To think DH cant come to this

nfkl · Today 08:21

I am floored that adults born and living in the UK have never visited London

Why?
Im 63 had never been until i was 60, taken by daughter for a long weekend. No intentions of going again, and no im not sheltered i have travelled.

Me and my DH do this all the time. Including overseas trips. As long as no cost incurred by him is charged to your work place it should be fine.

If you are nervous you could always check with HR to make sure.

You'd almost think the UK doesn't have three other countries and capital cities.

I assumed this was a piss-take!

So not staggered that people have different experiences to you, just staggered that some people want different things to you?

😂

I do love when people on Mn start talking about “UK cities” and then completely ignore Edinburgh and Glasgow

Given that you are only expected to work for limited hours then I say go for it. Can you go down earlier and make a weekend out of it (at your own cost obviously)?

I'm not staggered that people have different experiences to me.

I am staggered that you could live your whole life in the UK and not venture to London once. And express no interest in doing so.

It’s not helpful to say “against company policy” as though this is a fact when some companies specifically say that this is fine as long as the partner doesn’t incur the company any costs.

OP, as others have said, best to double check with your company’s policy on this or directly with your HR department to make sure they’re ok with it.

As an aside, I always recommend the free Citymapper app (or I think you can just access it as a website too) to anyone unfamiliar with London. You enter in your destination and your starting point and the app/website will calculate all the different public transport options for getting there (including which tube lines to take, which station to transfer between lines, which station exit to take etc) and will even estimate the cost of travelling by taxi. It’s excellent.

Apologies, I hadn't realised you weren't the same poster I was replying to.

I do question your lack of life experience though that you are "staggered" to know others have different experiences than you.

Where else in the UK can you see the same range & calibre of theatre and art?

No other UK city can compare. Manchester is probably the next best thing although I've never been to Birmingham but I would guess it's not as good.

The range and breadth of experiences / culture / people / neighbourhoods there is unparalleled in the UK and possibly in the world.

Utter bs and such a Londoncentric view. I live in another UK city and what you’ve said is applicable to my current home, other cities and the metropolitan nearby. Yes London is a ‘super capital’ in world/economic/banking/political standards, but for every day life? Visiting experience? Really not exceptional.

Genuinely astonished how people get so far in life when they are scared to go into Central London by themselves or get the tube. I've travelled to Batumi, Georgia on my own, come on people!

What was the ignorant and incorrect statement?

My thoughts as well. Haven't read the rest of the thread yet, but my eyebrows went up reading that a man who hasn't been to London tells his wife that she might be unsafe there.

Why make so many [incorrect] assumptions?

I never once said I had no interest in visiting London, I'm questioning your ignorant and incorrect statement.

Ive had to work away from home in the past, we had to network in the evenings too, eat together ect, we were monitored how much we drank if we were sociable ect, if you are not expected to do this then i cant see a problem tbh.

It is, so do it! Don't let your husband convince you that's something strange or scary.

Ask. Every company is different.

I used to travel with DP to the USA frequently with DP on his business trips. Provided he was prepared to travel economy, rather than the usual business class, they would even pay for my flight.

We just had to pay for meals. The room was a flat rate so it made no difference there.

This is actually quite sad.

London is one of the world's great cities, and there really is something for everyone. The range and breadth of experiences / culture / people / neighbourhoods there is unparalleled in the UK and possibly in the world.

If you aren't a curious person interested in learning about the world, that's ok to admit, but don't act like London would have nothing to show you, because unfortunately you're objectively wrong.

Totally normal in my business. Sometimes partner will even join colleagues for dinner. I'd just check your company policy. It's fine under my company policy but only if it doesn't end up costing the company any more money.

@KatieBr the main question in all of this is do you actually want your DH to go with you?

if you do, check your companies policy. If you don’t and he won’t accept that then the issue isn’t really the trip, but his lack of respect

So what is the problem you want an answer to, @KatieBr?