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Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)

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Noshowlomo · 18/03/2024 16:41

Hi all,
Just need to know am I BU before I knock on his door. We’ve lived our house 2 years, and we are at the top of the street in a cul de sac. I’ve attached a photo with my drive and neighbours so you know whose house belongs to who. We’ve got a weird wall a tiny bit of garden area that you can see in the photo, (highlighted with yellow) which is near the pavement. I hate that wall, and want to knock it down and build something else in the summer, but I digress.
Next door down ALWAYS put their bin and bags outside my brick wall, so therefore outside my garden/house. Now I know the pavement is the pavement, and I don’t own it, but he could easily put it outside his own house and wall (highlighted blue). It really bugs me! He will put his bin and bags at the front and around the side if he has more. Last week we got there first with the bin and bags but his food bin was there and I added mine, and later he moved my food bin to add his recycling bags. We had LOADS of recycling bags last week as we’d had a kids party at home, so he put his recycling bags on ours!
It’s peeing me off! It looks like we put out loads of rubbish, and if he’s got stuff they won’t collect in his bags then they’d be left outside our house!
Bags get collected Friday, and there is now, Monday, a bag been left outside in the last 2 hours! I know you can get fined for putting bags out early, and whilst I didn’t see him out this bag out I am 99% sure it was him.
Neighbourly relations are otherwise fine, we get on, but he is known for being a bit cheeky. My friend describes him as an odd bod as she’s known the family years.
So, is he a CF - YANBU
or am I just a PF - YABU

Is he a CF, or am I a PF (petty f-r!)
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Speakingofdinosaurs · 18/04/2024 21:07

Please please please just go out there this weekend with a sledgehammer and knock down any wall to the left of that pillar adjacent to his drive so in effect there’s just a bit of flat garden at the edge/end of your drive.
Eventually you can make it look nice and pretty but for now no ‘wall’ for him to stack anything in front of - job done! 😁

wordler · 18/04/2024 20:13

If he puts his other bin outside his wall, I suspect that he's 'forgotten' that bit of wall space is yours and just thinks of it as putting his bins out either side of this driveway. If I were you I'd stop fuming silently and go round and say you'd rather he didn't put stuff outside your wall. Any passive aggressive moving of stuff will end up with more aggro than a short conversation.

Because even if you knock the little wall bit down and put something else there, it's likely he might still keep putting his stuff there.

VJBR · 18/04/2024 19:19

Why don't you just keep moving it and dumping it outside of his garden or better still in it.

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Noshowlomo · 18/04/2024 19:17

@Bloom15 it just looks so messy outside my wall, and it’s not my mess!

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Bloom15 · 18/04/2024 18:40

I couldn't get excited about this to be honest

HappiestSleeping · 18/04/2024 18:05

@Noshowlomo If you are absolutely 100% it's his (if I recall correctly, I think you had a camera), I'd just push it all to the right a bit, onto his drive and put yours in it's place. Or just push it onto his drive and not put anything in its place.

Or as someone said above, knock and say "someone has dumped all this outside my wall, I don't suppose you saw who did you?"

Morred · 18/04/2024 17:58

I’d shuffle all that along so it blocks his drive completely and then put my bins up against my wall. Preferably do it while he’s out at work today so he can’t drive back onto his drive.

But I am also a petty fucker, so…

Cherryflavouranything · 18/04/2024 17:40

I think he’s worried the bin men won’t see it if he puts it outside his wall, because there’s a car parked in front.

Not that that excuses it.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 18/04/2024 17:33

Can you shove his stuff back in front of his driveway and put your stuff out? He honestly sounds weird. He doesn't want his crap in front of his house, but happy to clutter up your frontage. Cheeky git.

If you remove the wall, will he just dump his stuff in the "freed up" space?

Mountainpika · 18/04/2024 17:26

Drive needs a jet wash?
Do it just as he comes out and dumps his rubbish by your wall......

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Noshowlomo · 18/04/2024 17:23

@kaben the car is on the road and the pavement is clear. He’ll put his black bin there later, but his bags, food waste, garden waste, anything for scrap man, always go outside our wall. I don’t understand it ! Others down the street put their stuff outside on the pavement so there is no issues with space

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kaben · 18/04/2024 17:20

he is being a bit unneighbourly, but it seems the reason is that if he put it outside his wall, there's a car parked there and the pavement would be blocked.

NeverEnoughPants · 18/04/2024 17:09

If theres no room outside your wall, you absolutely should put stuff outside his. Why wouldn't you?

BIossomtoes · 18/04/2024 17:07

but am I within my rights now to put stuff all in front of his wall.

If you could be arsed. I couldn’t and it would make me laugh if I was him.

thinkfast · 18/04/2024 17:03

Knock on his door:
"Hi neighbour. There's a load of cardboard dumped against our wall. Do you know who left it there? Oh, it's you? Could you move it please as it's on our wall. Thank you."

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Noshowlomo · 18/04/2024 16:58

Im back. I came home today, and as per photo attached, he has stuck a LOAD of cardboard boxes against our wall for collection. You can see some of it poking over onto his drive. Any wall and area that I’ve coloured red and to the left of that in the picture is ours (and we’re still planning on doing something with that useless horrible looking area) but am I within my rights now to put stuff all in front of his wall. We have no room to put all our bags at the front, and quite honestly he’s got about 12ft of wall he can put all his stuff against!
Grrrr

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Noshowlomo · 20/03/2024 17:39

UPDATE- for anyone who cares (and I totally understand if you don’t!😂)

The bag that I was 99% sure he put out Monday, was 100% him. My husband put it behind our wall on that weird patch as didn’t want it outside our house before collection day. Next door has just now put his own big bin outside HIS wall and moved the bag from the patch out onto the street in front of our front wall and put his food waste bin there as well. I shouted to my husband and he went out (neighbour still out) and said “oh that’s your bag is it. I moved it as we can get fined for having bags out too early” and neighbour said “I was having a funny moment and forgot what day it was”. Raging at husband for not saying “we thought someone had dumped it outside OUR house/wall” Anyway full steam ahead now for getting rid of god awful wall and putting up something nicer with a taller boundary and a nice big sign that says our house number where he sticks his food big. Petty and passive aggressive !

and it’s still a day early, collection isnt until Friday.
Thanks for listening…

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Noshowlomo · 20/03/2024 12:45

Bags are normally put out tomorrow, so let’s see..

Thanks for all your input

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Noshowlomo · 19/03/2024 15:40

@woahhhh there is a proper boundary wall- you can see it in my second picture. That little wall is part of the original wall that was built when the house was built about 40 years ago. There used to be a garden and no drive then

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qotsa · 19/03/2024 12:03

I feel like the high, pillared bit of wall on the little garden patch should be the other side. Then the area would be perfect for bin storage on your land too. Seems odd that way round, although I can see there is a low wall at the far end.

I wonder if previous people built the little wall to hide the bins from their side. Weird not to have a proper wall running down the boundary too. That weird small ledge instead

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Noshowlomo · 19/03/2024 12:17

@qotsa i agree, I’d like to raise that wall, and then put a small little fence where the ugly wall is, but much smaller than it is now, but still clear that it’s part of our garden. Put some nice plans in as well.
Exactly, otherwise everything is great and we all get on.

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qotsa · 19/03/2024 12:07

I would just speak to him in a friendly way and say the ONLY place you have to put your rubbish is there so please could he put his alongside his own wall as otherwise you don't have enough space. Thanks. Have a great day Grin It would definitely bug me too, but, it's public land realistically and getting on the wrong side of neighbours is an awful situation to be in.

qotsa · 19/03/2024 12:03

I feel like the high, pillared bit of wall on the little garden patch should be the other side. Then the area would be perfect for bin storage on your land too. Seems odd that way round, although I can see there is a low wall at the far end.

moonfacer · 19/03/2024 11:58

He's a knobber, don't let him get away with it.

Codlingmoths · 19/03/2024 11:50

I’d just move his stuff. And do a big number on my bins. Do that for a month or two and if he doesn’t get it you can either have a polite word or move it to the middle of their drive instead, since they could not possibly not realise you are moving their rubbish from in front of your property.