Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

Just date non-live-in boyfriends. You don't need a boyfriend to move in with your children. And certainly not one who thinks it's okay to shut off the wifi when your child is engaged with dad. It's your house. Your children. Your rules.

I had a couple of partners like this when my children were younger (all three late 20s/early 30s now) and because I was an absolute idiot (issues including adoption/people pleasing/no confidence etc) I let them stay in my life far too long and, although my children assure me that they haven’t been damaged at all, I feel incredible guilt that I didn’t get rid of these people sooner. Now that I’m older and can see reasoning behind many of my behaviours from teens onward I understand myself so much more, but still feel that awful guilt. Well done to OP. You put yourself and your children first.

You are better off without him. Dump people who are bad news. Interfering in your parenting is bad news and so is being an adult mummy's boy

"I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect."

Tell her: right back atcha.

you definitely did the right thing there. What a darned cheek of his mother to get her oar in too. You are certainly well rid of that control freak.

I reckon your partner & his mother should get fucked. 10 month isn’t long at all for him to feel like he can have his say in your children & certainly no place for his mother to be saying anything at all. X

i’d do the same for mine, just means you are putting children first..

Single parent here. This is absolutely not acceptable. Disciplining the children should be done by you, he should stay out of it. He needs to apologize and try to understand this is no recipe for a good relationship with your children.

Holy shit get rid of him.

You know best, doing a great job and he’s a clueless knob. His Mum’s obviously giving advice cos she’s done such a great job with her hapless son. Does she really think this input is going to help her son? She should mind her own business.

YANBU

This is his attempt at controlling you in your own home.

End the relationship.

Good on you for standing your ground in your own home.

I do wonder, if you were willing to move to be nearer the Ex Husband for the sake of the kids, why you two aren’t still together. Not that you need to disclose this, it just makes me wonder that’s all. It’s nice that you can have a good relationship with your Ex.

Doesn't matter. Either way, he's got to go...

Get rid of the partner. Immediately. (And with him his busybody mother).

Sounds like you've got a rare responsible, grown-up relationship with your kids' father in the best interest of your kids. How dare your new partner interfere and start laying down the law. He's got to go!

Well, what a catch he is!

• Controlling the WiFi
• Controlling when you all eat
• Controlling when your son gets/doesn't get to speak with his dad
• Controlling how you should parent
• Controlling whose house he deems it to be
• Controlling tantrums when you dare to argue back and getting mummy to send stroppy texts on his behalf

God, he's absolutely pa-thet-ic

And this is all just in the space of 10 mths. Yuck 🤢

Get rid. Partners are replaceable, our children aren't

I think you are to be congratulated fro getting rid of him so quickly and decisively. Often people struggle on hoping that they can somehow change their partners. He obviously doesn't really care about your children. And respect goes both ways! Don't take him back and it really isn't his mother's business

This "man" would no longer be welcome in my home and around my children! An how childish to get his mother involved when he was completely in wrong. Your poor son!

Your partner sounds a bit of a twat, stopping a child having contact with his father is immature; he’s trying to get his mummy to fight his corner now sorry he’s not worth the hassle; you need a man not a wet blanket; cut him loose & look for someone who will actually care for all of you x

Still early days to have met the children, let alone thinking he has parenting rights.

This. Exactly the sort of thing my abusive ex started to do. It's my greatest shame that I didn't leave much earlier than I did to protect my children. He also targeted contact with their father. Eg putting the router where the signal wouldn't reach their rooms and bannning them from speaking to their DF anywhere other than in their rooms (where there was no signal). When we were about to move he cut the WiFi completely when my DD was doing her GCSEs so couldn't access online resources so I had to buy a mobile package.
Please please get rid of him.
(Apologies in advance that I have not yet RTFT, I had to reply as soon as I read this because it really triggered me - I will read it now).

You don't know that. She reacted when she needed to and did the right thing. It's easy to think afterwards 'Did I over react?'. Now she's been back up by posters hopefully she's already made it permanent. There's no need to be so insulting.

She claimed to be, but then came here to ask if it was ok.

She's not been back to this thread either so she's probably begged him back.

Its always cock before kids with these women.

No different than the mother of Madeline Soto.

Glad you got rid of him. Seriously I guess this "man" has very little to his name and fancies your assets snd life as a cheap way to get it.

As for his mother calling you, what better sign than you dodged a bullet. The embarrassment of it