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Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

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candragonsbepurple · 21/03/2024 20:58

My partner is childless. I have two children (A son who is eleven and a daughter who is seven)

My ex husband moved to take care of his Dad six months ago but before that we had been divorced two years. Exes Dad has cancer and he's alone (Ex is an only child and his Mum died way before I met him) I'd have moved myself and my children to be nearer to ex so they could see each other but Ex was completely adamant they stay where they are for school and their friends.

One of the ways my children communicate with their Dad is through video games. I dont know how it works but they talk to each other while they play. They do this every sunday for a few hours before tea time. Sunday just gone my son wasn't well but really wanted to play games with his dad. I said that was okay and I'd save him some dinner (I made him some eggs and soldiers)

My partner cut the wifi when my son didn't come to the table. His reasoning was my son was being disobedient but I'd told him three times that DS wasn't feeling a hundred percent and I don't force my kids to eat big meals when they are unwell. My son was understandably distraught thinking his Dad had ended the game without saying goodbye and my partner kicked off.

He started ranting and raving how under HIS roof my son should have more respect. I reminded partner that we live in 2024, not 1924 and the house I owned was mine that my Mother left to me.

I ended up kicking my partner out - He went home in a huff and now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect.

AIBU in thinking it's not my partner's place to parent my children - he's not a live-in boyfriend, we've been together ten months and that his Mum should keep her nose out

OP posts:
OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 23/04/2024 18:36

I am so pleased that you have come back and updated us.

Good on you for kicking him out, and keeping him out ! and moving on with your life.

candragonsbepurple · 23/04/2024 18:28

@ReadingSoManyThreads Life's a lot better now. I've been without wifi for a while so it's been a bit strange

Kids are having a whale of a time with their Dad and Im settling into my new home well enough. Things are okay

OP posts:
ReadingSoManyThreads · 23/04/2024 18:23

Well done @candragonsbepurple , hope you're doing good now!

candragonsbepurple · 23/04/2024 18:19

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon "One week and 21 pages later,
and

the Op never came back."

Yeah. I have a life, it included kicking my partner out and moving my kids to their Dad - Sorry I cannot be on the internet all day every day

OP posts:
Gretta83 · 27/03/2024 00:03

Get rid of bf. If this is how he behaves towards your children now, when he doesn't even live with you and them, imagine how he's likely to treat them if your relationship with him becomes more serious?

Rosscameasdoody · 25/03/2024 17:16

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/03/2024 14:09

So you decided to post to tell other people to stop posting 🤔.

She has a point though. The same things have been said over and over again.

SheepAndSword · 25/03/2024 14:12

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/03/2024 14:09

So you decided to post to tell other people to stop posting 🤔.

Indeed 😁

Although I wasn't 'telling' people.

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/03/2024 14:09

SheepAndSword · 25/03/2024 13:51

I know, I wish people would drop it. This thread is a prime example of reading the initial post then going to the end and giving advice which has been said umpteen times before

So you decided to post to tell other people to stop posting 🤔.

SheepAndSword · 25/03/2024 13:51

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 25/03/2024 11:01

One week and 21 pages later,
and

the Op never came back.

I know, I wish people would drop it. This thread is a prime example of reading the initial post then going to the end and giving advice which has been said umpteen times before

Proudofmynane · 25/03/2024 12:33

Sounds like his Mum wants rid of him too!! Fuckity Bye tho 🤣🤣🤣

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 25/03/2024 11:01

One week and 21 pages later,
and

the Op never came back.

astarsheis · 25/03/2024 09:44

There are over twenty pages of comments and no sign of the OP 😄

Jacesmum1977 · 25/03/2024 08:33

MonsteraMama · 21/03/2024 21:02

Ew, grown men who run straight to mummy when they don't get their own way should come with a warning label.

"Warning, may cause permanent vaginal closure"

Please dump this loser.

😂 this!

FloozyMcGee · 25/03/2024 01:30

The partner's mom is nothing to you, her opinion counts for nothing. Don't even discuss it with her.

You are definitely NOT being unreasonable. YOUR kid, YOUR discipline and rules about them. Let partner know he needs to accept this and support it or he needs to stay away from your house and your kids.

What a dick!

Despair1 · 24/03/2024 17:49

Definitely need to say goodbye to this one, his behaviour has major red flags

Marieb19 · 24/03/2024 16:53

You are not being unreasonable but both your boyfriend and his interfering mother are. Their behaviour is really unreasonable and a big red flag. Get them both out your lives.

Tessiebear2023 · 24/03/2024 16:43

Wait, his mum got involved? There are way too many red flags for this to just be a misunderstanding or one-off overreaction, and the mum thing puts it well over the red line for me.

protectthesmallones · 24/03/2024 16:41

He's done you a huge favour and shown his true colours early. Thank goodness you don't live together or heaven forbid, we're married. At least the exit will be relatively easy.

Don't put your children through a childhood with this man. Get out quickly and cleanly.

My mother always says if people show you who they really are, believe them. Actions speak so much more than words.

RUN!!

threatmatrix · 24/03/2024 16:14

I’d treat this as a warning sign. Deep down you know what you must do.

Nickinoo22 · 24/03/2024 15:38

Rosscameasdoody · 24/03/2024 13:56

I know. Absolutely mind boggling that an OP would light the blue touch paper and then retire. Don’t think I could be arsed to search for their other posts though.🙄

I don't even know how to search for other posts , didn't know you could 🤔 but the silence from OP is deafening.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/03/2024 15:26

blacksax · 24/03/2024 14:33

To be fair, it didn't exactly take long!

What I do find odd about the OP not coming back is that it’s despite a lot of support for her - apart from the usual few posters not reading properly and banging on about the evils of live in boyfriends. Usually OP’s do a runner from their threads because they don’t like the responses. Unless, of course, in OP’s case it’s that she doesn’t want to end the relationship for good so doesn’t want to hear that, along with his mummy, he’s a massive walking red flag for all kinds of future abuse.

blacksax · 24/03/2024 14:33

Rosscameasdoody · 24/03/2024 13:56

I know. Absolutely mind boggling that an OP would light the blue touch paper and then retire. Don’t think I could be arsed to search for their other posts though.🙄

To be fair, it didn't exactly take long!

thankyouforthedayz · 24/03/2024 14:17

OP your kids, your house, your table, your food, your decision about what, when and how they eat. This man is showing seriously abusive tendencies. Your kids are at risk. Get rid. If you want him as a boyfriend then get a babysitter sometimes and do what floats your boat but keep your family life completely separate. If you don't think you have the backbone to do that cut him out of your life. Your poor son, thinking his Daddy had abruptly ended the game. It's of course no coincidence that your "partner" chose to assert himself when your kids were having time with their Daddy, he's behaving like a fucking gorilla. As for Linda, she should learn, and should have taught the gorilla, that respect is something mutual and earned; it is very different from fear.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/03/2024 13:59

Bbq1 · 24/03/2024 13:46

This

Except that OP clearly said he isn’t a live in boyfriend. He was there for Sunday lunch.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/03/2024 13:56

blacksax · 24/03/2024 13:31

The OP started this thread three days ago and hasn't been back, nor have they ever posted anything else with that username.

Hmm

How frightfully odd.

I know. Absolutely mind boggling that an OP would light the blue touch paper and then retire. Don’t think I could be arsed to search for their other posts though.🙄

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