Very taken aback by partner’s comment on “lads holiday”

Nope, not normal. Is he dating you or his friends ?

No it's not the norm. They sound like men-children.

Depends if you call ‘hobby ‘holidays - cycling, golf etc a lads holiday. Men going on a beach holiday together a= very strange, men on a sporting holiday -less so

It's not normal for "men", it is for "boys". Your partner is still like a boy.

I would say quite the reverse! You sound terribly unlucky to be lumbered with him…I’d dump him quicker than I’d dump toxic waste tbh.

He'd be lucky to not find my foot up his arse at any hint of "lucky he goes on holiday with me" type comments.

Sounds like he's teeing up more lads holidays and planting the seeds that everyone else has a dolly so why can't I...

Edit: and no, not the norm. DH doesn't do lads holidays, neither do his friends. All holiday with their girlfriend/wife.

What amazes me is that 10 women have such low standards on men that they date those losers !
Show your hubby this . No it’s not the norm , no no proper partner or dad wants to go away all the time without their wife’s and children .
Thankfully by partner prefer to do things as a family as do I .

No, it's not even slightly normal. Neither my husband nor my Dad would dream of going on a "lads holiday" unless it was a stag weekend maybe. They are grown adults with a family to support, not teenage boys. Tell him to grow up.

the only people in my family who did this (go on holiday with friends but not each other), had been together quite a while and were actually desperately unhappy together and split up with a couple of years, they both now go on holiday with their respective spouses with no issues.

I think your partner has got a degree in gaslighting!

It is very not normal to go on holiday with friends over partners. I travel often without my husband and have always during our relationship. I know this is very uncommon.

The reason why we do it is because he has three other kids so I'd often go for long weekends so he could spend quality time with them. Now I often go away just myself and little one as DH hasn't got the time off/funds to always come with us.

Not normal in my circle, I couldn't tell you the last time my dh had a "lads" night out, never mind a holiday he likely couldn't think of anything worse, he's 39 tomorrow. He'd rather socialise and holiday together. I'd happily go away with my friends though. We have gone away previously on stags/hens when we were younger.

Agree with this totally life and priorities change as you get older. Stags are common at a certain age but as you get older gets less common
My husband does go to an odd trip away bit would only be a night or two and normally its part of his hobby (which i find very boring ) He doesn't drink either
I also go an odd trip away but that is because friends are scattered all over and we meet up for a night out together
me and my husband love our holidays together ( we don't row on holidays ) we have the same ideas of a holiday and make the most of it every year
A break away from each other once in a blue moon is ok, however to not want to go on holiday with you raises red flags to me

In the early days of our relationship and pre-kids (in our twenties) DH would go skiing with mates once a year. But that was only because I didn’t ski and didn’t really want to, not because I wasn’t invited. Some of the other guys would bring their girlfriends. Other than that it’s just been a few stag weekends (some of them abroad) but no ‘lads’ holidays. We’ve been away a lot together. So no, YANBU and he is talking BS!
Interestingly now in my mid forties several of our friends are trying to organise separate long weekends but it’s the first time in about 20 yrs that any of us have considered it…

My DH and his friends don’t have separate holidays to their partners. DH occasionally goes away for a night for work and I have in the past gone to visit my brother for a couple of nights without DH. Everyone I know (or at least those whose holiday arrangements I’m privy to) holidays with their partner (and children where applicable). I used to work with someone who used to holiday separately to her husband but that was because she didn’t actually like him very much.

Any man who told me I was "lucky" that he would go on holiday with me would be promptly shown the door.

I don't think I could be married to a man who has "lads".

I would also be really mindful that’s it’s highly likely some (if not all!) of them shag about on these holidays with a ‘what happens on holiday stays on holiday’ mindset

No it’s not normal amongst MEN!

The problem you have is your partner is still in the ‘boys’ mindset. He wants to be ‘one of the boys’ all his friends are ‘one of the boys’. Where does it stop? If he doesn’t shag about on a stag weekend are you also ‘lucky’ that he doesn’t?

It’s okay to be 30 and still holiday with ‘the boys’ when you’re single. But if you’re in a committed relationship and you see your future with that person then holidays/experiences with them should take priority over ‘lads’ holidays.

It reminds me the situation when children demand mobile phones claiming that all other children at their lower primary got one already. Yes, darling they are ….

I don't think it's normal. I think normal is either a mixture of trips with friend(s) and trips with partner (usually more with partner than friends), or just trips with their partner/family. I can't think of anyone I know in a long term relationship who only goes away with their mates and not with their partner. I know quite a lot of couples who only seem to holiday with a group of friends. Not my cup of tea, but at least both people in the relationship are there together.

Don't let your boyfriend make you think you are 'lucky' to be in a relationship with someone who wants to spend time with you. That should just be the absolute basic expectation for any relationship and not some special situation.

exactly mature much.
As for saying shes lucky he goes on holiday with her, he sounds such a catch.

He goes on holiday once a month?

Not all stag dos are laddy, no need to group them all into a piss up on the costas.

I've been with my DH for over 35 years and we've always done a combination of family hols and hols with mates. Me more than him as my friends actually get round to instigating something rather than talking about it.

Geez Louise! Your son goes on holiday up to 14 times a year?! 😲
Where the heck does he work?! 😂