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Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:41

Hi all,
Just need to know am I BU before I knock on his door. We’ve lived our house 2 years, and we are at the top of the street in a cul de sac. I’ve attached a photo with my drive and neighbours so you know whose house belongs to who. We’ve got a weird wall a tiny bit of garden area that you can see in the photo, (highlighted with yellow) which is near the pavement. I hate that wall, and want to knock it down and build something else in the summer, but I digress.
Next door down ALWAYS put their bin and bags outside my brick wall, so therefore outside my garden/house. Now I know the pavement is the pavement, and I don’t own it, but he could easily put it outside his own house and wall (highlighted blue). It really bugs me! He will put his bin and bags at the front and around the side if he has more. Last week we got there first with the bin and bags but his food bin was there and I added mine, and later he moved my food bin to add his recycling bags. We had LOADS of recycling bags last week as we’d had a kids party at home, so he put his recycling bags on ours!
It’s peeing me off! It looks like we put out loads of rubbish, and if he’s got stuff they won’t collect in his bags then they’d be left outside our house!
Bags get collected Friday, and there is now, Monday, a bag been left outside in the last 2 hours! I know you can get fined for putting bags out early, and whilst I didn’t see him out this bag out I am 99% sure it was him.
Neighbourly relations are otherwise fine, we get on, but he is known for being a bit cheeky. My friend describes him as an odd bod as she’s known the family years.
So, is he a CF - YANBU
or am I just a PF - YABU

Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)
OP posts:
DancingQueen2018 · 18/03/2024 16:58

I have exactly the same with my next door neighbours, leaving their bins in front of a wall in front of my garden, it drives me mad. It means my bins can’t go in front of the wall and have to go over my drive and I usually leave before they’re collected so they’re in my way, whereas the neighbours go nowhere. I’m hoping that when I knock down the wall they’ll stop and actually put them on their own driveway.

i will join you in your pettiness and celebrate it 😁

Alwaysgoingforit · 18/03/2024 16:57

If it's your wall then knock it down, what's the problem? Seems a bit of a drama over nothing.

BIossomtoes · 18/03/2024 16:57

I think you need a hobby.

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:56

@UneTasse id love to knock it down, it does my head in, and I’d like to make more of a wall between the gardens and make that weird patch look nicer, whilst still putting a fence or something up (as otherwise people may think it’s part of the pavement. Won’t be before summer though

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UneTasse · 18/03/2024 16:55

Deleted because I posted twice.

UneTasse · 18/03/2024 16:54

I would say that until you move the wall, there's not a lot you can do without seeming petty.

You can knock the wall down yourself. It's small enough, and would be a satisfying afternoon, if you can get your DH to pick up all the bricks after to take to the dump. Can you afford a fence/new wall before the summer?

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:52

It’s hard to see from that photo, so the wall by the white is his, then it’s his driveway, then it’s our wall, weird patch of tiny garden and that (horrible) brick wall which runs with the pavement.
The wall doesn’t border his garden, its borders mine.
@UneTasse yes that’s ours too. It’s such an odd patch, but it’s ours on the deeds. Where I have written “his” that’s his driveway. Anything to the right in the photo is ours

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UneTasse · 18/03/2024 16:49

Wait, so is the red brick wall yours? And the piece of grass I can see to the LEFT of the red brick wall is yours too? The sloping path down to the pavement - is that yours or his?

DilemmaDelilah · 18/03/2024 16:48

I imagine that he thinks that as the wall borders his garden, just not at the front, it is perfectly fine. That is what it looks like to me anyway.

As it is, it wouldn't bother me particularly, unless the bins are overfull, bags split etc., in which case I might discuss it with him. It's not a hill I would be prepared to die on if I got on OK with my neighbour generally.

If he's leaving his bins out too long/putting them out too early, then I think I would just make sure my own bins are numbered, so it's obvious that if they are un-numbered they are not yours.

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