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Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:41

Hi all,
Just need to know am I BU before I knock on his door. We’ve lived our house 2 years, and we are at the top of the street in a cul de sac. I’ve attached a photo with my drive and neighbours so you know whose house belongs to who. We’ve got a weird wall a tiny bit of garden area that you can see in the photo, (highlighted with yellow) which is near the pavement. I hate that wall, and want to knock it down and build something else in the summer, but I digress.
Next door down ALWAYS put their bin and bags outside my brick wall, so therefore outside my garden/house. Now I know the pavement is the pavement, and I don’t own it, but he could easily put it outside his own house and wall (highlighted blue). It really bugs me! He will put his bin and bags at the front and around the side if he has more. Last week we got there first with the bin and bags but his food bin was there and I added mine, and later he moved my food bin to add his recycling bags. We had LOADS of recycling bags last week as we’d had a kids party at home, so he put his recycling bags on ours!
It’s peeing me off! It looks like we put out loads of rubbish, and if he’s got stuff they won’t collect in his bags then they’d be left outside our house!
Bags get collected Friday, and there is now, Monday, a bag been left outside in the last 2 hours! I know you can get fined for putting bags out early, and whilst I didn’t see him out this bag out I am 99% sure it was him.
Neighbourly relations are otherwise fine, we get on, but he is known for being a bit cheeky. My friend describes him as an odd bod as she’s known the family years.
So, is he a CF - YANBU
or am I just a PF - YABU

Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)
OP posts:
HappiestSleeping · 19/03/2024 11:47

HappiestSleeping · 18/03/2024 23:14

That area lens itself really well too having the wall next to the road taken down, a higher fence next to the neighbours drive, the bit at the front removed, and then the whole thing made into a bin store for you.

*Lends

Noshowlomo · 19/03/2024 11:45

Thanks all. 64% of voters think he’s the CF, so maybe Im not being petty. Just what to do next. (Really don’t want neighbour disputes but also know that CFs act the way they do because they rely on others not challenging them or saying anything!)

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slippedonabanana · 19/03/2024 00:16

Putting out bin bags days early is completely unreasonable. He must have no shame to make people look at that on the street.

HappiestSleeping · 18/03/2024 23:14

That area lens itself really well too having the wall next to the road taken down, a higher fence next to the neighbours drive, the bit at the front removed, and then the whole thing made into a bin store for you.

Cornishclio · 18/03/2024 23:03

Doesn't that mean his bags are blocking part of your driveway if you park right near the bit adjacent to his and the wall round the extra bit of garden?

He is a CF putting his rubbish out so early. Also a CF to put beside your wall rather than in front of his. I would be tempted to move his rubbish bins and recycling to outside his house until he gets the message. Say you don't want to look at them all week.

TheSoundThatIWasHearing · 18/03/2024 22:38

Start putting your bins outside his house. If he challenges you, just say you have to do it as he is taking up the space outside your house.

pontipinemum · 18/03/2024 22:18

Are his bins up the top of his drive? Is just the easiest way to walk it down? Or does he come out the front door and walk right past his wall?

I think it might annoy me especially if it's your only space to leave your bins

Annielou67 · 18/03/2024 22:05

I would go and knock on the door. Check nicely that he knows that is your land and then ask him nicely to put his bins by his own wall.

Thementalloadisreal · 18/03/2024 21:49

Ariela · 18/03/2024 17:10

I'd just move his rubbish every time.

Yeah just move it back to outside his own house

Aria999 · 18/03/2024 21:45

Curioushorse · 18/03/2024 17:06

So I'd probably let him put his rubbish out, then put mine in front of his house....

Yes this

Alwaysgoingforit · 18/03/2024 21:33

Doesn't anyone actually speak to anyone else anymore? A lot of the responses are passive aggressive actions.
Okay, the neighbour sounds a bit of a twunt, but at least try saying something to him about it.

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 21:31

@Bumblebeeinatree its definitely ours, the second photo I posted shows it from the other side, looking down from my house.

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Bumblebeeinatree · 18/03/2024 21:20

Weird the way the wall cuts back, it looks like across his property? Do you have the LR plans? If I was him I would think I had rights to that bit, if I understand it correctly

Bumblebeeinatree · 18/03/2024 21:12

Move them back in front of his house and put yours there.

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 21:07

@Ellie1015 the blue line is just where his front wall is and the pavement. It’s not a path, just pavement that goes down and up the street. The houses down from him put their bins and bags on the pavement in front of their garden walls.

@woahhhh previously, there was no drive just a garden with a brick wall and gate. The people before us put a drive in so it’s all open, apart from that weird little bit. It is so weird

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woahhhh · 18/03/2024 20:57

MrsElsa · 18/03/2024 19:23

But... you both have drives. The only bit of pavement not connected to a drive is the bit with the wall. So the bins go by the wall or else the drive is unusable, right? If he put his bins out front of his house he wouldn't be able to use his drive?

No. Try again.

woahhhh · 18/03/2024 20:54

Separately why was that wall ever built? Is that little area for bin storage?? I can't imagine why else it would have been sectioned off like that.

I'd just move his bins to outside his house. If he says anything just tell him you don't like anyone else's rubbish outside your house as you need it for your own rubbish and it looks unsightly having both your rubbish and someone else's rubbish outside YOUR HOUSE.

Ellie1015 · 18/03/2024 20:47

I think where he leaves it is the most logical space. At the blue area it will block more of the path. And no sense in blocking his own driveway.

If you are worried it looks like you leave loads of rubbish out then dont as any rubbish there looks like it is his.

olympicsrock · 18/03/2024 20:36

I think he’s an absolute cheeky fucker and would talk to him about it.
Brian - I’m sorry to mention but would you mind not putting your rubbish by my boundary wall. There isn’t always enough for my own bins and I’d rather not have to move things from my driveway when I’m in a hurry . Sorry to mention it but it is bothering me. Thanks so much.

Jeannie88 · 18/03/2024 20:22

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:59

It’s not the wall that’s the issue, it’s that he’s putting his bin, recycling bags and food waste outside someone elses house. Is that normal? Would you care if someone was putting their bins and bags outside your house along side yours on bin day?

I agree. Why doesn't he just leave them outside of his own house! Very strange and, yes, annoying. X

Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 20:12

@TempName247 nope never any cars parked on the curb, the pavements and roads are wide in my street. The houses down from him manage it. It’s just strange.
I don’t want to be a dick, if it’s me that’s being a dick, but it’s weird. Next door up from us have a wall that I would never dream of chucking my bags and bin in front of.

@ReadingSoManyThreads we will need something there but maybe a nice fence that’s lower on our side, as no one will distinguish between us and the pavement then, but not sure what yet.

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LivingDeadGirlUK · 18/03/2024 20:11

Put your rubbish by his wall.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 18/03/2024 20:08

I don't think knocking the wall down will make a difference, he'll still put it there. I know you're not knocking it down because of this, but it won't help. Will you then be able to see his rubbish from your house with the wall gone?

This would piss me off. I think I'd either ask: "Brian, why do you put your rubbish on our boundary?", or just start putting your rubbish outside his, but he might not even notice that if you're putting it out on collection day.

TempName247 · 18/03/2024 20:03

It looks like if he put them along his white wall then it would block the pavement for pedestrians (cars parked on kerb?) the corner where your wall is seems to be wider to tuck the bins in. So he might think it is considerate rather than cheeky.

Boomboxio · 18/03/2024 19:45

Start growing your new giant gnome collection in that spot and put your rubbish outside his wall.

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