To think DH cant come to this

Good grief, is he normally so anxious?

DP has just been on a training course for work. He absolutely was not allowed guests in his room. Someone got fired in their first week of work for breaking the rule (granted, it was a prostitute but the hotel only knew that becuase they knew her).

I would at the very least check with work.

Really depends on the reason for going surely. I won't be, or very rarely, working in the evening so it's nice to have dinner with someone. If it's a networky thing with a dinner it's unlikely I'll have DH with me. But sometimes I will or I'll accompany him. And either do my own thing or go along if appropriate. And vice versa.

He's come along to posh EU dinners in European countries with me - and, honestly, networked better than I have!

I've gone along to business dinners in the States with him and had a whale of a time....

I have lived in the UK all my life (50) and have never been to London and don't have any inclination to either

I'm just staggered that there is a man doubting a grown woman's ability to get herself from A to B in a city with excellent transport links. I presume you manage to get yourself dressed in the morning? Get to work? Run the house (hopefully in conjunction with him doing his fair share)?
You're not a child.

We've travelled a lot for work and often do this. As a result, we've had some amazing trips to Alaska and other parts of the US, Brazil, Germany, Portugal and more. It's completely normal and even expected as long as it doesn't cost the employer (or rather the funding body) any additional money. No-one would bat an eyelid at a partner joining an employee for a couple of nights in London.

Depends but my company are very happy with this. My husband is joining me on a trip to the US as it will only cost his flights and we can spend evenings seeing the city and he can do his own thing in the day. Doesn't cost my company any extra.

Eh? What a bizarre response. This isn’t misconduct in any of the companies I’ve worked for.

Hmm. He’s trying to make you anxious and undermine you. He’s trying to generate negative feelings about the trip. Then he’s suggesting he comes too.

Seems a bit….controlling.

I've never been. Not really had any reason to go!

HR bursts into your room at 3am, to search it for men.

As long as it's not costing your company any money then it will be absolutely fine I'm sure. I wouldn't even bother telling them.

My DH used to go away during the week quite a bit, and often we'd keep the hotel room on over the weekend and I'd fly out to wherever he was. The company was happy because 2 extra nights in a hotel were cheaper than the flights, and I/we got cheap weekends away.

You'll be ok

You can't be so definitive as you don't know OPs company or their policy. In many companies it would be absolutely fine as long as they don't add anything to the cost of staying eg breakfasts etc

I work in HR. Hotel room is paid for. Not sure how they would know either way!! You could pick someone up in a bar and take them back to your room and not only would we be none the wiser, it would be none of our business. We don’t check up.

I would ask informally (on the phone, not in writing) but if someone asked me I wouldn’t see an issue as long as they paid the difference for occupancy/breakfast etc. From my pov it’s a perk but also good for engagement, you aren’t being paid outside of office hours and it’s not a working evening.

Where do you live OP? Despite the media indicating otherwise, London is a very safe place and very easy to travel around. You prob won't even need to use the tube much as it's very walkable. There's a 'walking' London tube map, google it, it shows the walking time between tube stations.

Why though?

Do you feel the same about all other UK cities?

I've been to London a few times and wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

I'm a bumpkin from Cornwall and the tube is fine :)

I expect there are plenty of places you have never been.

Unless you work in OPs HR department you cant possibly know this.
Speak to your Boss OP

Oh OP, you'll be fine having him stay. The hotel will neither know nor care.

Previous poster got it right - that's how people have relationships with colleagues when away on business or one night stands! I've shared with my husband and vice versa for our company hotel rooms.

And regarding London on the tube, my 16 Yr old daughter travels in an hour to London on the train and then navigates the tube on her own quite often. Alone. And she's fine.

I even lived in London and not a single scary thing happened to me in the 5yrs I was there. You will have a blast. Enjoy your trip.

I don't see how your DH is going to be any help to you on the tube if he's not done it before either...

But as others have said, it should be fine for him to tag along in you hotel.

Tube is super easy, btw and central London is very safe.

@Ponoka7 Yeah I guess for some people that could be true. We have no idea where the OP lives though so may or may not be somewhere she would visit for any of those opportunities.
Personally, I’m about an hour west of Glasgow so would never visit London for a night out etc. I have been a fair few times just because I like exploring different places but I work with ladies in their 40s-60s who I know for a fact have never visited and have no interest in doing so 🤷🏻‍♀️

She wasn't anxious until he said she needed him there to get on the tube.

How can you say it's against company policy when you don't even know where she works?