To ask my parents for financial help

It's not particularly revelatory - if they are old and have a house in the SE anyone in two seconds of a google search can find out house values.

The SQE results are out so I hope the poster passed. (I paid for some of my children to do post graduate law exams and course and the youngest 2 qualified this year). The poster is correct that a lot of trainee lawyers are on the minimum wage and their firms do not pay the cost of courses.

Definitely worth mentioning 2 months after the thread was written 👍

if they were surprised you’d even asked

imagine how they’d feel if they knew you’d started a threads on mumsnet, posted dozens of times, and even mentioned their net worth

pretty upset i imagine

I’m so glad you did the sensible thing and asked your parents for help, I’m Mum to two qualified professional people and, I think, like nearly all parents, I would have been really upset if they didn’t feel they could ask for help, it’s called Family! Every good wish for your exams and hope you end up earning an absolute fortune 💐

I am a parent and if you were my child I would help you as much as I could, speak to them and explain and I'm sure they will help you. Good luck with your exams!

Dont you worry about being at home at 24 - my eldest of 4 is 35 and has had to move back home - it doesnt bother me or his Dad it bothers him more I think but its just not going to happen with the enormous rental prices for sometime.
I am always keen to help my 4 if they need it and if I can. If I cant help then I can always lend ideas and support so ask Mum and Dad and give them the opportunity
Good luck and congratulations on all your hard work xx

Op, I hope my dd is as sensible as you. If she came to me with a budget and asked for help with her education, I would happily help her.

there are plenty of feckless young adults sponging off their parents. That is entirely different than a young adult who is working hard on establishing a career and just trying to make ends meet.

Good on you, OP.

You sound as though you have your head screwed on and I hope are very proud of you.

Ignore some of the wicked responses you've had.

Wishing you all the best and DON'T cancel the concert!

What's unreasonable is that you even have to ask! They see how hard you're trying and they should be helping you out while you're studying and working end of.

What concerns me a bit OP is your username. Why call yourself "Concernedchild" ? Ffs, you're 24 years old, you're an adult! You're lucky to be able to live at home rent free whilst you are doing your exams, you're just going to have to tighten the belt and budget better. You are hardly going to be destitute or starving and you're lucky enough not to have to worry about household bills and the terrible cost of living. There are a lot of people who are doing Uni that are lot worse off than you.

I must be missing something ! If any of my children were studying and struggling financially on a TC, I'd help them out if I could. Hopefully, they'll be earning very very well after qualifying. Isn't it more important to provide as much help now so that they succeed in their chosen career ? Glad your father was supportive OP. Not sure why you was afraid to ask a question. They could only say no. 😃Don't look at your friends. I'm sure you'll be earning way more than them in a few years. All the best

You do what you need to do stay with your family everyone is struggling at moment do what's best don't feel like a failure you are not things will get better ✨️

I am so glad that your parents are helping you. Most decent parents would help their child in this situation. And you sound like a very hard working lovely women. I am so glad you don't need to worry anymore. Good luck with your exams, the hard work will be worth it soon.

Speaking as a parent - you're fine! Seriously. We want our kids to do well and you sound like you are... just a wee bit of a hill to get past, and that's where we step in. If your parents are ok, so can you be.

You're doing well.

You should not feel a failure. You have done brilliantly well to get a TC in difficult circumstances - I agree that lots of smaller firms don’t pay for exams so ignore all the ignorant people questioning that. Honestly it will all be worth it when you qualify. Your income will eventually go up and in reality it’s not that far away. In the meantime, I would ask your parents for help and explain how you feel. I would hate to think my kids were worried about something and not telling me, and most parents will help if they can.

I said "money aside" meaning talk to them about how she's struggling mentally with it all if you'd bothered to read my reply.

@olivebranch31

Be open and honest with them about everything and please don’t feel guilty approaching them

She did. Days ago.

So many people don't bother reading anything other than the first post in many MN threads, not even the OP's own posts. 😂

Honestly some of the comments on this post. It’s not unreasonable for OP to want to be able to enjoy ONE concert, see their friends, or the odd coffee when they are being paid peanuts and spending all their free time studying for a solid career.

OP well done for having your head screwed on at such a young age and please remember this situation is temporary, think of how this will all pay off for you in the long run. Your hard work will set you up for financial stability in your late 20s which is a situation most your age can only dream of.

You are certainly not a failure but you are giving yourself an unnecessarily hard time. Outside of the practical advice, might I suggest you sit down with your parents, money aside, and just talk to them about how much you’re struggling in general. It’s such a stressful time qualifying to become a solicitor and the last thing you need right now is your mental health taking a turn for the worse.

If your friends are local perhaps your parents wouldn’t mind dropping you to see them, or having them come to visit you, covering your travel costs, treating you to the odd afternoon at a coffee shop, paying for little treats like concert tickets for you to look forward to.

Remember these are your parents, you are their child not their lodger and they want nothing more than to see you do well. Be open and honest with them about everything and please don’t feel guilty approaching them, I’m sure it would crush them to know you were struggling on your own.

Best of luck OP.

@DriftingDora at a push, perhaps, "comprendriez vous?" Wonder what else you might, just possibly, have been a little too self-assuredly inaccurate about?!?

If you looked it up @DriftingDora you'd find you'd conjugated it incorrectly by leaving the D in.

But every day's a school day, right? 😘

I find it incredible how few parents on mumsnet would help their kids!!
my DD will always be welcome at my house… my home will always be her home when needed… if she ever needs money and I’m able to help I would!!
If she was doing a course like yours I’d pay for it if I had the funds… and I’d pay for her to meet friends too if it kept her mentally well!! She’ll never stop being my DD & while I want her to be independent I also want her to always feel she can ask for help!

If you looked it up, perhaps you could find out that it doesn't mean anything. In any language. Because it's wrong.

Will repeat this in my head whenever a client or the other side starts to get a bit aggy for no reason haha.

Wow, impressive! 😂