To ask my parents for financial help

brilliant result OP, I'm so glad for you.

This isn’t meant to be patronising - you sound like a really sensible young woman who is trying her best. If I was your mum and had the means to help you, I would. Good luck.

A concert ticket. Someone working full time and studying shouldn’t feel bad about wanting to enjoy themselves.

I have not read all the post but I am assuming you are studying for law - if my daughter was in this situation, I would happily help out. There is not harm asking for support. I think most parents would support their children trying to better themselves if they could afford it.

Some people are being super unkind to you OP. If you were my kid, I’d find the money to help you. Ask them. And, you’re not a failure. Life is hard and the stage you’re in is one of the hardest stages I’ve been through. I trained to teach at a time when you had to self fund. I only managed because of my parents. It’s literally what we’re here for. I hope they’re kind and understanding (NRTFT)

Just read through all your posts - you are working towards an achievable goal and you are working hard. They know that and want to support you. The fact they’ve gifted it to you is a bonus.

Chin up now and smile, hopefully be the last of you worries!

It's like reading 17 pages of not living in the real world.

I wish people would bother to read the full thread, or at least all the OP's, before wasting time commenting on a thread.

I'm glad it's sorted for you Op. It must feel like a weight is lifted for you.

Find out why they have chosen to give your siblings money and not you.... Take what they have offered with gratitude and don't insist on paying it back. It sounds like your family is comfortably off and can afford to support you like they have your brothers. There is no point in suffering through your studies and waiting to split inheritance with your siblings at a time in your life when you are comfortable yourself. (I am projecting ... but it does seem that you have suffered through your studies while your siblings simply asked and your parents are happy to help)

I wouldn't always be so "sure" I'm afraid.

I don't have much money, but I would give my adult DC the shirt off my back if needed.

My PiL's are the wealthiest people I've ever known - they own 14 BTL properties outright in London, and live in a £2.5m house...

4 years ago, my DH lost his job unexpectedly.

We had to move house into a rental. My DD's dance fees were due, and we couldn't afford the £45. I asked DH to ask his mum if she would help, given that it's her granddaughter, and that we would repay.
DH was reluctant, he said that she wouldn't help. I didn't believe him, so I asked her myself.

DH was right, she said no.
Apparently, we were "living beyond our means", so 8yo DD had to leave her dance class.

DH had a new job 5 weeks later, but it was a real eye-opener how some parents just won't help with costs temporarily - even when it's their grandchildren.

I should give up if I were you. I'm getting irritated by posters asking this same question multiple times don't know about you!

your not being unreasonable asking your parents for help. I’m sure they’ll want to help. I bet they’re proud of the way that you’re making something of yourself and they probably don’t realise how many expenses you have.

Please speak to your parents. I had a similar situation whilst I was at uni, I really struggled financially and this had an impact on being able to see my friends and socialise, and within a few months it impacted massively on my mental health. My mum wasn’t in a position to help me out with money but when I spoke to her she was brilliant. It took a weight off my shoulders just having that conversation with her.

Please don’t give up. There is light at the end of the tunnel and you are doing this to better your future. This is not forever although it seems like it now. You’re doing amazing.

There could be some help financially with exams maybe? Could you speak with work about any financial aid if the exams are work related and required for the job?

If you’re feeling unwell please speak with your GP as they could offer some support?

Good luck with everything xxxx

I haven’t read the full thread but I have read your posts OP.

pleased your parents are helping you out but a little surprised that they had noticed you were struggling and not having any social life at all. Even with work and study you need to kick back from time to time.

I wish you the best of luck with everything and hope you go on to have a brilliant career.

Just read the update - that’s great

Please ask them for help, I’ve had help from my parents in the past when I’ve needed it and look forward to being able to help my children when they need it, it’s not a fail given the current COL crisis

So pleased your parents were understanding and supportive. Good luck with the exams!

It’s not the LPC anymore, this is the SQE, it’s a different set up and many are paying for the exams themselves or at least parts of it. Just like many people paid out on the old system for the LPC too, but at least with the SQE their employment is now generally more fixed and not as short term as the old style training contracts.

I'm so pleased for you, I'd have done the same for any of my DC.

Good luck in your exams.

Great update OP.
Enjoy a little bit of breathing space.

🥳🥳. That's a brilliant update. I'm so pleased for you. I hope you treat yourself to a few nice things.

Now you can get back to 'just' worrying about passing those exams without the added stress of finances.

Good luck. 😊

I would be devastated if my kids didn't feel they could ask me.

@concernedchild

Yes, definitely treat yourself to a few small items, you sound like you have been very stressed!

What a lovely update OP. I'm so pleased your parents are helping you out. They must be very proud of all the hard work and sacrifice you are putting in.

Well done! It will all be worth it in the end ☺️