Broken beyond belief

I think that having time off when you're feeling so awful is very sensible, OP.

I would definitely call your phone provider and ask if they’ll consider cancelling the contract for a fee or reissue a new sim. You’re doing so well.

RTFT

HE SPAT AT YOU??!!

That would be enough for me to leave him, let alone all the other shit!

Kick him out- he's pointless, selfish, abusive - what do you need him for?

I think your idea about the phone is perfect. Call it in as lost, get a new one and see if a new number could be assigned to it. Yes, it would cost a bit monthly, but he wouldn't have a phone paid by you.

As a slight aside, I learned a very very hard lesson around money and families and wills.

It sounds like a load of nonsense. Any reputable person can sign eg. neighbour.

As you say, not your issue but it seems funny its crawled out of the woodwork now.

As far as the phone goes, I was paying a long term contract for a long ago abusive ex. I was on the hook for many more months, so I called them, asked to speak to someone higher up and got off with paying only 3 further months of charges. They were very understanding, so please do try this approach. Oh, and crying and sniffling down the phone definitely helped xx

Hi @StuckHurtDone, read your thread and just wanted to say that it is heartening that you have started to take charge of your life again and want to wish you the wonderful future that you deserve. What you have done takes courage, you will absolutely be happier, more positive and attract the person who is right for you. You are growing wings that will one day enable to fly!

Makes perfect sense. Naturally he doesn't want to hear any 'truth telling' from you (or anyone).

But as far as 'winding him up' who the fuck cares if he's wound up? He's gone and you never have to see him again. If he gets pissed off about you dumping his crap on his mum's doorstep or cutting off his phone, who really cares? I think you should think seriously about taking either of these as 'one step'. Because one step leads to another.

And what's this about signing his mum's will? Since when does anyone other than the person making the will and 2 witnesses have to sign a will. And if he's a beneficiary of her estate he can't sign as witness. And TBH, for those of us who've had parents/loved ones who have made wills and estate plans, even if it's because they are ill, it's actually a bit relief to know they're putting their wishes in writing for those of us who will be left behind. He's full of shit and bullshit on that. As if he has enough 'good' emotion to care about his mother's death anyway. And if he's wormed his way back into her good graces, that's really nothing to you. And it's even more of a reason to send his shit to her house. I really wish I was your IRL friend. I'd bag his shit up and drop it at his mum's so fast it'd make your head swim. Ms BossyPants, me.

So you can't have the service suspended on his phone? I don't know how UK contracts go. Is this a 'shared plan' (2 phones/1 contract under your name) or is his phone a stand alone contract that's in your name? I'm not sure what is meant by a 'sim only' contract. Does that mean the contract is only for a physical sim card and you buy the phone separately? Is this phone a smart phone? Do you have electronic access and could you shut down and wipe the phone from a laptop? I know I can do this for my iPhone if it gets stolen, it wipes all information, resets to factory, then locks it and shuts it down permanently. It becomes a useless brick.

But why haven't you blocked him? You know there is nothing good can come from actually talking to him.

BTW, have you changed your locks yet?

Im guessing the Mum must be mid 60's?

he sent me a message yesterday evening saying he doesn’t need any shit off me as he’s just been signing his mums will

i have woken up to a picture message of his mum asleep in the chair

He’s a manipulative piece of shit isn’t he?

These messages are clearly designed to garner sympathy from you IMO - ie “my poor old ma is going to die soon and you’re being mean”!

Put his stuff outside and block him OP - seriously - enough now - be done once and for all and get this toxic degenerate out of your life, you don’t need to drag it out.

Anybody can sign a will. My neighbour asked me to do theirs. It sounds a very damaged relationship.

Maybe send him one last message
”Ok thanks for letting me know you don’t want your things back. I’m bagging it all up today. I’ll leave it on the front porch tomorrow morning between 10-12 if you change your mind and do want to collect it. Otherwise I’ll drop it all at a local charity shop after 12pm.”

And then you have covered yourself legally. You gave him an option to collect it and up to him if he does if not.

Then you can block him, and never see or hear from him ever again! It’s over.

And I hope his mum sees sense and cuts him out the will. He’ll just blow it on booze and weed. His poor mum being treated like this in the end of her life 😭

So he's not " done anything to himself". I wouldn't wish harm on another human being but enough is enough now.

Agree, here is your window. Please there must be somebody who would lend a hand here locally?

Agree - report the sim card stolen to the provider (not a lie - you are paying for it and your ex has it) and ask them to block it. Then have them send a replacement to your house. Then just continue paying the £10 a month until it runs out, but don’t use it. See the £10 a month as a great price for getting the scumbag out of your life. The bonus is that you will also have no knowledge of his new number when he gets one. He’s told you in writing that he doesn’t want his things back, so keep a record of that, then put all his stuff in black bin bags and throw them in the bin. Unless anything is valuable and you can sell it on Vinted! X

It’s your SIm get them to cancel it and send it to you and tell them it’s been stolen - end of.

This is your window to get rid of this troubled man once and for all, he is not homeless for now. Send his stuff to his mom befor she will kick him out again, then detach detach detach.
Otherwise he will guilt trip you and crawl back again before you know it.