To be fed up with all the threads about high earners feeling poor

How people "feel" has become so detached from objective reality. We used to actually be things (rich, poor, fat, male, short etc) now we "feel" them as if it isn't a real thing other people experience as life.

We don't realise our comparisons are people in our bubble + the lifestyle that algorithms are trying to sell you - so everyone will always feel a bit shit. Instead of reflecting on why we feel like this, we're told how valid our feelings are not told to get a grip.

People need to remember during lock down it was a lot of the lowest earners who where deemed to be the ones essential to keeping the country moving and having to be front facing.

No getting to sit at home lounging around on furlough or doing zoom meetings in their sunny gardens.

Those higher up the pay scale where often able to be working from home or off and paid.

I agree sort of agree. A lot of the time I think people that earn good salaries just don't factor in extra costs associated with their lifestyle. It's not just a case of buying a new car and that's it. If you have a big car the road tax and insurance are more expensive. My ex had a lovely car but every time there was a problem, it would be insanely expensive to sort. It was the same with his house - he would complain about the cost of it all the time. It was big.

A lot of these people can't really afford the lifestyles they have once they have it. It's a case of bad budgeting decisions rather than "not being able to afford".

Yes, thus..and often very physically demanding jobs.

🤣🤣🤣

Bonus points if you are down to own-brand beans once you have paid the school fees, the staff and the livery charges.

Oooo what they going to do? Stop paying taxes?

Seven replies until the first boring and predictable ‘race to the bottom’ comment - wow.

Anyway, yes they’re condescending. It’s crass, insensitive, and demonstrates a lack of emotional intelligence to post about it publicly - most people wouldn’t, because they know they’d likely offend some other folk.

There's been a couple of spoof threads which have been funny. Otherwise I agree 100%. 'The poor' also work just as hard.

I find them amusing as in my diamond shoes are too tight.

Pondering how can they live with a take home of 5k a month the horrors. How does anyone raise a single child on less then that 😱😱

or a new Dp moved in and she’s outraged that his ordered to pay £800 a month child maintenance for one child:…so he earns a lot then. Their baby doesn’t cost £800!!! While he earns mega bucks and she’s on mat from a 80k job or whatever 😂

It’s like reverse poverty porn love it 😂

You are so right OP. No one should be allowed to complain unless they are homeless and starving.

Oh … wait! 🤔

😂😂😂😂😂😂 what a load of rubbish

firstly people on 100k can’t afford private school - unless scrimping for 1 child

Secondly what would happen if everyone bought cheap housing? What would poorer people buy?

Thirdly piss off higher earners at your own peril as they essentially pay for the benefit system

You are absolutely not being unreasonable

I have this discussion with DH all the time. We have just had a large quote for some fitted wardrobes. He is of the opinion that his day to day work shd be able to cover this expense without having to dip into savings. We r high earners but everyone is feeling the pinch and materials/labour are all up. I think therefore it's disingenuous to moan about being hard done by because we have to spend on things we 'want' when we can get by without if we chose to.

I remember seeing a post on here about someone who earned around $190 000 but said they were still skint. 🙄

Omg, this, a thousand times over. Brilliant.

I'm fed up with the seemingly mandatory social requirement now to caveat any comment about positive personal circumstances with "... and I know how lucky I am/im very grateful for what I've got...".

Most of those threads are more 'I'm a high earner. If I can't afford the basics - a holiday once a year, a house where both my kids get their own bedroom, a meal out in an ok café, then how hard must life be for the poor?'.

It's people gradually coming to terms with the wreckage of 13 years of Tory uselessness.

Completely agree, there was one this week where the OP moaned about ‘only’ being on a wage that is much higher than mine at an age that is younger than mine, moaning about high mortgage and car costs etc and that they’d worked hard but still weren’t on more. I’m single, I’m a teacher with a masters, so I have student loans, worked hard to get where I am and work hard at work etc but I live in a one bed flat, can’t really afford holidays etc on my single income etc so it does seem tone deaf when people who earn double the national average start threads moaning about it.

It's the 'I work hard' for me. So do very many people on a low income. Stop it.

I love the classic “it’s only £20…” answer to everything. Some people do not have a spare 5p, let alone £20!

Or maybe it demonstrates that people at all levels of income are pissed off and feel they’ve been sold lies all their lives - so we might actually get the momentum for some meaningful change…

Oh MN is just awash with them, I just laugh now. Someone posted earlier about whether they should remortgage their £1.5m mortgage free house because they couldn’t afford private school fees from their £150K household income. Presumably they’re spending a lot on coke or something 🤣

Maybe try not to be bitter. It’s toxic. Just get on with your own life.