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To go to a concert alone?

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SnarkMode · 19/03/2024 21:51

Has anyone done this and really enjoyed it? Regretted it?

It's a big show, not a small intimate gig. I normally enjoy my own company well enough but a bit worried it'll feel a bit flat not having someone to share the excitement with.

Generally speaking I'm not very sociable (no friends that I see outside of work) and no family who are enthusiastic about going.

Tickets are expensive - I could cover the cost of 2 mid-range seats and hope to find someone to go with me before the concert comes around or go it alone and get a really good seat just for me.

What do you think?

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Spectre8 · 20/03/2024 06:18

If you want to share the excitement look for any forums dedicated to them, on reddit, meet ups etc. You can at least post your excitement online and sometimes there are groups that meet up and u can join for pre drinks if they organise it

MassageForLife · 20/03/2024 06:11

Going to ac good solo is great! If it's standing, you can please yourself if you want to be right at the front or away from the main crowd. You can dance like nobody is watching, because even if they are, so freaking what?

Do it!

PrimalLass · 20/03/2024 06:07

Not sure there was any need for the ‘snark’ when I was just making a suggestion on how you could perhaps enjoy it a bit more in a crowd to share the ‘hype’.

SnarkMode · 20/03/2024 00:41

PrimalLass · 19/03/2024 23:26

I'd get a standing ticket and just go into the crowd. No one will bat an eyelid.

I don't think there are standing tickets - though it's hard to tell until tickets go on sale but I'm fine with seated or standing.

Again - not fussed about blending in or whether others will "bat an eyelid", just wanted to see if the excitement was dulled a bit by being there alone as opposed to having someone to share the hype with.

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UnctuousUnicorns · 20/03/2024 00:22

Why on earth wouldn't you? I've been to see my favourite band and singer (at his solo gigs) plenty of times recently, and I've been to lots of other gigs on my own in the past, ever since I was thirteen. I wouldn't think twice about it.

I've travelled to gigs all over the country recently, some with my husband, who doesn't go to the gigs with me, but we spend the weekend in a hotel for a break. Others I travel alone, going by bus as I don't drive, and enjoy a hotel room to myself.

Sometimes I will meet up with other fans that I've come to know through going to the gigs, but other times I'm alone throughout. It doesn't bother me - I'm there to enjoy the live music, not socialise. Obviously I'll chat before the performance begins, or while waiting to go into the venue, but once it starts it's just about the music.

I can't say I've enjoyed a gig any less for being alone than with other people. I've always been a front row fiend - I'm 5 foot nowt so can't see much otherwise, plus I hate being stuck among a load of people surrounding me - it makes me feel panicky and agitated. That, and I walk with a stick, my leg gets tired so I find it helps to have the barrier to lean on towards the end of the evening. I hate being seated though, it's so boring; I like to be front row stalls, the best view. Then I can just look forward to the stage, and concentrate on the band or singer. I never* *talk during a performance, and would give the evils to anyone who tried to.

whattodo87 · 20/03/2024 00:21

I saw fleetwood mac & Stevie 10yrs ago, and I went on my own as my partner stayed in the hotel with our 8 month old baby.

I felt a little self conscious if I remember, and the people who were sat next to me were surprised I was on my own but I enjoyed it (I think)

I saw that she was touring and tickets go on sale this week. I'd love to see her again and am tempted to get a ticket 😬

BobbyBiscuits · 19/03/2024 23:54

I think it'll be great. If you do want reassurance could you chat to other fans online who are going and you could see if there's a a meetup, or just knowing there's people there you chat to would make you feel less alone? I think in the case of this artist the vibe will be very positive and won't be rowdy or anything.

SkaneTos · 19/03/2024 23:44

I have. It was great!
It was a singer that no one of my friends/family members were interested in hearing.
I could only afford to buy a ticket for myself. So I did.
Even if I was there "on my own" I felt a lot of energy from everyone around me, and from the musicians, of course.

Colinorpercy · 19/03/2024 23:37

I haven’t done it myself but if it’s someone I really wanted to see i probably would. I’m in a fan Facebook group for a band I love and there’s usually always people on there around tour time that put a post on asking if there’s anyone else on their own that would like to go together-could be worth a shot?

TeaAndTattoos · 19/03/2024 23:31

Go on your own I did it when Boyzone where doing their last ever tour I went to see them on my own I had a really good seat too best night of my life and I would happily do it again.

PrimalLass · 19/03/2024 23:26

I'd get a standing ticket and just go into the crowd. No one will bat an eyelid.

thesugarbumfairy · 19/03/2024 22:59

Ive done a few on my own. For example next month im going to a jethro tull gig alone because i dont know anyone nearby who is willing to put uo with my taste in music. Actually the last time i saw them was 30 years ago and i went in my own then too 😁 Im not going to pretend i love going alone but once im there i just try to enjoy it. I also go to the theatre alone occasionally too. Not so much the cinema any more as i just wait for it to come to my telly! I say go for it.

Hecatoncheires · 19/03/2024 22:53

I’ve been to several gigs by myself, in a variety of venues, and have enjoyed every single one. However, I can understand it would be more fun to be excited about it with someone. But if it’s a choice of going by yourself or not going at all then definitely have a solo adventure.

flumposie · 19/03/2024 22:53

Do it. I saw Prince on my own when I was in my 20s and now I'm in my 50s I still go to concerts on my own if necessary.

MisfitMusic · 19/03/2024 22:49

I go to most gigs on my own, from small venues to stadiums, as well as festivals.
Some people say oh they couldn't do that, for me it's go on my own or stay at home.
Some gigs I do get talking to others around me and that can be a bit hit or miss but it doesn't stop me doing it at the next one.
I say go for it, I'm sure you'll have a great time.

whyismysoupcold · 19/03/2024 22:42

I'm like you, I would happily go to any event on my own but for something like that I'd like to share my excitement with somebody.

I'm sure you could have a chat with someone in the crowd about it. I'd rather that than go with someone who was bored 🤣

Telomeres · 19/03/2024 22:38

I've done it a few times this year and it was brilliant!

One was a huge metal gig and one a lot smaller, but both times I got chatting to people (at one there were quite a few women there alone actually) and it was nice to be able to please myself, get a drink, wander about, leave right at the end of the last song to beat the crowds.

You should do it, it's quite empowering really to do things like that by yourself, and realise that you don't have to miss out on cool experiences just because nobody you know is into it.

SnarkMode · 19/03/2024 22:12

Thanks all - I'm not necessarily self-conscious or scared to go alone - I've been to smaller gigs and theatre shows by myself.

It's Stevie Nicks and she is my absolute favourite, I'm jittery at the thought of even buying the ticket(s) when they go on sale and just feel a wee bit sad that I won't have someone I know to bounce off of and share the buzz and excitement with.

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Herdinggoats · 19/03/2024 22:12

I’ve done both options- been to concerts alone, and bought a ticket for a friend to come with me for company when they haven’t been a big fan of the artist. I much prefer going by myself- I’m not worrying about if they are liking the music or having a good time. Usually the fans around are pretty friendly. I’d say go for it.

SallyWD · 19/03/2024 22:09

I've done it dozens of times - I much prefer to go alone. If I'm alone I can get lost in the music. If I have someone with me I feel like I need to keep talking to them.
Seeing concerts alone is one of my greatest pleasures.

socks1107 · 19/03/2024 22:08

I've done a few concerts in my own, it's good fun

newmum0604 · 19/03/2024 22:06

I went to see Blink 182 on my own after waiting years and it was the best night ever. Will absolutely do it again for other gigs if I can't find anyone to go with!

Bonjovispjs · 19/03/2024 22:05

I chickened out of seeing my idol in concert in 2022 as no one I know is into him like i am, I bitterly regret it now and definitely won't make that mistake again, I absolutely would go alone.

PartOfTheFurniture12 · 19/03/2024 22:05

I'm similar to you. I've gone alone to gigs a few times and actually prefer it.

The main issue for me is that I have music tastes that are a bit different to those of my friends. While I was always glad if a friend agreed to come with me, I was acutely aware that it was just a social thing for them because they weren't actually fans of the band. As a bit of a people pleaser, I would then feel obligated to stay wherever they were most comfortable and to make sure they were enjoying themselves.

Alone, I can focus on really taking in the performance and get as close to the stage as I want.

Vinvertebrate · 19/03/2024 22:04

I’m just debating going to a small festival alone so I say go for it!