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Should I bin my friend's art?

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Joyjazz · 25/03/2024 20:39

My friend painted me a picture. The sentiment was lovely but I really hate it. It's not my taste and not in keeping with my house. I keep it behind the TV and hang it whenever she comes to visit so I don't hurt her feelings as she is really proud of this piece and spent many weeks making it. I'm moving to a new house and I don't want to be carrying things that I don't like or want to my new home. I want to take the frame and bin the actual painting. She's a good friend and she is likely to visit and possibly ask where the art is.

AIBU to put the painting in the bin?

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Dontblameitonsunshine · 26/03/2024 08:05

Oh get over yourself and do the right thing . Just hang it somewhere and know that you’re a good pal

WaterWeasel · 26/03/2024 08:02

mnahmnah · 25/03/2024 20:44

Those clumsy removal people…

😂

PilkosPumpPants · 26/03/2024 08:01

What a load of old shit!

FenellaBestwick · 26/03/2024 07:59

thistimelastweek · 25/03/2024 20:52

People who gift art are selfish. It's all about them. They might pretend otherwise but it's about them.
This is just by way of context.
I can't advise OP. It's her call.

This is totally wrong. People who gift art are giving generously. Whether we like it or not is another matter.

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 26/03/2024 07:53

I think given that:

A) This is the plot of two very famous sitcom episodes;
B) The OP uses rather gleeful language about “putting it in the bin” and keeping the frame, rather than just speaking more generically about not displaying it; and
C) The OP hasn’t returned to the thread

it’s probably not the OP’s friend who’s being a little bit “creative”.

Nanaof1 · 26/03/2024 07:47

Zyq · 26/03/2024 07:42

That is not the painting in question. It's from a Friends episode.

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I am going to have to find that episode!

Thriving30 · 26/03/2024 07:47

Be honest with her and tell her you don't have space for it at your new place.
Then offer to either give it back to her or donate to charity
She may be a little hurt but it's better than throwing it away- she did take time and effort to make it for you.

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 26/03/2024 07:42

You can't bin it, you've made a rod for your own back by hanging it when she is around so she thinks you like it.

Zyq · 26/03/2024 07:42

Rightsraptor · 25/03/2024 22:54

Oh my God, @RicePuddingWithCinnamon, that awful. And scary. I couldn't give it house room.

Do you have any children, grandchildren or any sensitive souls in your life who you could claim won't enter your house while that is in it?

That is not the painting in question. It's from a Friends episode.

Nanaof1 · 26/03/2024 07:42

RicePuddingWithCinnamon · 25/03/2024 20:50

Here it is

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Oh Lord! That is nightmare fodder! That was on "Friends"? When?

If someone gave me something like that, I'm not sure if I would laugh or cry.

I still think we need to see the "real" painting as it cannot be worse than the above. This story sounds like a certain auto commercial in the USA.

Dogball · 26/03/2024 07:41

Gosh I can’t believe so many people on here
a. Haven’t watched friends
b. Don’t notice that the picture wasn’t posted by the OP
c. Haven’t read the many other posts telling them the friends picture is a joke
d. Couldn’t use the tiniest bit of critical thinking/common sense to work out that it might possibly be a joke.

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 26/03/2024 07:37

pinkmushroom5 · 26/03/2024 07:15

Why wouldn't you give it back to them? They've put a lot of time into it and are really proud of it. I can't imagine throwing something in the bin that my friend had put so much into. It doesn't matter if it's 'highly accomplished', it's the time and effort she has spent on it.

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But….it would be mine?

Easipeelerie · 26/03/2024 07:30

You have to keep it, I’m afraid. Keep doing what you’re doing.

Everleigh13 · 26/03/2024 07:28

I think I’d store it somewhere (loft if you have one) and then if she asks say you don’t know where you want to put it yet. If she keeps asking (which is quite rude in my opinion) I’d just reply with you haven’t had time yet / keep forgetting etc.

I know it’s not the same thing but this reminds me of a friend who gave me a CD of her music. I thought it was absolutely awful but was nice about it, while also saying it wasn’t really my thing. Next thing I know she wants to discuss the music track by track and I’m also supposed to read her poetry and give feedback, which also wasn’t my cup of tea.

TheBerry · 26/03/2024 07:24

pinkmushroom5 · 26/03/2024 06:55

Why is that being a dick?

As an artist I'd much rather someone politely declined my work than it end up in the bin. Artists appreciate more than most that everyone has different taste.

If someone didn't want my work, that would be fine. If they put it in the bin I'd be devastated.

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I don’t think she should bin it, either. Just hang it somewhere out of the way.

Idk I just can’t imagine my friend putting so much effort into making something for me and then just going “oh sorry not for me”.

But tbf I’m not an artist, so maybe artists do feel differently.

DrJoanAllenby · 26/03/2024 07:15

Apologies to the op. As I scrolled down I saw a photo and thought the op has made that post but it was some wag having a laugh! 😂

pinkmushroom5 · 26/03/2024 07:15

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 26/03/2024 07:01

Yes, if I didn’t like it. I’d have displayed it for a long time already and now I no longer wish to display it.

Everyone seems to be assuming it’s some sort of highly accomplished piece, just not to the OP’s taste.

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Why wouldn't you give it back to them? They've put a lot of time into it and are really proud of it. I can't imagine throwing something in the bin that my friend had put so much into. It doesn't matter if it's 'highly accomplished', it's the time and effort she has spent on it.

Lurkingandlearning · 26/03/2024 07:11

Another for “damaged during the move”. Along with some other things in the same box. Or she’ll wonder why only that painting suffered

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 26/03/2024 07:03

DrJoanAllenby · 26/03/2024 06:49

Reported thread.

Why?

And why did you feel the need to post that you’d done that? 😂

SickofSoup · 26/03/2024 07:02

Be honest with your friend and offer the painting back to her.

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 26/03/2024 07:01

pinkmushroom5 · 26/03/2024 06:43

You would chuck something in the bin that a good friend had spent many weeks making and is really proud of?

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Yes, if I didn’t like it. I’d have displayed it for a long time already and now I no longer wish to display it.

Everyone seems to be assuming it’s some sort of highly accomplished piece, just not to the OP’s taste.

Marnie76 · 26/03/2024 06:57

eggchipsbeans · 26/03/2024 06:36

Fake/joke post?

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I don’t know, the OP has only posted one message but the picture everyone is commenting on isn’t from the OP someone else posted it

pinkmushroom5 · 26/03/2024 06:56

DrJoanAllenby · 26/03/2024 06:49

Reported thread.

Why have you reported the thread? A random poster shared that picture, not the OP.

pinkmushroom5 · 26/03/2024 06:55

TheBerry · 26/03/2024 06:48

lol this is mental, imagine being that much of a dick

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Why is that being a dick?

As an artist I'd much rather someone politely declined my work than it end up in the bin. Artists appreciate more than most that everyone has different taste.

If someone didn't want my work, that would be fine. If they put it in the bin I'd be devastated.

Knickerknack · 26/03/2024 06:54

Say your mum saw it and loved it so you gifted it to her. Also it suits her house better than your new one.

Or say you love it but it doesn't fit your new house, would she like it back or for you to donate it.

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