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To think DH cant come to this

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KatieBr · 18/03/2024 07:59

So I am working away in London for a few nights (never had to before so don't really understand the rules)

DH said as neither of us have been to London, he could join me (obviously pay for his own transport) but surely he wont be able to stay in my hotel room?

OP posts:
MarkWithaC · 19/03/2024 10:45

Eee, the chips on people's shoulders about London! Grin
It just DOES have more art and culture (and shops, cafes, tourist attractions etc) than other places in the UK. That's just straight-up fact. I don't know why it's a 'sacred cow' Confused

And the sweeping generalisations (largely by people who've never been) about the dangers of the tube Confused, the filthiness of the whole place Grin and the knife fights on every corner Grin
I mean, rather than embarrass yourselves by parroting the most lurid headlines you've seen you could at least visit and see for yourselves.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 19/03/2024 10:42

Hello98765 · 19/03/2024 09:48

😂You have literally proved my point. It is a huge city full of variety and all types of places and people. It is not 'full' of knife crime neither is all of it 'filthy'.

Just stay sheltered if you prefer and stick to what you know though.

I don't agree with the quoted poster's comments but again, just because you haven't been to London does not mean you are sheltered!

ElaineMBenes · 19/03/2024 10:24

Some of us have never been to London and I for one would never! I need to have gone to London to know it's filthy and full of knife crime. That's not being 'sheltered' that's being sensible!
I'll stick to my beautiful little village in the Dales thanks

Obviously people can choose not to visit a particular place but at least make that decision based on accurate information!!

Hello98765 · 19/03/2024 09:48

SpringtimeBunny · 19/03/2024 09:32

Some of us have never been to London and I for one would never! I need to have gone to London to know it's filthy and full of knife crime. That's not being 'sheltered' that's being sensible!
I'll stick to my beautiful little village in the Dales thanks

😂You have literally proved my point. It is a huge city full of variety and all types of places and people. It is not 'full' of knife crime neither is all of it 'filthy'.

Just stay sheltered if you prefer and stick to what you know though.

queenmeadhbh · 19/03/2024 09:35

spriots · 19/03/2024 07:38

Well you described it as the capital of England and imply it has the same status as Belfast so you'll forgive me for not realising you knew that

Yes, I forgive you.

SpringtimeBunny · 19/03/2024 09:32

Hello98765 · 18/03/2024 08:14

Where are you from that London is this huge scary adventure that you have never done before? You sound quite sheltered!

Some of us have never been to London and I for one would never! I need to have gone to London to know it's filthy and full of knife crime. That's not being 'sheltered' that's being sensible!
I'll stick to my beautiful little village in the Dales thanks

Britpop123 · 19/03/2024 08:59

Idontjetwashthefucker · 19/03/2024 08:56

FFS, Araiwa's comment was tongue in cheek, how many more times

It’s perfectly believable that someone could post total bollocks so assertively. You see it a lot…

Idontjetwashthefucker · 19/03/2024 08:56

LimeAnkles · 18/03/2024 22:59

Do you work at the same company as the OP?

FFS, Araiwa's comment was tongue in cheek, how many more times

spriots · 19/03/2024 07:38

queenmeadhbh · 18/03/2024 21:16

Yes I am aware of that, thanks to good ol colonisation

Well you described it as the capital of England and imply it has the same status as Belfast so you'll forgive me for not realising you knew that

LimeAnkles · 18/03/2024 22:59

araiwa · 18/03/2024 08:02

No he definitely can't go.

Against company policy

Gross misconduct

Do you work at the same company as the OP?

KomodoOhno · 18/03/2024 22:54

My job let's me. Look into it I'm sure it's fine. I had to speak at a conference in Nashville(US) and I took my dd and sister. I only had to pay their flights and food.

ThanksItHasPockets · 18/03/2024 21:42

queenmeadhbh · 18/03/2024 20:34

do all of these posters FLUMMOXED that someone in the UK hasn’t been to London also express theatrics if someone hasn’t been to Belfast or Edinburgh, or is it just the capital of England that we all must make a pilgrimage to?

I didn’t claim flummoxation but yes, I have made exactly that point.

queenmeadhbh · 18/03/2024 21:16

spriots · 18/03/2024 20:45

London isn't just the capital of England but the whole United Kingdom.

Yes I am aware of that, thanks to good ol colonisation

queenmeadhbh · 18/03/2024 21:16

Meowandthen · 18/03/2024 20:40

Has anyone used the word pilgrimage? I CBA to RTFT.

I haven’t commented on that part but London is the capital of the UK, is the largest city by some margin, and is a global tourist attraction.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume the majority of Brits have at least visited despite the odd “hatred” towards one of the world’s greatest cities from people in parts of the country. I can never decide if that’s caused but jealousy or fear.

I didn’t see anyone say pilgrimage but the talk about aaaaaaarts and cultuuuuure was all a bit of a sacred cow vibe.

I do think it’s surprising to assume the majority of brits have been to London. None of my in-laws have. Not everyone I work with has. My grandfather has never been on a plane, and has taken a ferry to Scotland but not England. London’s a massive pain by boat anyway.

spriots · 18/03/2024 20:45

queenmeadhbh · 18/03/2024 20:34

do all of these posters FLUMMOXED that someone in the UK hasn’t been to London also express theatrics if someone hasn’t been to Belfast or Edinburgh, or is it just the capital of England that we all must make a pilgrimage to?

London isn't just the capital of England but the whole United Kingdom.

Meowandthen · 18/03/2024 20:40

queenmeadhbh · 18/03/2024 20:34

do all of these posters FLUMMOXED that someone in the UK hasn’t been to London also express theatrics if someone hasn’t been to Belfast or Edinburgh, or is it just the capital of England that we all must make a pilgrimage to?

Has anyone used the word pilgrimage? I CBA to RTFT.

I haven’t commented on that part but London is the capital of the UK, is the largest city by some margin, and is a global tourist attraction.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume the majority of Brits have at least visited despite the odd “hatred” towards one of the world’s greatest cities from people in parts of the country. I can never decide if that’s caused but jealousy or fear.

queenmeadhbh · 18/03/2024 20:34

do all of these posters FLUMMOXED that someone in the UK hasn’t been to London also express theatrics if someone hasn’t been to Belfast or Edinburgh, or is it just the capital of England that we all must make a pilgrimage to?

Meowandthen · 18/03/2024 19:44

FasterthanaButteredOtter · 18/03/2024 15:18

@Hello98765 Where else in the UK can you see the same range & calibre of theatre and art?

Edinburgh.

Especially in August when it hosts the largest and most diverse festivals in the entire world.

The Fringe is only surpassed by the Olympics and the football World Cup in terms of ticketed events.

London who? Grin

That’s not true. No one is saying that Scotland doesn’t have art or culture but London has considerably more than Edinburgh.

The population of greater London is far more than the whole of Scotland so the opportunities are higher.

Meowandthen · 18/03/2024 19:41

astarsheis · 18/03/2024 16:19

What does he expect CENTRAL London be like. I live 30 minutes away and am in CENTRAL London most days and weekends. It's not like it's a ghetto.

Apart from that, I sometimes stay in husband's room when he travels. I go off exploring and get my own breakfast and dinner. Nothing has ever been said at work. He has also travelled with me and my employer doesn't mind either as long as I don't expense for for food and drink for him. Room is apid for anyway.

He probably reads the Mail and believes London is teeming with knife wielding hoodlums. 🙄

Meowandthen · 18/03/2024 19:37

araiwa · 18/03/2024 08:02

No he definitely can't go.

Against company policy

Gross misconduct

How clever of you to know the company policy. Are you psychic?

CurtainsOfGrey · 18/03/2024 19:36

@KatieBr do you want dh to come? If not, say you've asked and he isnt allowed!

Bellie710 · 18/03/2024 19:28

I went with DH to London at the start of January when he was working, he had a Premier Inn booked under single occupancy. When we arrived they just added me on, they are all double rooms so it makes no difference and doesn't cost any more, enjoy!

LisaD1 · 18/03/2024 19:24

This would be totally fine at my workplace as long as meals were paid for himself.

that said, central London is absolutely fine by yourself, the tubes are very reliable. I commuted in and around London alone for years. I now work from home but regularly travel around Europe solo for work. I really enjoy that time on my own. Depends what you want/feel.

TimeandMotion · 18/03/2024 19:23

DinnaeFashYersel · 18/03/2024 17:25

There is more to arts and culture than tickets to the Lion King.

PS I love the Lion King.

Well, exactly. That’s the point, you don’t have the Lion King as your only option in London. Nobody is saying Scotland doesn’t have arts and culture in spades but to compare any city in the country to London for sheer number and variety of high quality shows in at any one time is ridiculous.

leamington66 · 18/03/2024 19:16

I cannot see an issue provided
It doesn't interfere with your work
He does not incur cost to the company. Sharing the room when its paid for already is fine.
99% of employers would encourage it as it makes your stay more enjoyable and safe.