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To really not want to go back to work

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Ireallydontwanttogo · 21/03/2024 07:28

I have been on maternity leave since may and I am due to go back in about six weeks. I know I’ve been really lucky to have had this time, but there are two aspects to not wanting to go back.

  1. its been lovely being able to be around during the day. Things like Mother’s Day and Christmas events for the older one. No mad rush and frantic stressing to get out of the house first thing. Being able to do things when it’s not so busy.
  2. I hate my job Sad I do three days a week and I know I’m lucky to have this much. But as everyone knows two days with very small children isn’t really a ‘break’ and there’s going to be the frantic mornings with two of them to get up and ready and out of the house. Three days at nursery feels like a lot in a way (eldest dc currently does two) and I don’t know how the baby will adapt.

There will be good things. More money and so on. I just really don’t enjoy being at work and balancing the needs of two children as well feels a lot, especially when the youngest one inevitably falls ill.

OP posts:
CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 21/03/2024 07:34

Do you have a partner? Because if so, it should be both of you balancing those needs. And when it comes to time off work because a child is ill, that should absolutely be split unless it's physically impossible for him to take time off (and by that I mean, he's off working on an oil rig, not that his job is just so much more important than yours).

What do you hate about your job? Could you get a new one?

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Ireallydontwanttogo · 21/03/2024 07:33

Oh there’s no way I could Sad

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sofiamofia · 21/03/2024 07:32

It's completely your decision. If you can afford to be a SAHM, then do. You won't owe anybody an explanation.