Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

Dump him your kids deserve better

He was trying to issue authority over your son. It’s not his roof. It’s your sons. He had ignored what you had said to your son and over reacted. I wouldn’t let the partner back in if it was me. You have only been together 10 months. Personally I wouldn’t involve someone with my children very often in a short relationship. It has nothing to do with his mum.

What you wrote makes no sense what so ever. Op needs to teach her son about dinner time, but we've all been there and you were an offender with this type of behaviour too. The man is a loony. Who flipping cares if the kid came down or not regardless. If the worst thing my kid ever does is not rush to the dinner table to eat with the rest of the family then I'd say thank you to the gods for giving me such good kids. What is this obsession with children must be taught about attending the dinner table. OK. I get it, kids need to listen and respect the rules but believe me getting them to the dinner table is the least of most parents concerns with children today.

'It's my roof and they are my children. You were invited here as a guest in our home. Now leave, and don't ever come back.'

Under his roof? It's your house!! Don't let him back in.

now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect

Ofcoarse she is, she raised a monster and when he was with you he was out of her hair. She doesn’t want him round her either.

He doesn’t need to learn anything as he didn’t do anything wrong. He felt unwell earlier on that day, which OP was already aware of. No need to force an ill child down to the dinner table. If I wasn’t feeling well I wouldn’t want to be dragged out of bed to eat food I didn’t feel like eating so why would I do that to my DD. Not everything is a cover up or excuse, learn to respect the autonomy of your DC.

@FlamingoQueen means that by ditching the partner the child will learn respect, because op will be standing up to someone who is showing no respect for others (her as the parent and the child who did nothing wrong to warrant such an overreaction)

Your child was acting within the norms of his own home (no need to eat dinner is you're not feeling well)

This man who knows nothing about parenting decided that moment was the one to choose to change the rules in an authoritarian way and binned him off though he was having time with his dad.

Then said dictatorial dickhead man who has earned no place to say this either by having raised your child threw his toys out of the pram and on a trumped up basis.

Fuck that. He needs to go.

What have the children done and they need to be taught respect for others ?

Red flags!!!!! He's asserting his authority over all of you, this will end very badly. Please for the love of god end the relationship.

@MaloneMeadow, the sentence was:

"Your son need to learn that dinner time is dinner time, all of us have been there". And I repeat, all of us have been there.

Did you never told your mum five more minutes, I'm not hungry, I don't like this dinner etc? Because I did with tummy ache and without tummy ache.
All of us have been there and it is something that we all need to learn.

Hopefully now that bit is clear, it was an appreciation of a pretty common situation and not a jump into criticism.

What I think we both agree is that her parents reaction is unacceptable.

OP you did right kicking him out.

I would consider myself lucky that he clearly showed you he has no respect for your authority in parenting your child.

Good riddance.

If you allow this odious wanker and mother back into your lives you're choosing a horrid path for yourself and your dc.

THE MAN HAS SPOKEN

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I think that you should teach your children respect - respect for others and ditch your partner.

You’re 10 months into this relationship and he’s shown himself
to be an angry control freak. Under his roof, my arse. See this as a blessing in disguise and sack him off now. And tell his mummy to fuck right off too.

Move on already!!!! Do you really need us to tell you that a man gets to dictate how you parent your child in your own home is a dick? If you want to damage the relationship between you and your son and disrupt the relationship your son has with his father, then carry on.

Wow. Who the fuck does he think he is?! 😂 and getting his mummy involved…

Tel him not to come back.

Op I’ve been the child that had to live with this type of bullying behaviour. It has been hugely damaging, even 30+ years after not seeing him.
Please don’t let this man back into your life.

Better to fund out now. The relationship would be over for me.

Did you actually even read the post before jumping to criticise? OP’s son was feeling unwell earlier on and therefore didn’t want to come down for dinner. Perfectly acceptable

And this is why I would never in a million years move a man into my children's home. Not if it was Jesus himself.