Botox, frozen faces and big lips

Yes!!!!! I now have to take thyroid meds too as my hair got really dry and thyroid underactive. Never had that issue in my 20s. Ageing is shit.

Great post Blossomtoes 👏👏👏

It is hard sometimes to age, especially if your body fails you in some way through illness, but my own personal opinion is that, if you haven’t as an older woman, say around the mid-fifties, developed enough backbone, character and confidence in yourself to resist injecting your face with a load of chemicals, then you need to work on those internal things rather than the external face you present to the world.

I know some people will argue that having external procedures done helps with that process and each to their own, but the more individuals succumb, the more it becomes the expected “norm” for everyone.

Those arguments aside, I just don’t think it looks good. The big lips and the emotionless faces I mean. I like quirky characterful faces. And wrinkles!

I think it can look really good the first few times and then it just spirals badly

I’m not! I said you can’t win with aging!

Well it’s scary for everyone in my generation - I’m between millennial and gen z. We often discuss how afraid we are and what treatments/serums etc we are using to prevent aging! Maybe it is society now. Studies like the ones showing how men are only attracted to youth certainly aren’t helpful. I feel expired already.

However, both my mum and MIL in their sixties saying they don’t recognise the “ugly old lady” in the mirror and how “horrible” aging is. So it can’t be solely generational.

No offence meant to Rod Stewart

Yep ...Hair texture changing and looking more like Rod Stewart's everyday 🤦

Nah...ageing is a bit shit really

I agree. Since being in peri menopause I've been finding it a bit shit to age tbh. Flooding periods, moods all over the place, anxiety, sweating more etc Sure it may be normal but there are many aspects to ageing which are not very pleasant and I dont think most people enjoy the physical aspects of ageing at all.

Nah...ageing is a bit shit really

aging is scary for most!

I disagree. Most people find it a perfectly normal part of life’s journey. If it scares anyone we need to address that as a society because it’s inherently unhealthy.

This isn’t about individual women’s choices about doing whatever they like to their faces. It’s about a society that makes women feel the need to obliterate every sign of age as if ageing is shameful. A society that’s made youth a deity at whose altar we feel obliged to worship.

It’s about women becoming invisible as they get older, all the derogatory terms applied to women all prefaced by “old”. Old bag, old trout.

Every woman in the public eye is pressurised to fight back the years and that trickles down to the rest of us. How many women would make the choice to have stuff injected into her face if society wasn’t telling her age is ugly?

Challenging someone who has decided its an issue I don't look " better" is not obtuse.
You are pushing an impossible standard.

I don't want to look better

“heaven knows I need help with my lines…”

So you know why people do it then?
I can honestly say I have never thought that I need “help” with my natural face.

Personally I think very overweight/ underweight people and those who are overdoing the procedures are symptomatic of MH issues in the absence of illness etc
I don't feel disgust just empathy that their vulnerability shows in this way.
Saying these things are no ones business is in some way true but when we have women talking about being unable to house or buy food for their children but they have nails, eyebrows,filler, lips and hair extensions we are moving into exploitation.

I think the point is that as a younger person you didn’t look startled and with puffy lips and a square jaw. But each to their own.

You are being deliberately obtuse.

That’s great for you if you don’t compare yourself to your younger self or desire to look more beautiful but many women do and if they want to have treatments to make them feel better about themselves it shouldn’t be judged! You can’t blame society for the way every person feels about themselves, aging is scary for most!

I don’t like fillers as they make faces square and manly.

Tbf, this happens, a lot here.
Fatphobia is really rife on MN (and everywhere).
You wouldn’t get ’slaughtered’ at all, that’s silly.

Sometimes on my Instagram for you page, people “Yassify” pictures of Liz Taylor, Grace Kelly, Marilyn Monroe and they look TERRIBLE - like Kardashian clones.

What’s more alarming is sometimes I can tell when people have put the filter on say, a picture of Gwyneth Paltrow in the 90s and loads of people DO NOT realise it’s a filter?! What can that be doing to young impressionable minds?

I find it hard to look at someone with enhanced lips when I'm talking to them (often serving staff).
It seems body dysmorphia is no longer questioned/ looked at which is dangerous

Completely unnecessary for her to be compared

That's the point though.
Why are you asking me if I look better?
Who has decided this is the standard
I look like me
Better doesn't come into it

There’s a Tik Tokker whose lips are so big and bumpy they literally look like a baboons arse. They look painful!

Maybe it's generational thing- I'm 62 and think they all look like they are in pantomime - not a good look

Do you feel the same about MIL threads or parking threads?

Why on a BH morning? 🤣🤣

I’m at the menopausal age. Not only does the nose get longer but ears keep growing don’t they! Why does this happen? Can’t wait for my extra long lobes to reach my chin!

@BIossomtoes saying you don't like it is one thing but saying it needs to be stopped is another.