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Night out drama - old boss

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Geordielass35 · 24/03/2024 03:08

I've been on a hen night in Belfast. It's been a great weekend and people have been so friendly. Been drinking and dancing, went to the Titanic museum as well.

My old boss is on the hen night. She was a bitch at times when I worked with her and was very judgemental of others, including me, when I worked for her.

Anyway tonight she has clearly cheated on her husband. I saw her leave the bar with a man now I can hear her in the next room and she's not alone...

I know people that know both of them. Do I say something or just keep it quiet, since it's none of my business. I'm desperate to tell people and it's wrong what she did, but is it my business to mention it?! I'm torn on it. Reasonable or not reasonable to tell the people close to her husband?

OP posts:
Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:33

IfIHadAHeart · 24/03/2024 11:26

I absolutely will judge anyone using misogynistic language and tearing other women down by calling them sluts, dirty bitches etc. it’s abhorrent.

I spent ten years married to a serial cheat. I still wouldn’t use such awful language. You are no friend to women are you.

Wow that’s a big statement to make I’ve been through the mill but that’s not your business I’m a very girly girl actually and have many friends they are just not cheats I don’t know who you think you are calling me names you do you and I will do me have a good day

WhateverMate · 24/03/2024 11:32

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:22

I know I’ve had lots happen to me my ex partner cheated on me with someone I knew so nice woman eh so don’t tell me I should be ashamed I’m not you should be though for judging me you really have no idea so unless you have walked in my shoes keep your ashamed to yourself

To be fair, no-one needs to walk in your shoes when they can just read the awful misogyny in your posts.

I'm sorry you've been hurt, but your ex partner did that to you.

When do you ever hear men talking like you are, about other men when they've cheated?

It's quite possible to have an intelligent discussion without resorting to calling this woman vile names.

DonnaHadDee · 24/03/2024 11:30

No comment on this specific post., but Belfast is a really nice place for food/drinks, very underrated, I'm originally from the general area, so a bit biased :)

I'm in Belfast every month over a weekend and it's become very popular for hen nights post-COVID. Some of the hen parties look very wild.

LoopyLooooo · 24/03/2024 11:29

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:16

Would elastic knickers be more appropriate

And yet you took issue with a PP calling you bitter?

IfIHadAHeart · 24/03/2024 11:26

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:22

I know I’ve had lots happen to me my ex partner cheated on me with someone I knew so nice woman eh so don’t tell me I should be ashamed I’m not you should be though for judging me you really have no idea so unless you have walked in my shoes keep your ashamed to yourself

I absolutely will judge anyone using misogynistic language and tearing other women down by calling them sluts, dirty bitches etc. it’s abhorrent.

I spent ten years married to a serial cheat. I still wouldn’t use such awful language. You are no friend to women are you.

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:22

IfIHadAHeart · 24/03/2024 11:18

@Nicetobenice67

you really should be ashamed of yourself, tearing other women down in that manner. It’s not needed - men are quite happy to do it to us without us women doing it for them.

I know I’ve had lots happen to me my ex partner cheated on me with someone I knew so nice woman eh so don’t tell me I should be ashamed I’m not you should be though for judging me you really have no idea so unless you have walked in my shoes keep your ashamed to yourself

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 24/03/2024 11:21

Ha! Sadly, you probably shouldn’t say anything, but I too am naturally quite vengeful. Enjoy the power of knowledge you have over her.

MILLYmo0se · 24/03/2024 11:19

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 10:33

I understand but no she isn’t she is unsure of what to do and wants advice the right thing to do is tell him she doesn’t want to gossip with everyone else at all

She clearly says she wants to tell other people who know the couple. And again OP I understand the temptation and I would want to know if I was being cheated on BUT in her husbands eyes you are some random that has a bad history with his wife, it's your word against hers and you ve no idea of their relationship arrangements. I hate cheaters, male or female but this is not a situation to involve herself in imo, it will all be twisted against her, it's pointless

IfIHadAHeart · 24/03/2024 11:18

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:16

Would elastic knickers be more appropriate

@Nicetobenice67

you really should be ashamed of yourself, tearing other women down in that manner. It’s not needed - men are quite happy to do it to us without us women doing it for them.

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:16

LoopyLooooo · 24/03/2024 11:14

It's dreadful isn't it?

And for all the misogynistic name callers know, the woman could be in an open relationship, or hiding the fact she's separated from her husband.

Would elastic knickers be more appropriate

MissingMoominMamma · 24/03/2024 11:16

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:15

Yes I’ve addressed that

Sorry- didn’t see that!

MissingMoominMamma · 24/03/2024 11:15

WhateverMate · 24/03/2024 11:12

The PP is talking about another member of the hen party.

Although I don't know why they'd be more worried about them, as the OP hasn't stated her relationship status.

Because they weren’t in their home city and she didn’t come back to the hotel. I was thinking more about her safety than whether she was married.

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:15

MissingMoominMamma · 24/03/2024 11:14

The person on the other side of shagger didn’t come back.

Yes I’ve addressed that

LoopyLooooo · 24/03/2024 11:14

IfIHadAHeart · 24/03/2024 11:11

Some of the language used on this thread is disgusting. Slut and whore? Really?

How can women ever expect men to raise there standards when they are quite happily using the same awful words to each other.

I’m not condoning what this lady has done, but that language is completely uncalled for.

It's dreadful isn't it?

And for all the misogynistic name callers know, the woman could be in an open relationship, or hiding the fact she's separated from her husband.

MissingMoominMamma · 24/03/2024 11:14

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:10

She did come back she was shagging in the room next door to OP

The person on the other side of shagger didn’t come back.

Mumof2NDers · 24/03/2024 11:13

Hoppinggreen · 24/03/2024 09:49

I wouldnt but would take great delight in making sure she knew I knew

Just what I was going to say!
She’ll never know if you’re going to spill the beans or not! Let her suffer.

WhateverMate · 24/03/2024 11:12

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:10

She did come back she was shagging in the room next door to OP

The PP is talking about another member of the hen party.

Although I don't know why they'd be more worried about them, as the OP hasn't stated her relationship status.

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:12

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:10

She did come back she was shagging in the room next door to OP

Sorry yes I get what your saying I’m presuming she is back probably a single who was ready to mingle fairplay

IfIHadAHeart · 24/03/2024 11:11

Some of the language used on this thread is disgusting. Slut and whore? Really?

How can women ever expect men to raise there standards when they are quite happily using the same awful words to each other.

I’m not condoning what this lady has done, but that language is completely uncalled for.

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:10

LlynTegid · 24/03/2024 11:09

I think her husband should know, preferably directly from you, but indirectly is better than not at all.

💯 someone else with morals

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 11:10

MissingMoominMamma · 24/03/2024 11:08

Someone didn’t come back to the hotel? I’d be a lot more concerned about that than shagger boss tbh.

She did come back she was shagging in the room next door to OP

LlynTegid · 24/03/2024 11:09

I think her husband should know, preferably directly from you, but indirectly is better than not at all.

WhateverMate · 24/03/2024 11:09

Nicetobenice67 · 24/03/2024 10:54

what she said isn’t what she actually means she panicked she just feels awkward as she knows what was going on she had to listen to it all night so again I will say the right thing to do is tell him it is the right thing to do

You seem to know more about the OP than she does about herself?

Also, she doesn't know him to tell him and she certainly doesn't want to break it to him at the wedding.

MissingMoominMamma · 24/03/2024 11:08

Geordielass35 · 24/03/2024 09:00

Well she hasn't appeared at Breakfast. I heard a few of the others wonder where she was. I didn't say anything, really had to bite my tongue! I think they're assuming she's just hungover. I found out the girl who was in the room on the other side of her didn't come back to the hotel, so she'll be non the wiser as well.

It's been a great trip where everyone has got along. I don't want any trouble so I'll stay quiet! Her poor husband though. And I could have done with an hour or two more sleep!

Someone didn’t come back to the hotel? I’d be a lot more concerned about that than shagger boss tbh.

Noseybookworm · 24/03/2024 11:08

Why are you desperate to tell people? Mind your own business. What she's doing is nothing to do with you!

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