of her!

I did suggest that
No reply From sister

She did not think this would happen today

She is not a total walkover tries to help others

I paid for childcare today I would not dream to send mine up to her after she had such a heavy week

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AuntieDolly · 13/04/2024 10:52

Tell her to come and get them now or you're calling the police and social services. I can't believe the cheek of her!

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 10:51

Testina · 13/04/2024 10:42

So you watch your sister’s kids for an hour whilst she takes Brass Neck woman’s kids to the brunch. Drop and go.

I'm working this morning

Paid my childminder

I would 100 per cent do this otherwise

Fck her she has messed this up so bad

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Inertia · 13/04/2024 10:50

Can you tell where the brunch is? I would offer to have your sister’s kids while she takes CF kids to the brunch.

Testina · 13/04/2024 10:45

What bullshit reason did she give for needing to drop them off for an “hour” at 08:00 on a Saturday anyway?
I honestly would call her and say - you come back for them now or they’re in their way to your brunch.

Saintmariesleuth · 13/04/2024 10:42

Defintely stay on your guard. There is a real danger of CF trying to wheedle her way back in with you, as shown with the gift.

Unfortunately your sister will need to learn this lesson herself

Testina · 13/04/2024 10:42

So you watch your sister’s kids for an hour whilst she takes Brass Neck woman’s kids to the brunch. Drop and go.

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 10:39

Saintmariesleuth · 13/04/2024 10:37

OP, please do not get involved. If you go and bail your sister out, you'll both be at square one with CF.
You've warned your sister. Hopefully this situation will help her put her foot down next time

I hope so
I really do

Lessons learned the hard way

Her gift hasn't won me over

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Saintmariesleuth · 13/04/2024 10:37

OP, please do not get involved. If you go and bail your sister out, you'll both be at square one with CF.
You've warned your sister. Hopefully this situation will help her put her foot down next time

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thisisasurvivor · 13/04/2024 10:35

She has been warned about the shit she pulled on me

Shame she did not have an excuse for today
She text to say
I can't get back to you until 3pm
My sister called her and no answer

Her kids have a party to go to at 2pm and she has a tiny car so how will she drop them off no Fck sake !!!!

Neck of her

She has gone for brunch it appears (tagged on an Instragram story ) 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

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LunaNorth · 13/04/2024 10:31

Presumably OP and her sister were brought up in the same family.

People-pleasing can be baked in. It’s not a sign of low intelligence.

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