To think DH cant come to this

I’ve done this and it was fine. Travelled to places like New York and entertained myself during the day.
Your h is being weird making out the tube to be scary because it’s not. Busy during rush hour if you are only used to driving to work but no different to other train systems.

Of course this isn't true. OP just check with your employer. It's common at my work for people to do this, partners have to pay their own meals, transports and insurance (if abroad).

I did that and it was just a friend with benefits, not even a husband.

Can’t do any harm to ask. The worst they can do is say no or ask for a contribution towards the cost. I’ve tied work trips in with visiting families and also accompanied a friend on a work trip abroad. Her company offered this as a park that they paid for an extra night away and could bring a partner/friend. They won’t sack you for asking a question

Obviously partners don't actually attend any work related things, but if it doesn't cost the business any more to have someone's partner wandering around the city or whatever during the day, who cares? And why would it be "embarassing"?

Good point
When I had to go to London and use the Tube I was terrified. DH talked me through it, reassured me and helped me make a plan on what I was going to do and even found me an app to help. He was also on the other end of the phone if I needed him.
At no point did he suggest I couldnt do it.
I was actually absolutely fine, despite making a couple of mistakes and DH was pleased for me.
I do wonder if OPs H is being controlling here. I worked with a lady once who's OH wouldnt let her stay away or insited on coming with her. She was offered support but insisted there wasnt an issue - i think she lost her job after being late for a morning meeting due to traffic when we were all staying the night before.She had arrived and checked in but left very late to go home despite prmising her manager she wouldnt.Management was sympathetic but unfortunately due to her lies and unreliability she wasnt an efffective member of the team. It was a few years ago so might have been handled differently now

Why? What does think will happen to you??

🫣 thousands of people travel around London on the tube and other forms of transport on their own. I used to do this aged from about aged 15/16ish when I would travel to London from one of the Home Counties for gigs in the evening or for a day trip to Camden!

it’s one thing for him to want to come along, and as many others have said it’s probably fine but do check with work.

HOWEVER!! I think it’s a bit weird for him to use the “London is scary and dangerous” line ton convince (or scare you) into bringing him along.

@araiwa

No he definitely can't go.
Against company policy
Gross misconduct

Explain how you know it’s against her companies policy and would be considered gross misconduct

Ah op how exciting! You'll love it!

My dh checked with his company that I could stay with him when he went away. I paid my own transport etc and they were more than happy for me to stay at the hotel. It was paid for per room and not per person so there was no issue

If his addition to the trip costs no extra, ie he just shares the room at the same cost, then it's fine. As long as he pays for all his own way then as an adult you can choose to share the bedroom on a work trip? Someone might hook up with a stranger or use a sex worker? I'm sure that's not unheard of, lol.
So as long as you are doing the work and he makes himself scarce for that, then it's just about a room being shared which seems no biggie.

I’m genuinely shocked how many people do this? I travel all over the world and it just wouldn’t cross my mind for my partner to come during the event, in fact I’d be really embarrassed. I have once extended and stayed on for a week when I had to go to Japan but this was all agreed with HR and had pay the difference if the later flight was more expensive (it wasn’t).

Lots of people catch the tube ! It is busy obv, but not too scary. Either way OK. Maybe if he's never been he feels anxious

How would he know if he's never been? 😅 It's fine! Is he trying to scare you into bringing him along??

Your DH sounds controlling by the way so I’d rather go alone than have him adding to my anxiety. Enjoy your break alone in the evening and working away it’s great to do these things alone I used to.

I wonder why he said he wouldn't recommend the tube? He isn't in a position to recommend, since he hasn't been on it himself.

Probably correct.

Would be totally fine where I work.

My DP has worked away most of his career (17 years). I don’t go with him as once there he has to start work immediately in hotel or go and meet work colleagues. You will have to do the same as that’s how it is when you are away.

I have only once gone in all of that time as was different than normal as at that point worked on customer sites so I was in the car for the journey but we paid for our room (not the company paying)….it was a disaster and I ended up going to family as room was dire so never again! 🤣

Or more likely, he hates the idea of her being in a hotel away from him, with colleagues.

I think he’s controlling. He doesn’t like his ‘woman’ going down to the big smoke, so he’s creating negativity and muscling in to ‘keep her safe’. Gross.

My husband works away often and I’ve gone with him before. I’ve even done it since we’ve had kids and DH asks his boss to book a family room instead (we pay the difference). One of the times my husband submitted his evening meal receipt and they knowingly paid for mine and our sons meal as well (he’d highlighted what was his) as they said they understand the upheaval of having someone working away so it was their treat. We didn’t used to tell his boss when it was just me staying but now we need a family room we have to. His boss says as long as he’s doing his usual hours at work he’s not bothered.

My DH sometimes works away and if it's in a large city Manchester, Bristol or such he'll always book a Premier Inn as near to the town as possible so that I can join him and have a stroll out and about and return to the room at my leisure.

In a Premier Inn although you put the amount of people per room a double room is still the same price as stated so may as well make use.

Don't be daft