Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

I wouldn't want to sit at one table with him. Excellent choice by your son!

Or maybe she's just been busy and will log on and be like WOOOOOAHHHHH

..........His reasoning was my son was being disobedient but I'd told him three times that DS wasn't feeling a hundred percent and I don't force my kids to eat big meals when they are unwell. ..............

Maybe you sone could have reacted - but more importantly partner isn't the Dad, he's not been round that long AND you'd already told partner the situation.

.................He started ranting and raving how under HIS roof my son should have more respect. I reminded partner that we live in 2024, not 1924 and the house I owned was mine that my Mother left to me...................

His roof? Looks like you've dodged a bullet there. True colours coming out? respect is earned not granted. Telling off another person's child is fraught with problems, etiquette etc.

..............and now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect................

She should butt out, it's her son who hasn't recognised boundaries.

Whatever his positive qualities this should be a big red flag. not a recipe for long lasting happiness or security for anyone.

I hope you’re going to come back and confirm to us that it’s over, OP! The man sounds a right wanker. Don’t let him back in, block him and his interfering mother.

Also his mother sticking her oar in is unacceptable

Kick him out permanently.

Dudes the OP hasn't been back. You're wasting your time.

Who the hell made him the boss in your home? Why the hell does he think he has the right to overrule you? He is an arrogant bastard who has to run to his mummy when you stand up to him. Please make him an ex and stay single for a while until your children recover from their Dad moving out and you bringing a abusive twat into their home.

@candragonsbepurple

AIBU in thinking it's not my partner's place to parent my children - he's not a live-in boyfriend, we've been together ten months and that his Mum should keep her nose out

Glad you kicked him out of YOUR home so decisively for disrespecting you and YOUR child by turning off YOUR Wifi, which YOU pay for. He has a bloody cheek to think he can throw his weight around like this EVEN IF it was his house, utilities etc.

Let him stay at his mother's and block her everywhere. None of this is her business and she's done a sterling job bringing him up (not) and can now enjoy the results whilst he bunks in with her. Block him too and change the locks if he ever had access to your keys (don't rely on the fact he doesn't have duplicates) and, in future relationships, leave it longer before any man comes into your home whilst your children are there and thinks he can usurp parents' rights and responsibilities. Don't doubt yourself here OP - you are very well rid of this cheeky person. 🌹

I always try and keep my nose out of telling people what to do with their relationships but...

BIG RED FLAG DUMP HIM

The lack of response from OP is making me worry that she doesn’t like the obvious solution to the issue, to get rid.

Hopefully he (and his interfering Mother) is a permanent Ex Partner now.

He started ranting and raving how under HIS roof my son should have more respect

And he doesn't even live there, let alone own the house??

That would be a no from me. What a twat.

Bloody cheek

Definitely go with @Natty13 response.

Why are some women so desperate for a man that they would inflict such a bullying twat on their own children...in there own children's home and safe space??

Your child, your decision, none of his business. He needs to respect your decisions unless they negatively affect him (e.g. if you are unwilling to discipline your son who keeps smashing up partner's things). If he can't respect your decisions then he needs to leave.

Do you think it was in any way deliberate and designed to upset your son by cutting him off from his dad? At the very least it sounds like unpleasant controlling behaviour but could stray into emotionally abusive.

Partner is fine if you're committed to being together.

I say partner because I’m an adult and boyfriend sounds quite childish. My partner is not a boy and I am not a girl. Partner doesn’t have to mean living together at all - that would be cohabiting partner.

It's a silly word, they're neither a boy nor a friend. But partner rather than boyfriend means no one is a teenager or in their 20s any more.

So in her eyes, it’s ok for his mother to defend her adult son, but not ok for you to defend your young son. Wrong, wrong, wrong, especially when you were looking out for your sick son, in your own house and being a caring parent. Please never have this loser and his mother back in your life, this is just the beginning and will only get worse. Your poor son.

WHY OH WHY!! Do women move men in to their children's lives after 10 months.

You have a 7 year old daughter you crazy lady!!

What is this thing lately of calling boyfriends "partners"? I can understand it when referring to someone who lives with you on an equal basis, possibly shares child/ren with you, you love and respect each other and plan to be together always, as that's what you are. You may be married, may not be, but you have each others backs and share a life together. But when people are referring to someone they barely know, it just sounds odd!

She says in her OP that he doesn’t live there. Stop moralising about women having relationships.

Does he live with his mum?

no wonder he refers to your house as his. In his mind he’s moving in. What a cocklodger