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Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:41

Hi all,
Just need to know am I BU before I knock on his door. We’ve lived our house 2 years, and we are at the top of the street in a cul de sac. I’ve attached a photo with my drive and neighbours so you know whose house belongs to who. We’ve got a weird wall a tiny bit of garden area that you can see in the photo, (highlighted with yellow) which is near the pavement. I hate that wall, and want to knock it down and build something else in the summer, but I digress.
Next door down ALWAYS put their bin and bags outside my brick wall, so therefore outside my garden/house. Now I know the pavement is the pavement, and I don’t own it, but he could easily put it outside his own house and wall (highlighted blue). It really bugs me! He will put his bin and bags at the front and around the side if he has more. Last week we got there first with the bin and bags but his food bin was there and I added mine, and later he moved my food bin to add his recycling bags. We had LOADS of recycling bags last week as we’d had a kids party at home, so he put his recycling bags on ours!
It’s peeing me off! It looks like we put out loads of rubbish, and if he’s got stuff they won’t collect in his bags then they’d be left outside our house!
Bags get collected Friday, and there is now, Monday, a bag been left outside in the last 2 hours! I know you can get fined for putting bags out early, and whilst I didn’t see him out this bag out I am 99% sure it was him.
Neighbourly relations are otherwise fine, we get on, but he is known for being a bit cheeky. My friend describes him as an odd bod as she’s known the family years.
So, is he a CF - YANBU
or am I just a PF - YABU

Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)
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Dutchesss · 18/03/2024 17:36

Put yours in front of his house.

BMW6 · 18/03/2024 17:30

I agree with putting your rubbish on in front of his house!

If he then moves yours move his!

Alwaysgoingforit · 18/03/2024 17:27

Talk about pratting about, 'put your rubbish outside his place' yeah, all childish and stupid advice. When you can afford to knock the wall down, and sort out your drive way. I really couldn't be bothered with this but would say something to him in the mean time.
No point having a massive fall out over rubbish and recycling bags.

ohdamnitjanet · 18/03/2024 17:26

Put your rubbish outside his house.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 18/03/2024 17:23

Agree with a PP, just put your rubbish in front of his house instead, hopefully he'll get the message after a couple of weeks

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 17:21

@PlimplePlop and sometimes the neighbour up does park there, but that’s another thread … 🤪

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 17:20

@PlimplePlop sometimes his family park there, but no one ever parks on the pavement in this street, it’s quite wide and loads of drives and room so no need. Everyone else puts their bins on the pavement outside their house.

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charabang · 18/03/2024 17:18

You have my sympathy. I live in a cul de sac and my neighbour always leaves her bin outside my half of our joint garden making me look like the lazy arse who doesn't take the bin in. DD has started moving it to the nighbours half and I suggest you do the same. Shift the neighbours rubbish back to his house over and over again til he gets the message.

kirbykirby · 18/03/2024 17:16

Just put your rubbish outside his house?

Isittimeformynapyet · 18/03/2024 17:16

I wouldn't risk bad feelings with neighbours over this.

PlimplePlop · 18/03/2024 17:13

On your first photo there is a car parked on the street alongside his bit of wall. Is that the norm? Is he putting the bins to your side to avoid the parked car/ blocking the pavement. Presumably cars don't park outside your bit of wall as its on a curved piece of pavement.

Some neighbours of mine had an argument about very similar situation and it all became very ugly so I would always urge caution when it comes to potential neighbour disputes.

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 18/03/2024 17:12

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:59

It’s not the wall that’s the issue, it’s that he’s putting his bin, recycling bags and food waste outside someone elses house. Is that normal? Would you care if someone was putting their bins and bags outside your house along side yours on bin day?

Hmm, I feel exactly the same way. Live in a corner block and our rear neighbour puts their bins out in front of our property at the very back rather than in front of theirs.

Of course I'd be incredibly petty complaining, but on the odd occasion there have been lots of cars parked on the side I have parked there in that spot and don't bother moving it (don't need to drive every day) and in Australia the rubbish is removed by trucks directly and if the truck arm can't reach the bins, they don't get collected, so the neighbours have to put their bins in front of their own driveway/property.

But it doesn't look like you can park there - or could you park half on the footpath and completely block it off?

Ariela · 18/03/2024 17:10

I'd just move his rubbish every time.

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 17:09

@Curioushorse @RandomMess both options I have thought of but wanted to check if I was the petty one before starting some kind of unnecessary bin war. Just pees me off. I hate that section and want it changed but its always full of his recycling bags which makes it worse

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DinnaeFashYersel · 18/03/2024 17:08

You are being a PF - sorry but you are

RandomMess · 18/03/2024 17:07

Move his rubbish onto his drive every time??

Curioushorse · 18/03/2024 17:06

So I'd probably let him put his rubbish out, then put mine in front of his house....

LenaLamont · 18/03/2024 17:05

Sorry, cross posted with your second photo. He's a CF.

LenaLamont · 18/03/2024 17:05

I think that would get on my (petty) nerves too.

It's not next to his property, it's on the other side of a walled-in strip of your garden! If it that wall were on the far side of his drive, rather than bordering a strip of herbaceous border, he'd not be particularly unreasonable, but putting it outside your property alongside your side garden is being a bit off.

In fairness to others, though, that first lower wall of yours is hard to spot in your photo.

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 17:04

This may be outing but whatevs!ok this is me standing by my house looking the other way, border is in red. You can see the weird patch behind the wall. But still, he’s putting all his rubbish out in front of it, and now even moving our rubbish to make room for him. We have nowhere else to put ours where as he has the other side which is outside his garden. I find it so odd (drive is due a jet wash!)

Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)
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JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 18/03/2024 17:02

Is he putting his bags around the corner in front of your drive or is he putting them in front of the short bit of wall alongside his drive. If it's the former then he's being a CF, if it's the latter I wouldn't be too bothered.

DancingQueen2018 · 18/03/2024 17:00

The only solution I have is to move them back to his bit of the wall, sorry.

Alwaysgoingforit · 18/03/2024 17:00

It would be obvious to anyone with even half a brain cell, where the pavement is if the wall was removed.

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 17:00

@DancingQueen2018 hello, nice to meet you 👋🏼☺️

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:59

It’s not the wall that’s the issue, it’s that he’s putting his bin, recycling bags and food waste outside someone elses house. Is that normal? Would you care if someone was putting their bins and bags outside your house along side yours on bin day?

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