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To dislike men who seek out foreign brides

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Hartley99 · 21/03/2024 17:08

There are quite a few documentaries about this on YouTube. The guy is usually ugly or boring or nerdy (usually all three). He claims to be ‘looking for love,’ when in reality, of course, he’s looking for a sexual partner. So he goes online and searches for girls in poor countries - often Thailand or Russia. In almost every case the girl is younger and/or much more attractive than him.

Recently, there was a documentary on channel 4, and I ended up having an argument with someone at work about it. They thought the whole thing was ‘sweet’ and funny and couldn’t see anything wrong. To them it made sense. The guy got to have sex with a girl out of his league, and the girl got to move to a richer country with more opportunities. To me it just seemed revolting. However you spin it, they are taking advantage of her poverty. They know that she wouldn’t look twice at them in any other circumstance. Apparently, after the invasion of Ukraine there was a massive spike in men looking for Ukrainian brides online. I mean that says it all. Or am I being uptight and judgemental?

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BoobyDazzler · 21/03/2024 17:23

Go to Thailand, it’s full of beautiful young Thai women with fat, balding English gammons, although to be fair the only couple we spent time with seemed to genuinely get on and she seemed happy enough.

Lots of women here settle for someone for what they perceive to be a better situation than the one they’ve come from. Maybe these arrangements are mutually beneficial.

Curlyblondefemale · 21/03/2024 17:20

No your not being judgmental, I know a man who trots of to Thailand twice a year for this very reason... It's exploitive and grim.

Fluffyblobs · 21/03/2024 17:19

I agree, on incel websites there were a lot of men looking to take advantage of Ukrainian women and actively talking in a vile way about how great it was that so much of the population has been displaced and was vulnerable.

I am wary of men who purposely seek out specific ethnicities for dubious reasons - obviously

tiredandabitfat · 21/03/2024 17:19

Missamyp · 21/03/2024 17:17

I think you lost your voice and point and when you mentioned league.
What is a league?
Where are british men and women in this world league of relationship attraction tables. I think your post is crass.

Sorry.

I think both things can be true?

Using the word may be crass, but it doesn't negate her actual point?

Yes, OP, it is seedy.

Missamyp · 21/03/2024 17:17

I think you lost your voice and point and when you mentioned league.
What is a league?
Where are british men and women in this world league of relationship attraction tables. I think your post is crass.

Sorry.