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Lord above some people are just... unbelievable!

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DuIcieDomum · 25/03/2024 14:29

There's an Apache MK1 final flypast today [yawn] which DP and DS (autistic, this comes under one of his special interests) have been banging on about for days. They made flasks of cocoa and set up deckchairs in one of our fields (we live on a farm) to sit and watch it. Anyway it was delayed by 45 mins so they came in to eat lunch and then went back out...to find two men sitting on the deckchairs eating sandwiches waiting for the flypast Hmm. There was a third man with a dog with them, who actually asked DP to put our dog on a lead because his dog is nervous of other dogs!!

Now, this was in our field which is private land. The field is visible from a footpath but the footpath just goes past the gate and doesn't enter the field. They just saw our deckchairs and though it looked like a nice place to go and sit.

DP said sorry but no, they'd have to take the dog out of the field if it wasn't ok with other dogs, and that he and DS wanted their deckchairs back. A bit of harrumphing and the men left but... WTF?!?

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DoIdriveaVauxhallZafira · 25/03/2024 23:38

EcstaticMarmalade · 25/03/2024 22:44

Live in a scenic tourist area. In our last house a group of tourists came by and picked flowers off a shrub in our front garden until I knocked on the window and glowered at them.

Edited

Ooh, I love a good glower

RandomButtons · 25/03/2024 23:37

Watermelonsregularly · 25/03/2024 23:02

It's late. Am I confused?
Am I really reading a thread about land ownership Vs entitled people?

Yes. Coming from a farming family I can tell you it’s a very common issue. My uncle doesn’t allow dogs to roam free in his fields, they must stick to footpath and there’s signs up. He’s been told off for this because his dogs run all over the fields. They are sheep dogs. Herding livestock.

RandomButtons · 25/03/2024 23:32

80skid · 25/03/2024 18:26

There was one in my village Facebook group the other day complaining that they'd been asked to leave a privately owned field by the farmer. Seemed to think it was the farmer's responsibility to put signs up to explain everywhere where they're not allowed, in addition to the clearly signed public rights of way and associated footpaths. I may put a sign on my driveway yet to stop them using my property as a dog training area too.

The outrage was tremendous on local FB groups when local farmer put up a new fence along the side of his field so that people had to stick to where the footpath goes and not traipse all over his fields letting their dogs crap all over his silage grass.

No one like it when I pointed out he was well within his rights, and they were trespassing.

I now get that lovely little footpath all to myself.

Notamum12345577 · 25/03/2024 23:21

DuIcieDomum · 25/03/2024 20:25

Gosh, diamond shoes Hmm

I presume you aren't aware of just how little most farmers actually earn then?

The average wage for a farmer is something like £23k!

I think that poster needs to watch Clarksons Farm!

AngkorWat · 25/03/2024 23:17

crockofshite · 25/03/2024 23:16

Please share your cinnamon/nutmeg cocoa recipe

Another vote for the recipe please

mrsdineen2 · 25/03/2024 23:17

Watermelonsregularly · 25/03/2024 23:02

It's late. Am I confused?
Am I really reading a thread about land ownership Vs entitled people?

And the believability of drinking cocoa apparently.

Some people will pick a fight over anything.

crockofshite · 25/03/2024 23:16

Newestname002 · 25/03/2024 23:04

@MereDintofPandiculation

Cocoa is much better than tea or coffee if you're sitting outside on a chilly days. Or are you thinking they should be drinking vastly overpriced hot chocolate instead?

Quite right. I have a large mug of very hot, strong, cinnamony/nutmegy cocoa most days. Utterly delicious and satisfying. 🌹

Please share your cinnamon/nutmeg cocoa recipe

VampireWeekday · 25/03/2024 23:11

We live opposite a local historical attraction in a traditional type house, and have noticed foreign tourists get more and more comfortable edging closer into the garden to take photos. Then last summer a group actually came and sat in our garden on our garden furniture snapping photos of themselves there! We thought it was hilarious, but it wouldn't be funny if it happened all the time.

Teenagehorrorbag · 25/03/2024 23:11

Some people are just awful. We live near a beautiful river walk where you can park on a verge and walk down to farmers field, where there is a footpath leading to the next village (about a mile. Great pub, and a lovely walk back too on the other side of the river).

If you just do the very first bit, the field slopes down to a weir and there is shallow water for children to play in, and a great, and fairly safe, deep swimming bit for older kids and adults. There is also a tree with branches at various heights with ropes dangling, where teenagers love to climb and jump. It's really popular in the summer, and the farmer/owner is either kind enough to allow it or has given up trying to stop it. But oiks insist on having BBQs and leave loads of rubbish and beer bottles etc - it's such a shame because if everyone took their rubbish away it's such a lovely spot.

A group of volunteers did a big clean up last year- but they shouldn't have to! And cattle run there at certain times - I just don't know why people feel so entitled these days......

AngkorWat · 25/03/2024 23:11

FourLeggedBuckers · 25/03/2024 23:05

No it’s mostly just about cocoa now!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Prunesqualler · 25/03/2024 23:10

School parents use our courtyard to turn their cars in after school drop off. They drive through the gate, past our farmhouse and barn opposite. Turn their cars and go out.

Except of course for a mum who uses it as a loo for her kid. She stops the car, takes son out of the car who then wees up against the barn. I’ve spotted it on my cameras, twice, so sent the images to the school.
Havent seen her recently 🤣🤣

We had a guy trespass today, accidentally caught him whilst jet washing moss off the roof. He got wet.oops!

MereDintofPandiculation · 25/03/2024 23:06

mitogoshi · 25/03/2024 22:55

Not quite on the level of these but I'm fed up with people using our private residential car park to park for the beach, i moved two people on yesterday alone (i was cleaning seagull poo off my car again and caught them) but i can't be there all the time and I'm fed up with no parking being available when i get home from work

DS has the opposite. Extra car park for the estate, but the residents on the road where the car park is actually located have decided it's their personal carpark, for that road only, and have taken to letting down the tyres of any other car parking there.

FourLeggedBuckers · 25/03/2024 23:05

Watermelonsregularly · 25/03/2024 23:02

It's late. Am I confused?
Am I really reading a thread about land ownership Vs entitled people?

No it’s mostly just about cocoa now!

Newestname002 · 25/03/2024 23:04

@MereDintofPandiculation

Cocoa is much better than tea or coffee if you're sitting outside on a chilly days. Or are you thinking they should be drinking vastly overpriced hot chocolate instead?

Quite right. I have a large mug of very hot, strong, cinnamony/nutmegy cocoa most days. Utterly delicious and satisfying. 🌹

Watermelonsregularly · 25/03/2024 23:02

It's late. Am I confused?
Am I really reading a thread about land ownership Vs entitled people?

MereDintofPandiculation · 25/03/2024 23:02

crockofshite · 25/03/2024 22:25

What's the difference between cocoa and hot chocolate?

Hot chocolate has added milk and sugar. You need several spoons of hot chocolate and it mixes easily. Cocoa is pure chocolate, like very dark chocolate. it has a stronger taste, you need only one spoonful, you need to add sugar, and it doesn't mix so well, so you have to mix with a tiny bit of milk/water into a paste before adding the rest.

0sm0nthus · 25/03/2024 22:57

It's the innate urge to conquer and push boundaries, so many weird things happened during the pandemic, worms escaped from cans and will not go back in.

BringMeSunshineAllDayLong · 25/03/2024 22:56

Gettingonmygoat · 25/03/2024 17:55

I always find a shotgun pointed at their dog makes them move. Friends of ours have a farm with fields that are beside the beach, they have cattle including a bloody huge bad tempered bull and every year they have a couple of dozen bullocks. They put signs on the gates telling people their are bulls in the field. More than once he has come across idiots unloading tents to put up in his cliff top field. They even stand there and argue that they are entitled to pitch a tent where they want. I personally would tell them to crack on and stand back and watch the fun

Nominating this for the "get orrrffff me land" post of the week 😂

mitogoshi · 25/03/2024 22:55

Not quite on the level of these but I'm fed up with people using our private residential car park to park for the beach, i moved two people on yesterday alone (i was cleaning seagull poo off my car again and caught them) but i can't be there all the time and I'm fed up with no parking being available when i get home from work

Upallnight2 · 25/03/2024 22:49

FoxyLoxyLoo · 25/03/2024 22:28

DH reminded me of another (among many) incidents from last summer. I have 3 senior horses (24, 28 and 29), people were feeding them loads of things over the wall of the field they’re in so I ran electric fencing around 3 metres inside the field to stop them getting treats. A parent drove up to the house and was screaming at DH incessant with rage that her child had been zapped by the fence because he only wanted to feed the horses apples. There’s signs up warning of the fence and asking people to not feed the horses. 🤦‍♀️

Good.. they deserve to have their child zapped if they're that entitled!

Lovemycat2023 · 25/03/2024 22:47

I work next to an RAF base (in SE England) and saw four helicopters go past in formation. Was that the flypast? I enjoy the planes and chinooks but am a bit clueless about the other helicopters!

EcstaticMarmalade · 25/03/2024 22:44

Live in a scenic tourist area. In our last house a group of tourists came by and picked flowers off a shrub in our front garden until I knocked on the window and glowered at them.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 25/03/2024 22:43

AtomicBlondeRose · 25/03/2024 21:10

In the summer I was sitting on a beach, having left the normal amount of space between me and the other people on it, and a family came and set up camp so close to me the son was literally sitting on my bag.

I had something similar. Was sitting on my towel a few feet from the water's edge, peacefully looking out to sea. This bloke came walking along with his dog and stopped in front of me, throwing a ball into the sea and just standing there, blocking my view. He must've known I was there but totally ignored me. Could've moved along a bit. I kept waiting for him to carry on walking, which he did eventually, but he was there for 20 minutes!

AngkorWat · 25/03/2024 22:39

WrenNatsworthy · 25/03/2024 20:29

I was referring to your view and the land, not your earnings.

This is AIBU. I think you were quick to get cross and offended when you could have been friendly, so YWBU.

Is if expected that everyone should be quite happy that random strangers tresspass all over someone’s property and owners should be nice and friendly.

Are owners not allowed to be upset by that….really.?!

Lets all open our land and gardens and houses then and see how everyone feels about that

FoxyLoxyLoo · 25/03/2024 22:37

Dextersenergy · 25/03/2024 22:28

I think my best one was having to get people to move their camper van off the drive. They'd driven in the open gates, and pulled over onto some grass at the side. The van was locked and there was nobody in sight. The gates were open because a delivery van had been in and as I was going out I hadn't bothered shutting them. Lesson learned.
I got back to find chairs out and tea being cooked. They were most indignant when I told them they were about to be locked in. Funny now, but at the time quite stressful, they were quite unpleasant about it.

We live near the route for the NC500. We’ve wakened up to vans blocking our drive and have had the odd occasion of them opening gates, driving into fields and getting annoyed when we refuse to let them wild camp. We have a sign at the gates now to say please don’t ask for water or to use our facilities. It’s madness in summer.

Some people have no sense when it comes to horses, people were trying to feed mine bread and all sorts, it’s not as if they look starved.