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Friend mad because I sat down to have coffee

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trekking1 · 17/03/2024 15:57

Please tell me if I am being BU or is she.

Made plans with two friends to go on a walk this morning. Me and one friend arrive on time, the other one is late. Neither of us had coffee this morning so we sat down in the nearest coffee shop and told our friend to meet us there. She arrives, orders coffee and food (this info will be important later) and after we go on the walk. Everything was completely fine during the walk, but when I got home I received a fuming message from her!

She said that we knew she was broke and that's why she wanted to go on a walk and it was really insensitive that we sat down to have coffee forcing her to spend money. I responded no one forced her to have anything as she could have just had water and that if I need coffee because I haven't had one this morning, it's unreasonable to expect I'm gonna give up having one because of her.

Her reply was that she felt forced to order something because the staff would judge her. I told her I used to work customer service so I can guarantee you they don't care if one person among a group of 3 does not order anything. Then I asked her if she is so broke, why on earth did she order coffee AND food?😂I got no reply.

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MySillyDog81 · 17/03/2024 16:03

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Nothingbuttheglory · 17/03/2024 16:03

Her first initial isn't A, is it?

trekking1 · 17/03/2024 16:03

SilverBranchGoldenPears · 17/03/2024 16:02

Oh dear. I hope she reads this in DM and feels a bit ashamed.

Oh lord, don't scare me with this ending up in DM😂

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Clarinet1 · 17/03/2024 16:02

I know what it’s like to have to count the pennies but I think what’s happening that she’s taking out her anger at herself for spending the money unnecessarily on you!

SilverBranchGoldenPears · 17/03/2024 16:02

Oh dear. I hope she reads this in DM and feels a bit ashamed.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 17/03/2024 16:01

She's obviously got not will power but that is her problem not yours!

Bifty · 17/03/2024 15:59

She’s being a baby, isn’t she? Obviously she’s stressed about money, which is understandable, but wtf has that got to do with you having a coffee while you wait? And all that stuff about the staff judging her 🙄 Pure victim mentality. Everyone being so very mean to her and making her do things. Dear oh dear.

Cas112 · 17/03/2024 15:58

The end really made me laugh😂

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