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Should I bin my friend's art?

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Joyjazz · 25/03/2024 20:39

My friend painted me a picture. The sentiment was lovely but I really hate it. It's not my taste and not in keeping with my house. I keep it behind the TV and hang it whenever she comes to visit so I don't hurt her feelings as she is really proud of this piece and spent many weeks making it. I'm moving to a new house and I don't want to be carrying things that I don't like or want to my new home. I want to take the frame and bin the actual painting. She's a good friend and she is likely to visit and possibly ask where the art is.

AIBU to put the painting in the bin?

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JustWhatWeDontNeed · 26/03/2024 12:35

Bbq1 · 26/03/2024 12:32

She did pics ages back and apparently it turned out it's a picture from an episode of Friends.

Op, do you actually own a painting that your friend gifted you or is your whole Aibu a joke?

Bloody hell, OP DIDN'T POST THE PICTURE!! OP POSTS ARE GREEN. WE HAVE NOT SEEN THE ARTWORK!

What has happened on this thread? I feel like I'm in a parallel universe 😂

PossumintheHouse · 26/03/2024 12:35

Bbq1 · 26/03/2024 12:32

She did pics ages back and apparently it turned out it's a picture from an episode of Friends.

Op, do you actually own a painting that your friend gifted you or is your whole Aibu a joke?

The. OP. Did. Not. Post. A. Photo. Of. The. Artwork.

It was a joke by another poster.

oakleaffy · 26/03/2024 12:35

RicePuddingWithCinnamon · 25/03/2024 20:50

Here it is

That's nightmarish.
That would freak anyone out.

I'd say it got damaged.

I did an etching of a dog once, in an etching class, and offered one to Mum for free -Mum said ''No thanks'' as it wasn't her type of thing.

{She likes cats}

A small dog etching isn't anything like as hard to live with as a bizarre human form climbing out of its frame.

Edit...It now transpires that the creepy pic isn't the one that OP owns.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 26/03/2024 12:33

Bbq1 · 26/03/2024 12:32

She did pics ages back and apparently it turned out it's a picture from an episode of Friends.

Op, do you actually own a painting that your friend gifted you or is your whole Aibu a joke?

OP didn't post the Friends picture - it was another poster who, realising the similarity of what is happening with OP to a plotline in an episode of Friends, posted the Friends picture for a joke.

LlynTegid · 26/03/2024 12:33

Is it too much to continue the pretence, just have it in a different room in the new house so you don't have to look at it. Spare bedroom if you have one perhaps?

Bbq1 · 26/03/2024 12:32

Mirabai · 25/03/2024 22:34

Pics or we can’t advise.

She did pics ages back and apparently it turned out it's a picture from an episode of Friends.

Op, do you actually own a painting that your friend gifted you or is your whole Aibu a joke?

fatphalange · 26/03/2024 12:29

Wanting to take the frame with you but bin what's in it is savage 😂
Honestly, if you're bothering to take the frame anyway, there's no harm in keeping the picture. Just put one you prefer on top of it. If she comes to visit, you could always remove the picture that's on top until she's gone home.

PossumintheHouse · 26/03/2024 12:23

This thread has cheered me up no end. Good old Gladys. I feel sorry for Glynnis though, who has undeservedly had no mention on this thread.

OP, don't chuck it. I'd appreciate the sentiment at least. Bung it up in the loft and if she asks, say you haven't decided where it'll go yet. And also point out that it's sad you don't have enough wall space to buy any new works of art EVER.

tearsintherain · 26/03/2024 12:20

Tell her one of your DC had a bad dream about the painting, and although you like it and appreciate the time and effort she put into it, you really think it would be best if she took it back.
One of mine when they were little was scared of a particular painting (nothing that would jump out as being obviously scary or traumatising, but they clearly saw something in it that we didn't).

Yulona · 26/03/2024 12:20

Alwaysgoingforit · 26/03/2024 11:02

I am aware it's a joke, but still ask who would hang it in their home?

Fictional characters on a TV show 🙄. Lord alive.

LookItsMeAgain · 26/03/2024 12:18

Perhaps in the move you could offer it back to her? Say that you've enjoyed having it (through gritted teeth) but it really won't work with the style of your new home and you wanted to offer it back to her first, before the move?

If she doesn't want it back, then it could get 'damaged' in the move and you were able to salvage the frame but not the art itself, perhaps?

DaftFlerken · 26/03/2024 12:18

my mum is a painter - I just tell her I really like the chrismassy scenes so she gives me those & I pop them up as Xmas decorations each year

IncompleteSenten · 26/03/2024 12:17

LipikarAP · 26/03/2024 09:10

This place worries me sometimes.

Only sometimes? 😁

Yulona · 26/03/2024 12:17

I'm crying at the amount of people who think that picture is the one OP is referring to. Even if you've never watched Friends, how have you not clocked it wasn't posted by the OP 🤣

LemonLight · 26/03/2024 12:16

Maybe you could say you stored some stuff at your mum's house during your move and if your friend asks about it you just say 'dang! I keep forgetting to pick that up from my mum's!' Meanwhile it lives in the attic.

DaftFlerken · 26/03/2024 12:15

tulippa · 25/03/2024 20:41

You could say it got damaged during the move I suppose?

She might take that as a requirement to paint a new one

FKAT · 26/03/2024 12:15

Removing this bcoz it just repeats the previous 2 posts.

Ellie1015 · 26/03/2024 12:11

I might gently tell her it isn't your style and offer her the chance to have it back to give to someone else who would really appreciate it. But binning it and taking the frame is really rude.

bonzaitree · 26/03/2024 12:11

Why not be honest and say as you’re moving you don’t think there’s a place for the art in your new home and it doesn’t fit with your aesthetic. Offer to give it back to her.

Might be awkward but at least you’re being honest and you won’t get more art!

ButterflyKu · 26/03/2024 12:09

CustardySergeant · 26/03/2024 11:40

The fact that it wasn't posted by the OP should have been a clue that it wasn't the painting in question. 🙂

Right😂 I’m not sure how so many people have been confused by this. Fair enough if it was posted by the OP because that would be extremely confusing

KittySocks · 26/03/2024 12:09

RicePuddingWithCinnamon · 25/03/2024 20:50

Here it is

I just choked on my easter egg!!! Brilliant

Alondra · 26/03/2024 12:05

CustardySergeant · 26/03/2024 11:40

The fact that it wasn't posted by the OP should have been a clue that it wasn't the painting in question. 🙂

People should fucking move on from the picture from Friends. Many of us, including myself, made it "the picture" when the OP said her friend's painting was worse

Hard to imagine how it can be worse, but that's how the OP feels about it.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 26/03/2024 11:50

You could always tell her that, whilst the beautiful painting was incredibly special to you and grabbed your own heart, you knew that your late Great Aunt Edna, who was passionate about that very subject, would unquestionably have found that the painting would speak so deeply to her very soul.

You simply could not live with the selfishness of clinging on to such an exquisitely meaningful joy for yourself, for this generation only and for this world only.

Therefore, you have submitted the masterpiece to the elements, so that it can be carried away and find its true spiritual home in dear old Great Aunt Edna's bosom, where she may revel in and treasure it for eternity.

Sounds a lot more tactful than "It was horrid, so I burned it" - even though it's basically the same thing. Plus, Edna was never a fan of wood, so you didn't want to dilute her delight by sending her the frame as well...

blackcherryconserve · 26/03/2024 11:46

It's awful. I feel your pain OP! It got lost in the move or 'rotate your pictures' as pp have suggested.

CaterhamReconstituted · 26/03/2024 11:44

CustardySergeant · 26/03/2024 11:40

The fact that it wasn't posted by the OP should have been a clue that it wasn't the painting in question. 🙂

Yep, thanks. Didn’t notice that either. I’m an idiot yes.