For DH to insist on vaginal birth not ceasarean

I think this is a spam post initialised to wind people up. And it worked.

Has your husband given birth yet OP? Did it hurt? Tell him it won't be so bad next time.

I really don’t think we should be vindicating one type of birth over the other or presenting our horror stories or good experiences as evidence for someone else.

Every woman and pregnancy is different. The only evidence and opinion any woman should be paying attention to is that given by her doctor who has a full awareness of her medical history and risk profile.

*thebestinterest · 31/03/2024 18:28

Because choosing major surgery as a way to deliver a healthy baby, when you are perfectly capable to birth naturally, is bonkers! If it were a cake walk, then why do we have so many women complaining of the difficulties post csections? Don’t pretend like it’s not major trauma! Csections should be kept for what they were initially Intended for: life saving procedures*

What happens if you aren’t perfectly capable of giving birth
I certainly can’t (tilted pelvis)
My EMCS and planned CS didn’t feel like major trauma. Infact I hosted a barbecue on the day I got out of hospital and was driving 10 days later after my planned CS. I didn’t even need pain killers

Those women in my NCT group who suffered trauma and damage because of the birth were the women who didn’t have a EMCS or planned CS

The only non traumatic part of labour and birth for me!

@thebestinterest My sections weren't traumatic at all... they were brilliant. Vaginal birth would have been VERY traumatic for me. Being pregnant knowing that was coming would have been traumatic.
As it is, I had very chilled pregnancies and calm sections and great recoveries. No after effects. THE BEST decisions I ever made.

😂

Bog roll? Pah. Just use leaves like Nature intended.

You don't even sound like you could be trusted to give an opinion on what bog roll to buy.

Yep, my c-section was great. Absolutely the best decision for me and DC.

C section certainly wasn't "major trauma" for me. It was a wonderful experience, uncomplicated and very non-traumatic in every way. Of course it can be traumatic. And so can vaginal birth.

@thebestinterest probably best not to describe other people's reproductive health choices as "bonkers" really.

My thoughts exactly.

That sentence should probably read “…. basically a perfect partner in every conceivable way in front of other people”.

Your inability to empathise with and understand another woman's informed consent to a procedure does not constitute a valid argument against it.

Elective c-sections are available on the NHS as per clinical guidelines. Women have a right to choose. You don't have to understand their choice. The only people who need to understand are the woman making the choice and the consultant ensuring she's making an informed choice.

Because usually women are talking about emergency c-sections in that case, not elective c-sections. Plenty of women would also say that their vaginal birth wasn't a cake walk either.

It should be a woman's choice because it is her body.

The baby isn't coming out of him,op he should respect your choices end of discussion.as long as your ok and baby is healthy that's surely the main thing.

Because choosing major surgery as a way to deliver a healthy baby, when you are perfectly capable to birth naturally, is bonkers! If it were a cake walk, then why do we have so many women complaining of the difficulties post csections? Don’t pretend like it’s not major trauma! Csections should be kept for what they were initially Intended for: life saving procedures.

And severely lacking in empathy

Completely! It doenst take a genius to know how hard birth is for a lot of women. No way would my husband do that!

I've had 2x HG pregnancies and an IUGR baby thanks to a marginal cord insertion. My body clearly didn't have a fucking clue what it was doing. I'd be dead twice over without modern medicine.

I've also had to ELCS - first for a complicated breech and second just for the hell of it. After my terrible pregnancies there was absolutely NO WAY I was going to roll the dice and even attempt a natural birth.

Lovely perfect partners don’t try and dictate the way their baby is born. He sounds very controlling.

Woop woop!

@Castleview6 Nope you don't need a medical reason. Stop spreading misinformation.
I had 2.. purely because I didn't want to give birth vaginally.
Every woman should be able to weigh up the pros and cons for her. And choose which she wants.
And we can ♥️

They frequently insist on a vaginal birth. It is the same thing. They will do their best in what they think will statistically be the safest. Yes sometimes they get it wrong. Some women are glad they pushed for vaginal or pushed for their c section.

Because a doctor is trying to do their job for a start. I'm not sure that can be compared to a random father who thinks he has a say over his wife's body.