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For DH to insist on vaginal birth not ceasarean

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Anguish · 27/03/2024 12:57

Asking for a friend. Why would he care either way? She has a low pain tolerance and doesn't want to experience the most painful thing that can happen to a woman.

EDIT: He's absolutely lovely and basically a perfect partner in every conceivable way, which is why it's slightly out of character.

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PoochiesPinkEars · 27/03/2024 13:01

I don't think any woman should be put under pressure to have birth in a way that is not if her choosing. It's a shitty way to start your experience of motherhood, immediately stripped of her own agency.
Stamping his mark on their joint parenting approach somewhat isn't he.

CheeseSandwichRiskAssessment · 27/03/2024 13:01

Lol. He can get fucked.

PurplePanda1 · 27/03/2024 13:00

Not his business. Why is your friend letting her DH influence her decision? Not even influence but “insist”?

StripeyDeckchair · 27/03/2024 13:00

When he gives birth he can make whatever choices he likes otherwise he needs to STFU & be eternally grateful that someone is willing to have a child with him & put their body through that.

Tosser.

Wibblywobblylikejelly · 27/03/2024 13:00

He can decide on any pregnancy and labour that he has.

Otherwise he can fuck off

Keep that friend very close and watch carefully. A man like that is a red flag. Could be he's just a dick. But could be a lot more.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/03/2024 13:00

Yes - no uterus, no opinion.

He can 'insist' all he wants - if he tried it with me, he'd be 'insisting' his way right out of the relationship.

Rickrolypoly · 27/03/2024 13:00

Insist??? Or what?

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 27/03/2024 13:00

Her birth her choice, however a c-section is not pain free by any means. You have major abdominal surgery that takes weeks/ months to recover and is painful for far longer (not as intense).

EspressoMacchiato · 27/03/2024 12:59

No uterus, no opinion

Mallani · 27/03/2024 12:58

If he's the one giving birth he gets to choose. Otherwise, it's 100% up to her.

DanaBarrett · 27/03/2024 12:58

Her vagina, her business.