Neighbour spying on me

Just ignore them or maybe a friendly wave, if they are elderly, maybe watching all the comings and goings in their neighbourhood gives them something to do.

Exactly. If the OP didn't look at their window she wouldn't know they were looking out of theirs. Also, she can have no idea whether they are looking out of their window at other times.

I have one of these. The biggest issue is that she’s my Mother!

Why are you looking in through their windows so much? They're probably wondering why you're always staring in.

I’ve got nosy neighbours
Everytime we’re in the garden, they will open their curtains, a little while after open the window, a while after that they will close curtains, then open again then close windows, then repeat 🤣🤣
Even when I hang out washing they do the same, I wave and shout hello, then she gets all defensive 🤣 which I’ve got on camera 🤣
Ive been known to ask her if my husband is doing a good job if he’s working in the garden 🤣

They are allowed to look out their windows as much as they want, this post is ridiculous. Either be friendly and wave or ignore, also you must be looking in their house to see they are looking out. So who is the nosy one

They're hardly spying on you lol.
They probably do it to everyone.
My MiL is the same, she doesn't mean nay harm, just super nosey!!
Smile and wave!

Report them to the police.

My neighbour across the road could be accused of this BUT she is elderly, has mobility difficulties and has admitted to me she lives in her front room to watch the world go by outside of her four walls. I wave and shout hello when I see her. The plus side is she lets her neighbours know if anyone odd doing suspicious things has been around.

I look out of my front window a lot.
I WFH in front of a screen. I go and look out of my window every hour or so to give my eyes a rest and focus on something further away.
I also have a lot of plants on my windowsill which needs looking after.
And I have a radiator underneath the window which I use for drying clothes in the winter so that needs turning and folding.
And it's my window which strangely has clear glass in it to look through. I'm not spying on my neighbours. I don't care what they're doing.

Shine a bright flash light suddenly in their face especially in winter?

There isn't anything you can do, be flattered that your life is so much more interesting than theirs they feel the need to watch you so much. Try to ignore it and hope they get bored.

It’s their window, they can look out of it if they want to. You are looking back at them aren’t you? 😳so just wave or ignore them.

I’ve had a staring neighbour and he didn’t have double glazing, so we could hear him talking about us /the car to boot. I fell down outside once and heard him gasp and say oh my god, then heard his wife shush him. Hilarious. Some people are nosy, some don’t get out much. Your comings and goings are the height of their existence!

I would really hate this. I wouldn’t want to wave because it might just encourage them. I have no idea why people think it is ok. There was a poster on here that said she positioned her wfh desk by the window so she could see the comings and goings of her neighbours. She was quite judgemental about their grocery shopping. It didn’t occur to her that they might not be delighted about this. Maybe she is your neighbour!

@Bonbon249 haha. Must be the same thing, but regional. My mum is Irish so not sure if she got it from there. I've not heard anyone saying it since this thread for many years! It's a good response if you get accused of staring! Maybe my mum was just nosy, lol.

Take an extra coat or a change of clothes with you, so you go out in jeans and a blue jacket, and come home in a skirt and a black jacket, with a hat. Wear a trenchcoat with the collar turned up and a hat pulled down over your eyes, and hide behind an umbrella and try to look furtive. Walk backwards or sideways to and from the car, and give them a deep curtsey every time you see them looking. Just, you know, make it worth her while to look.

My mum used to say 'a penny cat can look at the Queen' - I don't know if it's a regional thing - I'm from the North East of Scotland.

I keep thinking my neighbours will think this about me as I always seem to be in the front room when they go in and out. It’s just coincidence plus my window faces their drive so I have nowhere else to look, I can’t leave the room discreetly either as door is by the window. I spend half my life in the kitchen (at least) and chores or wfh in other rooms in reality but whenever the neighbours park I seem to be at the front of the house.

But I would ask do they wear glasses? I’m now at an age where I need reading glasses as well as my distance glasses so quite often I’m sitting by the window reading/hobby/screen with my reading glasses on and I can’t see anything else further away in the room let alone outside.

Literally the same and I’m up from 6.30am so I’m constantly just looking outside when washing up etc! I’m definitely not spying 😂

Stuck 2 fingers up

My chair is near the window and I like looking outside. Nothing much to see, especially this time of year when trees are bare and xmas lights gone.

My "reading chair" is by the window and movement often catches my eye so I will glance up. I don't even think about it, it's just natural if a shadow passes over or a car revs.
I think if they were purposely filming you in your back garden or watching you through your bedroom window, that would be spying.

My dad likes to report to me the comings and goings of the next door neighbour, despite how many times I’ve told him I don’t care, he responds with “but what is he doing??”

I understand being unnerved by your watchful neighbour, but they are probably just bored and nosy

I don't have a car and nowhere collects. She shouldn't have started with the unhinged behaviour.

I’m not nosey I just happen to wash up a lot with how my household is so don’t just assume they are watching you