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To be offended by these stickers on the back of a van?

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RosaMoline · 24/03/2024 11:40

So I was on a day trip with a friend yesterday and this van was up ahead of us in the traffic.
I’m no prude, but I think these are really offensive (you may need to zoom in)
Is it even legal to drive around like this?

To be offended by these stickers on the back of a van?
OP posts:
Rosejasmine · 25/03/2024 21:54

Yes that’s offensive and sick. The owner is a saddo Incel I reckon. I guess be grateful that’s not your next door neighbour’s car…

LuluBlakey1 · 25/03/2024 21:43

SpringSprungALeak · 25/03/2024 21:16

@LuluBlakey1

stop being so pathetic. You're not subtle. It's not big & it's not clever.

It wasn't meant to be subtle, big or clever. It was meant to be blunt. You said you are an adult with much more important things to be upset about than misogynistic, sexually offensive stickers (about women), on a van and then posted a line of cartoon emoji fish to illustrate your point.

Lol!

Comedycook · 25/03/2024 21:39

It isn't normally an acceptable excuse when communicating something hateful or threatening that you 'only' wrote it down and didn't actually say it

No of course not

If you wrote a racist, threatening letter for example, you could get in trouble with the police.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 25/03/2024 21:22

Comedycook · 25/03/2024 18:53

It should offend everyone. It's utterly vile, misogynistic filth which could actually scare some girls/women. Let's say you were walking down a quiet road on your own and someone drove past you with stickers like that on their car/van? Would you feel ok?

What about if the driver cut out the middleman and just shouted those same words and phrases at you, or described the graphic pictures using graphic words?

What about if he did it to a young girl or a vulnerable older woman, or somebody with learning difficulties? The stickers are right there, indiscriminately, for any and everybody to have to view at any time the van is out anywhere in public.

It isn't normally an acceptable excuse when communicating something hateful or threatening that you 'only' wrote it down and didn't actually say it.

SpringSprungALeak · 25/03/2024 21:16

LuluBlakey1 · 24/03/2024 19:47

Adults don't use tiny fish emojis in messages. Braindead people do on social media.

It is what the stickers represent that offends me- an attitude towards women that is increasingly common amongst men, particularly younger men. We shouldn't be ignoring it. It is something to be upset and angry about and is an enormous step backwards in the treatment of women in society. Men like him have always existed but their numbers had dropped as it became clear over the last 30 years that attitudes like this were unacceptable and were challenged. That is no longer the case; they aren't challenged any longer, they are seen as much more acceptable again and we'll pay the price for that. Teenage boys and young men often have disgusting very sexualised, abusive, attitudes to women which they share openly.

@LuluBlakey1

stop being so pathetic. You're not subtle. It's not big & it's not clever.

Worried234 · 25/03/2024 20:35

Comedycook · 25/03/2024 08:49

The more I think about it the worse I feel about it actually. Children can see it. Teenage girls walking past it may feel scared. It's actually vile.

I do wonder if it could be covered under section five of the public order act.

The public order act? Come off it!

TeaGinandFags · 25/03/2024 20:11

Completely illegal!

You've got to be able to actually see out of the rear window.

Send pic with plate to local cop shop and let them worry about it.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 25/03/2024 20:09

I'd be seriously happy if there more vehicles with stickers like that as we'd steer clear of them - treat it as a red warning sign, KEEP CLEAR, Richeard's about
😂

CaterhamReconstituted · 25/03/2024 20:06

It’s horrible but I wouldn’t let it ruin my day

Opinionsneededd · 25/03/2024 20:05

I think he has had the impact he was going for, really?

mandlerparr · 25/03/2024 19:21

I don't know, it is not often that predators give you so much warning to stay away from them. I see this as same as signs that say don't feed the wildlife.

Comedycook · 25/03/2024 18:53

Snowflakeslayer · 25/03/2024 18:49

If this offends you enough to start a social media post about it, then life is gonna be hard for you.

I have no more words. Just wow.

It should offend everyone. It's utterly vile, misogynistic filth which could actually scare some girls/women. Let's say you were walking down a quiet road on your own and someone drove past you with stickers like that on their car/van? Would you feel ok?

Snowflakeslayer · 25/03/2024 18:49

RosaMoline · 24/03/2024 11:40

So I was on a day trip with a friend yesterday and this van was up ahead of us in the traffic.
I’m no prude, but I think these are really offensive (you may need to zoom in)
Is it even legal to drive around like this?

If this offends you enough to start a social media post about it, then life is gonna be hard for you.

I have no more words. Just wow.

Comedycook · 25/03/2024 18:38

HenFenywFach · 25/03/2024 18:37

It's an offence, section 5 public order Act 1985;
5Harassment, alarm or distress.(b)displays any writing, sign or other visible representation which is threatening, abusive or insulting, within the hearing or sight of a person likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress thereby.

Yes this is what I thought

HenFenywFach · 25/03/2024 18:37

It's an offence, section 5 public order Act 1985;
5Harassment, alarm or distress.(b)displays any writing, sign or other visible representation which is threatening, abusive or insulting, within the hearing or sight of a person likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress thereby.

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 25/03/2024 18:31

not my cup of tea by any means but can’t get worked up about it

Although I don’t think it’s strictly legal to have that many stickers

MadMadaMim · 25/03/2024 18:29

Report to DVLA? Rear windscreen rules are different to front but guidance is that the view should not be obstructed

Ilovecleaning · 25/03/2024 18:06

Personally, I’d just think ‘What an absolute idiot’ and I couldn’t care less. However, I’d be very concerned about older children reading them.

Comedycook · 25/03/2024 12:37

Distance between cars and whether you should be able to see them if you're in traffic is irrelevant. They are also visible to pedestrians. They are on the van because the person who put them there wants them to be seen.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 25/03/2024 12:13

Allfur · 25/03/2024 11:13

The poster was referring to stationary cars

Yes (thanks) - I was indeed talking about properly parked cars and not those in a line of traffic that have temporarily halted.

When you look at the size of cars these days when compared to average parking spaces, you frequently have to get very close to them to squeeze past.

Allfur · 25/03/2024 11:13

2dogsandabudgie · 25/03/2024 10:55

When you're in a queue you are that close to the vehicle in front that you're only an inch away? You need to back off, that's far too close.

The poster was referring to stationary cars

2dogsandabudgie · 25/03/2024 10:55

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 25/03/2024 10:50

No, I can't believe that either.

Baby On Board stickers may (depending on your individual pov) be smug, annoying, pointless or whatever; but how you can compare them to these nasty stickers is completely beyond me.

Also, as for saying you shouldn't be driving that close if you can read the small writing - most vehicles spend most of their time parked and not moving at all. You can safely get within an inch away from a stationary vehicle in Asda car park.

Children who are discovering and getting a handle on the world of reading are often naturally very drawn to any words they see out and about, keen to read what they say.

Even if you don't subscribe to the 'it takes a village to raise a child' viewpoint, I personally find it abusive to deliberately display signs, pictures and messages like this in a public place (which is what the outside of a van is), where you know very well that loads of children will see them.

By no means just children, either; I can't think there are many people at all who would be delighted to see what is effectively a public noticeboard that resembles the inside of a toilet door in a seedy pub. The driver is already coming from a point of great privilege if this stuff is just a laugh/turn-on for him - it will be highly inappropriate, threatening and/or triggering to plenty of others who can't easily avoid it.

When you're in a queue you are that close to the vehicle in front that you're only an inch away? You need to back off, that's far too close.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 25/03/2024 10:50

NonPlayerCharacter · 25/03/2024 06:51

I don't think most people would take any more notice of them than the daft 'baby on board' signs that some people have in their cars.

I don't think you truly believe this.

No, I can't believe that either.

Baby On Board stickers may (depending on your individual pov) be smug, annoying, pointless or whatever; but how you can compare them to these nasty stickers is completely beyond me.

Also, as for saying you shouldn't be driving that close if you can read the small writing - most vehicles spend most of their time parked and not moving at all. You can safely get within an inch away from a stationary vehicle in Asda car park.

Children who are discovering and getting a handle on the world of reading are often naturally very drawn to any words they see out and about, keen to read what they say.

Even if you don't subscribe to the 'it takes a village to raise a child' viewpoint, I personally find it abusive to deliberately display signs, pictures and messages like this in a public place (which is what the outside of a van is), where you know very well that loads of children will see them.

By no means just children, either; I can't think there are many people at all who would be delighted to see what is effectively a public noticeboard that resembles the inside of a toilet door in a seedy pub. The driver is already coming from a point of great privilege if this stuff is just a laugh/turn-on for him - it will be highly inappropriate, threatening and/or triggering to plenty of others who can't easily avoid it.

Ilovemycatalot · 25/03/2024 09:02

Can’t believe so many women on here think this shit is ok….. it’s a sad indicator of how society is going . Can you report OP? It’s vile and if ppl want to display this shit in the privacy of their own home that’s up to them but no way should this be allowed in public.
Feel the same way about nasty ppl who feel the need to use swear words in every sentence when there out in public.

Comedycook · 25/03/2024 08:49

The more I think about it the worse I feel about it actually. Children can see it. Teenage girls walking past it may feel scared. It's actually vile.

I do wonder if it could be covered under section five of the public order act.