Night out drama - old boss

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Geordielass35 · 26/05/2024 08:40

Update to this thread is that she left her husband and is with the new man. Pleased I kept my mouth shut!

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Goodtogossip · 27/03/2024 15:14

Catch her in the morning, wink & say 'Did you enjoy your night last night?' Let her know you're aware she wasn't alone. Then have a loud convo with your friends on the way home about how some people aren't happy at home & feel the need to judge others at work. She may well get the hint that her bitching in the past towards you could have backfired on her if you were that type of person to tell her hubby & she might be more careful who she judges in future.

Topsyturveymam · 26/03/2024 16:10

If she was really horrible to you, I’d let her know subtlety that you know …and just leave it hanging there….

I feel sorry for the husband but unless I knew him, I’d stay quiet. These things have a trick of biting you back.

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 26/03/2024 14:14

Lol, I used to work with a horrible woman.

If I saw this on a night out, I would blast it everywhere. But, that's me 😁

bitteroulbag · 25/03/2024 23:33

Belfast is buzzin, init?💚 Misses point entirely 😝

TeenLifeMum · 25/03/2024 23:32

If dh shagged around on a stag do I’d expect to be told to be honest - maybe that’s because I know his friends.

TeenLifeMum · 25/03/2024 23:30

When I saw her I’d have said in front of others “omg Jane, did you sleep with that guy you went back to your room with? It sounded like it through the wall.” Then she’ll deny and you’ll say “haha glad I asked because it really sounded like you did”.

I’m a nice person but I’m also happy to be a bitch when the occasion requires it.

E17Stowmum · 25/03/2024 22:40

You've just told everyone on the internet.

dapsnotplimsolls · 25/03/2024 22:15

OldPerson · 25/03/2024 22:12

My experience is that people always do what they want to do. Whether it's wise or not.

You'll blab. Because you don't like this woman and you want revenge and will probably delight in any pain you cause her, and ignore the collateral damage to her family.

But be ready for the return fire, if you don't have any proof.

Because you just might be labelled a spiteful liar and disgruntled ex-employee, who was never any good at her job. And regardless, whoever you tell, will think you are spiteful.

Because you are "desperate to tell people" out of spite and resentment. And that doesn't really make you a nice or responsible person.

You're not running to your husband to unburden yourself. You want to run to people closest to her husband.

And you're too lazy to read all the OP's replies. FFS.

OldPerson · 25/03/2024 22:12

My experience is that people always do what they want to do. Whether it's wise or not.

You'll blab. Because you don't like this woman and you want revenge and will probably delight in any pain you cause her, and ignore the collateral damage to her family.

But be ready for the return fire, if you don't have any proof.

Because you just might be labelled a spiteful liar and disgruntled ex-employee, who was never any good at her job. And regardless, whoever you tell, will think you are spiteful.

Because you are "desperate to tell people" out of spite and resentment. And that doesn't really make you a nice or responsible person.

You're not running to your husband to unburden yourself. You want to run to people closest to her husband.

Horticultured · 25/03/2024 21:50

Ohlookwhoitis · 25/03/2024 12:22

Are you the cheater in your relationship?

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Absolutely, I currently have 4 other men on the go, it keeps the marriage alive!

Also BTW cheating on hen do's/abroad doesn't count, what happens on tour stays on tour after all!

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Geordielass35 · 25/03/2024 20:48

Lollipop81 · 25/03/2024 20:44

😂😂😂 I’m 43 and past it so yh me and my friends say girl code ha ha 😂

@Lollipop81 😂 I'm challenging myself to get that phrase into my working day tomorrow haha

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Lollipop81 · 25/03/2024 20:44

😂😂😂 I’m 43 and past it so yh me and my friends say girl code ha ha 😂

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Geordielass35 · 25/03/2024 20:33

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 25/03/2024 19:55

I'm one who said I wouldn't say anything as it's nothing to do with me, and I'm not getting involved, but,....... girl code?!
WTF sounds high school, something The Plastics in Mean Girls would say lol 😁

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@GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight 😂😂😂

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PrestonHood121 · 25/03/2024 20:29

Don't mention it to anyone else but let her know that you know and let her suffer :) :)

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 25/03/2024 19:55

Lollipop81 · 25/03/2024 19:15

Why would you even consider telling. Just because you don’t like her. What happened to girl code. And yh I would expect men to keep it secret too. It’s not your business end of. Unless you were really close to her husband then you really should stay out of it. Ready to wreck someone’s relationship for revenge, that’s pretty low.

I'm one who said I wouldn't say anything as it's nothing to do with me, and I'm not getting involved, but,....... girl code?!
WTF sounds high school, something The Plastics in Mean Girls would say lol 😁

GoldEagle · 25/03/2024 19:44

No, don't say a word. It's none of your business for a start and you probably won't be the only person who saw her sneaking off with this man. Unless you are friends with her husband, steer well clear.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 25/03/2024 19:43

RunningAwayToJoinTheCircus · 24/03/2024 03:34

I also think you'd be getting different responses if it was a man playing away rather than a woman.

Nah, I'd still say the same.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 25/03/2024 19:42

Ooft, I'd stay out of it.
She may be a shit but it's not my business and I'm not bringing bad drama to my door.

mrsdineen2 · 25/03/2024 19:21

Lollipop81 · 25/03/2024 19:15

Why would you even consider telling. Just because you don’t like her. What happened to girl code. And yh I would expect men to keep it secret too. It’s not your business end of. Unless you were really close to her husband then you really should stay out of it. Ready to wreck someone’s relationship for revenge, that’s pretty low.

Is bullying an underling at work in line this "girl code"?

Lollipop81 · 25/03/2024 19:15

Why would you even consider telling. Just because you don’t like her. What happened to girl code. And yh I would expect men to keep it secret too. It’s not your business end of. Unless you were really close to her husband then you really should stay out of it. Ready to wreck someone’s relationship for revenge, that’s pretty low.

Snowflakeslayer · 25/03/2024 18:45

Geordielass35 · 24/03/2024 03:08

I've been on a hen night in Belfast. It's been a great weekend and people have been so friendly. Been drinking and dancing, went to the Titanic museum as well.

My old boss is on the hen night. She was a bitch at times when I worked with her and was very judgemental of others, including me, when I worked for her.

Anyway tonight she has clearly cheated on her husband. I saw her leave the bar with a man now I can hear her in the next room and she's not alone...

I know people that know both of them. Do I say something or just keep it quiet, since it's none of my business. I'm desperate to tell people and it's wrong what she did, but is it my business to mention it?! I'm torn on it. Reasonable or not reasonable to tell the people close to her husband?

I would definitely say, karma has a way of catching up. Also, think of her husband. It’s simple really, if someone knew that your partner was cheating, you would want to know. And you can do it indirectly too.
You aren’t the bad one here, remember that.

Playinwithfire · 25/03/2024 18:43

Lols. The young naive bitch in me would have probably banged on the door and got in the room too realize "oops I'm in the wrong room!" An walk back out again. So that she knows you know lols

Ohlookwhoitis · 25/03/2024 12:22

Horticultured · 25/03/2024 07:17

God the holier than thou posters are excruciating!

I don't believe for a second that outside of this post, the majority of these posters who claim they would act as the moral police in this situation and would have the balls to interfere in a marriage by telling the wronged husband/wife the truth. It is not Eastenders.

If you get involved and decide to publicly meddle, you may feel a short-lived sense of self-righteousness but ultimately you will look like a shit stirrer and people will stop inviting you to events as they will feel anxious letting their hair down in your presence. Who wants someone on a night out who has form for reporting back what they have seen to people's spouses?

The dignified, emotionally mature thing to do would be to stay well out of it and be glad to not be involved in the drama. Infidelity happens within a great deal of marriages-far more than you think. You have no idea what happens between couples behind closed doors. Humans are complex beings and the black and white thought process that being a cheater equates to being a terrible person is prevalent in so many of these posts.

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Are you the cheater in your relationship?

Nicetobenice67 · 25/03/2024 11:17

Thanks everyone but I'm sticking to what I think speaking from experience I believe he should know everyone is entitled to there own opinions absolutely but i wont be budging on mine enjoy your day