Cheeky Fckers

Once you get the msg across loud and clear you won't see her for dust... wouldn't be a bad thing 100% user.

Don't say no more slots, it sounds like your a childminding service!
Text today to say 'due to workload you are now unable to take her kid. Things are just too hectic right now, as I'm sure you understand.'
To keep it friendly you could add 'Let's go for a drink one evening when we are less busy without the kids to catch up.'

This!

That’s not a no, OP. That’s just side information to a cheeky fucker.

You need to clearly communicate that this doesn’t work and is not possible for you.
Tell your friend she needs to find a new arrangement for childcare. You WORK during the day. This is not compatible with your working life. You need to be clear so that she doesn’t bring her DC around at all. Her childcare is NOT your problem.
It is in your hands.

You’re being used. What an awful woman.

Fuck her off, you’ll feel fantastic afterwards.

OP I apologise in advance if this sounds harsh. But grow a backbone and just say No.
You seem to be someone who uses 5 sentences when 1 word will do. If you don't clearly state No when she asks but just detail your itinerary then you are leaving your friend open to take advantage.
A firm No on the day and now a text saying you won't be providing childcare in future, block number, end of. Job done.

"Here is the message I have wanted to send for ages but didnt know how to.

DO NOT expect me to look after any of your kids anymore. DO NOT railroad me and think that you leave me with no choice. I WILL NOT answer the door and what happens to your child/ren after that is on you, not me. Pay for childcare you fucking cheapskate. And in case you think that you can make me change my mind, you can't. You will be blocked the second after I hit send. Have a nice life"

Tell her you can't provide unpaid childcare anymore. I bet you're one on the long list of people she takes advantage of. Tight arses can pay for their own childcare! Like another poster says, if she dares to drop her child off unannounced again, call the police.

Actually that's odd, I was going to say that I'd feel so annoyed at having a child on my doorstep when I was working/shattered/stressed that I would have been tempted to do this!

She is NOT your friend, she is a user- end of.

I would not dream of treating my friends this way.
People will continue to treat you as you allow them to. Either tell her that this friendship is too one sided and you are not providing child care any more, or if you can't say it to her face, then email her.

If you can't face doing that, then delete and block and don't answer the door to her.

But you will probably feel a lot better if you can text her and say that's it, you are done with being used, real friends don't do this so please do not contact me again.

There is nothing like standing up for yourself to make you feel better.

Your 'friend' is not your friend - she is taking advantage of you but you are letting her. I see a lot of people on here posting about how annoyed or upset they are about something but doing nothing at the time. Next time she asks/ suggests you say no - I am working from home - working and do not want to look after your child - arrange childcare with a child care provider - I am not available or willing to do it. If she comes up with any bs about popcorn - you just reply - I said no. I am not available. I will not even be opening my door. You might find she self selects her way out of your life - which will be no great loss.

Ask her to cough up the money for her son's summer club. Any decent friend would have immediately reimbursed you. In the nicest possible way she is no friend. Friends don't treat each other this way. She is using you and will probably drop you when her youngest no longer needs childcare. For what its worth, I couldn't even get paid childcare at short notice for a sick child because nobody wants to look after a possibly infectious child.

Just tell her that you can't and won't be doing any childcare for her ever again and you don't care about whatever emergency she might think she has. Ask for the money she owes you first though. She obviously has the skin of a rhinoceros so you don't have to be subtle about telling her - you have to be firm and utterly clear. Do it by email and follow up with a call or test or whatever you normally do. Don't answer the door and if she dumps the child and runs, call her and tell her you will calling the authorities if he's not picked up within the hour. You can show the police the email.

Just tell her that was the last time that's happening so if you value our friendship then you'll know not to ask/ assume again.

I am not sure why you are so angry with her when you haven’t told her not to drop him off. Explaining your travel itenary was completely unnecessary if you didn’t add that because of it you cannot look after her child. You thought it is implied, in her mind you were just telling her where you are.
same with money she owes - you are in debt but have you clearly asked her to return your money. Here is my bank account details - could you please transfer x amount I paid for the club for your son.

Please be strong and text and tell her that’s you are annoyed that she sent her son to you without your agreement. That you are no longer prepared to be her unpaid babysitter and she needs to make other arrangements in the future. And stick to it. This woman is not a friend. She’s a user.

Op. Please message her and let her know that you are unable to help in the future. Do it now. She's taking you for a ride.

She really is a CFer. Either block her or tell her. Otherwise she'll expect you to have the dc again next week.

I think this is going to cost you the friendship but it will be worth it. She is completely using you.

I agree with the previous poster who said you should write to tell her you were really angry with her about her dumping the child on you. I think you should write to say that you're not going to look after her children anymore. She's taking the piss and doesn't reciprocate

Block and don't answer the door.

But will obviously not get that back now

Have you actually asked for it back? Because you text about the tarmac was not clear.

It's your own fault.

1. You didn't say no

2 you let them in

How old are the kids?

So apart from all that, she’s a great friend?