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Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:41

Hi all,
Just need to know am I BU before I knock on his door. We’ve lived our house 2 years, and we are at the top of the street in a cul de sac. I’ve attached a photo with my drive and neighbours so you know whose house belongs to who. We’ve got a weird wall a tiny bit of garden area that you can see in the photo, (highlighted with yellow) which is near the pavement. I hate that wall, and want to knock it down and build something else in the summer, but I digress.
Next door down ALWAYS put their bin and bags outside my brick wall, so therefore outside my garden/house. Now I know the pavement is the pavement, and I don’t own it, but he could easily put it outside his own house and wall (highlighted blue). It really bugs me! He will put his bin and bags at the front and around the side if he has more. Last week we got there first with the bin and bags but his food bin was there and I added mine, and later he moved my food bin to add his recycling bags. We had LOADS of recycling bags last week as we’d had a kids party at home, so he put his recycling bags on ours!
It’s peeing me off! It looks like we put out loads of rubbish, and if he’s got stuff they won’t collect in his bags then they’d be left outside our house!
Bags get collected Friday, and there is now, Monday, a bag been left outside in the last 2 hours! I know you can get fined for putting bags out early, and whilst I didn’t see him out this bag out I am 99% sure it was him.
Neighbourly relations are otherwise fine, we get on, but he is known for being a bit cheeky. My friend describes him as an odd bod as she’s known the family years.
So, is he a CF - YANBU
or am I just a PF - YABU

Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)
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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 19:37

@Mynewnameis game on 😂

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 19:36

@Viviennemary nope it’s a wide street with plenty of room even with cars parked both sides. It’s just odd. I just didn’t want to chat to him if it was me being unreasonable. He definitely knows that area is ours. It’s so clear anyway but I know some people do like a land grab, but he sat and talked to my husband the year we moved in, whilst my husband removed the mega bush that had grown in that weird garden area.

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Mynewnameis · 18/03/2024 19:34

Yes it would annoy me and I'd start petty bin wars

m00rfarm · 18/03/2024 19:32

Viviennemary · 18/03/2024 19:29

Its a bit annoying. Like folk parking outside your house when they can park outside there own. But if the bins are only there for a few hours I can't see the big deal. Is there a reason why he can't put them outside his own house maybe there's cars parked and the bin lorry can't get access. Who knows. I wouldn't make a fuss or even say anything .

Because he it putting rubbish out four days early (which may cause a fine to be issued) and means that there is twice as much trash left out as there are two houses - which means that the bin men may report that there is too much trash, or actually leave some behind.

m00rfarm · 18/03/2024 19:29

Can you not just ask him why he puts it there - it is not his wall, and therefore he needs to put it somewhere else.

Viviennemary · 18/03/2024 19:29

Its a bit annoying. Like folk parking outside your house when they can park outside there own. But if the bins are only there for a few hours I can't see the big deal. Is there a reason why he can't put them outside his own house maybe there's cars parked and the bin lorry can't get access. Who knows. I wouldn't make a fuss or even say anything .

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 19:26

And I just remembered, when he has something to put out for the scrap man, such as a small item kettle, toaster etc, he puts it on my side of the wall! Just remembered that. That peed me off as well

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 19:25

@MrsElsa , no he has a long bit of wall down from his drive. See the blue line in the first pic, that’s his front wall and it goes down further than in the photo. It’s quite a long garden. So the bit by the wall is the only bit of pavement that my house has to put the rubbish.

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MrsElsa · 18/03/2024 19:23

But... you both have drives. The only bit of pavement not connected to a drive is the bit with the wall. So the bins go by the wall or else the drive is unusable, right? If he put his bins out front of his house he wouldn't be able to use his drive?

ColleenDonaghy · 18/03/2024 19:17

I just can't imagine caring where my neighbours put their bins on bin day. Grouping them together makes it easier for the collectors surely.

Putting stuff out early is irritating but if it's a one off I'd assume he's going to be away and had no one to ask. If putting it out early is a common thing then I think it's fine to ask him to put it outside his own house.

WoofPootle · 18/03/2024 19:15

I’d move his bins so they’re blocking his drive, but I’m petty like that.

BobbyBiscuits · 18/03/2024 19:08

@Noshowlomo I played the long game. Put in an objection to their planning application when they were selling. My new neighbours love me as it meant they got the house for several thousand cheaper. Lol. No more bin dramas.

icelollycraving · 18/03/2024 18:52

I would definitely just move it in front of his house. If he moved it back, I’d go and ask why he’s putting it there. This round drive me mad too!

Notchangingnameagain · 18/03/2024 18:50

This has reminded me though of my sister and her neighbour. They had a tug of war over bins. He put them outside her wall, she put them outside his wall and he put them back. It went on for a year. She was renting and has moved now. We sometimes think about driving past on bin day to see where his bins are!

Notchangingnameagain · 18/03/2024 18:48

This wouldn’t personally bother me.

In my street some of the neighbours put their bins and food waste together in one place on a piece of path. You don’t know whose extra bags belong to who. It’s outside my house, but I don’t use it so I’m not bothered.

The bin men have never objected.

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 18:46

@BobbyBiscuits thats awful! 😮 what did you do after that?

That wall has got to go! 😩

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BobbyBiscuits · 18/03/2024 18:43

That little wall is certainly unique looking. Haha. I think all you can do is politely ask if he would mind placing his bins along his own boundary. If he carries on you might need to move them to his side until he gets the message.
I had a neighbour once who used to put their bins all the way along my railings, even though their house was double the size so plenty of space to go along their own railings. I complained and then they dumped two sacks of used cat litter outside my front door in retaliation. Charmers they were.

wordler · 18/03/2024 18:42

I'm fairly very passive aggressive so I would be moving his stuff back to in front of his house each time.

Let him come and ask you what's going on.

PegasusReturns · 18/03/2024 18:41

That would annoy me too!

I wouldn’t want to start a battle so wouldn’t move anything outside his house but id be knocking the wall down and planting up your bit of garden overnight.

Notwhatyouwanttohear · 18/03/2024 18:33

Put your rubbish outside of his house.

If the binmen leave leave any bags as they're contaminated either sling them infront of his house or contact the council and report him for fly tipping.

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 17:55

@RedDoughnut there is a hill, the street is quiet long and steep, but everyone else down manages it. I don’t know why. Asserting his dominance?! No idea. I’ve let it slide, but that moving my food waste bin that was outside my wall to make room for his bags really peed me off!

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RedDoughnut · 18/03/2024 17:53

It looks like you are on a bit of a hill? Is he worried they will roll away?

If he's an ok sort of person I'd be juvenile enough to be on alert and have a full bag just inside my front door and fly out the moment I saw him
and say
hello Brian, why are your bags on my side of the drive and not yours? Are you throwing away something dodgy?
Followed by a Mumsnet tinkly laugh.

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 17:49

@RedDoughnut he definitely can’t see the bins or bags, as there is a wall, so I have no idea.
There are no dramas otherwise, all our neighbours are lovely, just this one thing is so weird to me.

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RedDoughnut · 18/03/2024 17:41

This would also drive me mad.
I'd possibly be ok if it was just the morning before collection but any earlier than that I'd be petty too.

What do you think his justification could be?
It's not parking on the pavement.
Could he see the bin bags from his window?

Hecatoncheires · 18/03/2024 17:40

Yeah, it would bug me too.

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