To think DH cant come to this

If you and your husband can get the next day off work @KatieBr, I think he should go with you on the first day, after having booked an extra night at the same hotel - if possible - just so that you can spend some nice time together in an amazing city.

However, I strongly believe that you should make it very clear to your DH that you want him to come along for his excellent company, and not because you couldn't manage central London on your own! So please have a serious talk with your DH about putting you down insidiously like that, he might not even realise he is doing it, as far too many generations of men have grown up in a misogynistic household, and have learned to talk to woman like that.

Obviously, misogyny needs to be, in fact must be, stopped. Luckily, an otherwise kind and intelligent man (like your DH ?), should agree with this from the start, and be able to learn how to understand, agree with, and implement this behaviour. reasonably easily.

I hope you have a great time OP, in whatever way it plays out.
But I am quite puzzled about why any business would decide to have a training day in one of the most expensive places in the country?

I've been to London. I do find it stressful. Im not interested in returning. There are lots of other places with history and culture. I live in one.

I’m curious to know what other controlling habits this man has, and in what other ways he’s undermined your self confidence.

This happens a lot in my company. Totally fine as long as nothing is expensed on behalf of the partner. Usually the room cost is the same, partner should pay for their own breakfast etc

Partners can join for business travel provided no extra cost is incurred for my company and same goes for DH, as long as I pay my own travel, food etc. I can stay in his room for free. He'd never be in anything smaller than a double anyway.

WTF? It's not my capital city.

Why are some of you so shocked that not everyone has been to London? Maybe you need to get out more, broaden your experiences

I have an interest in history and culture but I have no interest in visiting London, I've visited lots of UK cities, lots of European cities, Canada, Australia, US, the Caribbean, Mexico amongst others - if that's living in a sheltered bubble I'll take that

Because it’s our capital city with world famous galleries, theatres, museums & restaurants. I would have thought anyone with an interest in history & culture would want to see it. I know some people live in a sheltered bubble though.

This is incorrect. Your company may have that rule but it's not something I've ever heard of. Unless it's spelt out in your company policy, of course he can crash in your room as long as it doesn't cost your company anything.

you do know a lot of jobs don't involve remote work right? like it just doesn't exist within the company. you know nothing about ops industry.

I don’t think it’s that odd, especially as the op doesn’t appear to do a lot of work travel. DH’s current company, and his last one, see travel days as travel days. Which means sometimes they get a bonus of free time and sometimes they don’t, and the first makes up for the times when the latter are long days.

In most companies this would be fine and if you are keen to spend time with your husband in London I'd go for it.

As others have said tho, why on earth is he suggesting you shouldn't be travelling alone in Central London? In the middle of the day? The tube is incredibly easy and safe. I live 40 minutes north of London and regularly go in for dinner or the theatre and make my way back to euston around midnight with no bother at all. Is he controlling in other ways?

Why would you not be able to navigate London on your own? It really isn’t a scary place. How old are you? You do sound very sheltered/immature.

My DH has been with me before when I had to go somewhere alone, not because I was anxious but simply that it was 2 nights in a good UK city. I booked my own room, was a double anyway and didn't cost any more so that was fine. Then claimed expenses for 1 train ticket, 1 meal on the receipts etc
No issue, I went to my work thing for 2 days while he explored and we had nice evenings out together after

Of course he can come!
Check with HR if you don't know what the policy is.

Yeah, London certainly has the best public transport system anywhere in the UK, and it's up there with the best in the world - the Victoria Line has the most frequent service of any metro system anywhere. Oyster and contactless make it very easy to use. I was travelling all over the tube network regularly from the age of 12 - I'm now nearly 50 - and I can't recall a single bad thing ever happening to me.

Sure, it's not much fun in rush hour at the height of summer, but not much is!

I;d be expected to work on that travel day.

Okay, not particually hard but "read stuff" on the train down and then do some work/answer some emails in the afternoon at the hotel.

not swan off to sitesee as soon as i arrive.

giving you the whole day off as you need to go on a train seems odd.

See, this strikes me as odd. Doesn't he think you're capable of travelling to/around London by yourself, and if not why not? Just feels a bit overprotective/infantilising to me?

I think that if you're not used to travelling solo this is a good opportunity to start. Also, personally I wouldn't have thought it would look great to your work if you couldn't do this without your DH tagging along.

I don't mean any of that to sound harsh, btw, it's just my perspective, but then I have travelled a lot on my own, both in and outside the UK, and can't imagine needing DH along, or his wanting to accompany me, tbh.

So you will be there for work, and he wants to come along for a free jolly.

Is he jealous ?

Why is London so frightening ? it's merely a City and if you are old enough to have a job you are old enough to do this by yourself.

If the two of you have never done a weekend break in London I can only guess it is because you never chose to do so.

People in my work do this all the time. As long as it's not interfering with your work (e.g. stopping you going out for evening work events) or costing the company any money (e.g. booking a larger room, paying for an extra breakfast etc) then generally think it's fine. I would probably check with my manager to be sure but I think it's perfectly acceptable unless there's a policy in place that says otherwise.

I was fine until I mentioned it to DH, he was like do you really want to get on the tube to central London by yourself, I wouldn't recommend it!

Why do people do this, make out others are totally incompetent & couldn't do something that is fairly straight forward?

Does this man frequently undermined your abilities in life? That really is a shame

I lived far from London but used to go there and travel around on my own from the age of 14. It's ridiculous for him to suggest that you couldn't cope there. It's the easiest city to travel around that I've ever been to!
If you want him to join you then I'm sure it's fine. If he's muscling in and you'd enjoy the time alone then say no.

I’ve friends and colleagues who have never been outside of London 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ everyone has different opportunities in life

I'm sure it's fine. I've accompanied DH on business several times. Usually to Swindon 😐

I never went to London until I was 30-something, but the tube is not difficult, dangerous or scary in the slightest, so you certainly don't need your DH to protect or advise you. Not that he knows anything about the tube anyway if he's never been!

I'm taking my husband and child with me on a work trip to Europe in a couple of weeks. Totally normal.