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Mortified after period leak, want to cry

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GraceyBeaker · 26/03/2024 16:26

I work as a support worker for the family of a young boy with severe special needs. Am working alone with the father this week as the child is off school due to Easter and mum couldn’t get the time off.

I assisted the father with the school run to collect child’s younger sibling, it’s a two-man job to take the special needs child anywhere as he is big and has no sense of danger, he can and does run off. Anyway, the family have a lovely new Tesla, a few weeks old. I am currently on my period, didn’t think anything of it, I only bleed moderately and had replaced my tampon an hour prior. Yet when we got to the school and I got out of the passenger seat, I noticed the stain on the white seats. I immediately panicked but there was nothing I could do, no wipes in the vicinity and the dad was already getting the older child out of the car so I needed to go with them. I spent the whole time outside the school wondering WTF to do and I couldn’t think of anything.

The younger child immediately comes out and we head back to the car. All I could think to do was quickly lick my finger and wipe the stain as quickly as I could whilst the dad put the school bag in the boot, and hope he didn’t notice. I didn’t get rid of the stain completely but managed to lighten it a bit? Then I sat down and make sure to pull my (thankfully very long) coat down.

I knew the stain would be noticed eventually but I guess was hoping the dad would assume it was from the children and perhaps wouldn’t realise it was from me, though probably wishful thinking. They then dropped me off at home and I could see him watching the seat as I got up so he must’ve noticed me trying to clean it.

I am working with them all week, I am absolutely mortified and don’t know what to do. I feel sick. Just need some moral support.

OP posts:
Caerulea · 26/03/2024 17:41

AmeliaEarhart · 26/03/2024 16:39

I think tomorrow you should go straight in there with “I noticed when got home that my tampon had leaked; did any get on the car seat?” As breezy as possible (even if you’re dying inside).

Absolutely this. Just be direct & laugh it off. Better to clear the air from a distance rather than it coming up tomorrow morning.

And grab yourself some period pants! Pretty sure they are available in supermarkets now :)

KreedKafer · 26/03/2024 17:42

GraceyBeaker · 26/03/2024 17:00

Oh it’ll clean up easily, one wet wipe. Just the whole thing is making me cringe. I was awkward and flustered getting out of the car when I got dropped off and forgot to say bye to the kids. It’s just the whole situation is cringey.

Honestly, if someone buys a brand new Tesla with white seats when they've got two kids, including one with severe special needs, I think they're probably already resigned to the fact that the seats aren't going to be staying white for very long.

He will not blame you - he will be clearly be aware that you didn't do it on purpose - and I doubt he'll give it a second thought once it's been wiped away.

Remagirl · 26/03/2024 17:43

Ffs it will wipe off. All you people suggesting you're gutted for him and getting pro cleaners out you need to get a grip!

PinotDragon · 26/03/2024 17:45

Ah no! These things happen. I think you're gonna have to own up and maybe get the seat cleaned or have a really good go yourself. I would be embarrassed too so don't worry you aren't alone there. But these things do happen!! It can't be helped sometimes and at least it wasn't a bright red gush.
That comment from Pootlin wasn't very helpful at all; good for you you've never leaked. But you will...one day

EveryOtherNameTaken · 26/03/2024 17:45

AmeliaEarhart · 26/03/2024 16:39

I think tomorrow you should go straight in there with “I noticed when got home that my tampon had leaked; did any get on the car seat?” As breezy as possible (even if you’re dying inside).

I agree with this.

If somebody did something like this and ignored it, I'd think they were rude. It's not like it could have been anyone else.

He has a partner, he will appreciate how awkward it might be, but think better of you for not pretending it didn't happen.

Confused19831983 · 26/03/2024 17:47

It's his own fault for having white leather seats.
He probably won't even realise what it is, and if he suspects, so what.
He has already told you it's easy to clean.
I would forget about it.
Mentioning it to him would be mortifying.

TempersFuggit · 26/03/2024 17:47

GrazingSheep · 26/03/2024 16:28

He’s a man with children. He knows about periods.

Exactly, just forget about it.

Londonrach1 · 26/03/2024 17:48

pootlin · 26/03/2024 16:33

I’m gutted for the man’s brand new Tesla tbh.

I always wear a pair of period knickers as well as sanpro as double protection, have never leaked.

I think you were pretty lax tbh, unless you have heavy periods.

Lucky you..wait till you pre menapulse (dyslexic spelling) as you flood in seconds without warning..as in jeans, leggings etc need to washed as well....

soupfiend · 26/03/2024 17:49

NeedToChangeName · 26/03/2024 16:31

Oh poor you, I'd be mortified too. I guess 3 separate issues -

(1) are they white leather seats that are easy to wipe clean? If so, embarrassing but no real harm done
(2) if seats will be stained, I'd offer to pay for the car to be valeted / professionally cleaned
(3) is it wise to post info about service users online?

Oh for gods sake, can you identify the service users from the scant information posted?

Sleepydoor · 26/03/2024 17:50

The white tesla seats will wipe up easily with a baby wipe. I completely understand feeling mortified, but it sounds like it's just a small mark left after you tried to clean it and I would not worry about it. I think it's understandable that you didn't say anything to him.

PoundlandColumbo · 26/03/2024 17:52

pootlin · 26/03/2024 16:51

I have leaked where I know I'm ok to be leaked, in my own home.

But if I'm going to work, or travelling, or in someone's space, then no, I haven't leaked because I take extra precautions.

We get it @pootlin, you're perfect. The rest of us can only strive to be like you 🙄

Though as someone else said, let's see how perfect you are when peri-menopause spins the wheel.

Sleepydoor · 26/03/2024 17:53

For everyone worried about white tesla seats -- it's not leather. It's a "vegan leather" that is pretty durable and does not stain easily. Blood would come off with water and a sponge or a baby wipe.

TraitorsGate · 26/03/2024 17:55

He probably won't give it any thought, he has children and knows about periods and probably saw his children being born. Try not to worry, you can speak to him or his wife, believe me there will be much worse things for him to clean up

JugglingJanuary · 26/03/2024 17:56

@GraceyBeaker

sorry, but you're being ridiculous and could ruin the car seat by leaving it. It would have been simple enough to say (as you got out) sorry, but do you have any wipes in the car, I seem to have left a tiny mark on the seat'

He has a wife and two children, periods are not going to be a shock to him.

having hidden your accident would make me concerned about leaving you with my children & what other mistakes/accudents you'd hide.

i think now you should text one of them to say you're really sorry, but you think you left a mark on the seat & you were too embarassed to say anything earlier, but wanted to let them know it might need a quick wipe so it doesn't leave a permanent mark.

PoundlandColumbo · 26/03/2024 18:04

having hidden your accident would make me concerned about leaving you with my children & what other mistakes/accudents you'd hide.

FFS! Don't be so ridiculous.

ClareWilsonNS · 26/03/2024 18:06

Idea! Turn up tomorrow and say: Look, sorry to have to say this, but your car seat had some kind of stain on it yesterday and it's actually transferred to my trousers. Could you pay my dry cleaning bill please.

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 26/03/2024 18:10

I wouldn't worry about it. White Tesla seats always get marked - demin transfer is the biggest issue apparently.

They are loads of ways of cleaning them.

It's a natural thing, leaks happen. Not pleasant but if we could control it, we would.

For the naive on the thread, there are many reasons, endo, menopause etc, where It's difficult to avoid it - you can have a tampon, pad & period pants & it still doesn't mean it won't happen.

RegretMisery · 26/03/2024 18:17

op im sure the man has made love to his wife while shes on the rag many a time. chillax

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 26/03/2024 18:21

If it makes you feel better, I was on a Teams call earlier and said "oh you stupid cunt" when I accidentally deleted something.

Reader, I was not on mute.

There was over 100 people in the meeting.

AND IT WAS BEING LED BY THREE MANAGING DIRECTORS.

I wanted to die. Luckily they were all lovely when I emailed them to apologise, but still!

oakleaffy · 26/03/2024 18:22

@GraceyBeaker ANY man with children who has white leather seats in his car needs his head read. No pun intended.
He's clearly got more money than sense.

viques · 26/03/2024 18:23

A family with three children chose white leather seats for their car! I can understand your embarrassment OP, but their choice is the problem, not your leak.

oakleaffy · 26/03/2024 18:24

ClareWilsonNS · 26/03/2024 18:06

Idea! Turn up tomorrow and say: Look, sorry to have to say this, but your car seat had some kind of stain on it yesterday and it's actually transferred to my trousers. Could you pay my dry cleaning bill please.

Genius! Yes, definitely do this! 😂

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 26/03/2024 18:24

ClareWilsonNS · 26/03/2024 18:06

Idea! Turn up tomorrow and say: Look, sorry to have to say this, but your car seat had some kind of stain on it yesterday and it's actually transferred to my trousers. Could you pay my dry cleaning bill please.

Genius!

Lwrenn · 26/03/2024 18:25

Big hugs @GraceyBeaker it'll be fine, leather seats clean a dream!
These things happen to us all. I hope you're okay though, bloody white leather, couldn't have been black could it?!

I took my darling wee lad (tiny bellend) out last week and he's autistic/learning disabilities so I take him in the disabled toilet so I can help him etc, anyway whilst there I'm having a quick wee because I can't leave him alone to use the toilet and I'd come on (not even supposed to get periods ffs) and my little sod shouts in his American accent, really loudly because he had ear defenders on, "mommy! You've shit yourself, I'm telling everyone, you've pooped your pants!"
Anyway, we left pretty quickly and erm, ull not be going back to our local pub for lunch again. 🙈

Pigeonqueen · 26/03/2024 18:28

Definitely go in with the breezy “really sorry but I had a bit of a leak” thing. Everyone knows about periods, the seats are leather it will have come off.