AIBU - Weeing in lay-bys is anti social and fines should apply

Wild wees are fine. Volunteering for a litter collection finding bottles full of wee isn't. Please carry on wild weeing. Your bottles are heavy emptying them very unpleasant

What's the issue? Usually it will be into foliage and in pavement areas it will be washed away by the rain.

Genuinely believe that the people who moan about this sort of trivial stuff have zero understanding about any kind of bowel/bladder incontinence issues. Educate yourself.

When you've got to go you've got to go, if I get caught short I'll happily go in the nearest layby 🤷‍♀️

I have had many a wild wee - don't be such a judgy pants.

During my childhood, my parents would pull over next to a field gate and we'd climb over and find ourselves some privacy in the hedgerow.

The last time I peed outdoors was in the Cairmgorms. It was a long journey with nowhere to stop and I was desperate. OH pulled over and I nipped up a steep bank and over the other side, out of sight. Pulled down my trousers and let go, then looked around me. It was glorious - sunny day, warm breeze around my nethers, a valley full of flowering heather, absolutely beautiful and the best al fresco pee I've ever had.

My frail elderly parents both had to have a wee Ona slip road the other day. You must be disgusted, OP. Their car broke down a mile from home, they had only been shopping locally, and Green Flag took an hour and a half to get to them. They are both on diuretics, and as they are both disabled, were unable to walk the 200 yards to a car showroom to use their toilets. They felt humiliated by their inability to reach a toilet, and by having to go in plain sight. In my opinion and experience, people don’t have a wee outside, unless they really have to.

Yes just awful

Without sounding self righteous my dc would never throw litter and nor would I, find it so hard to understand

And yes usually men.

@suburburban Grim isn't it, I walk along A roads a lot and the litter is horrific. Some people blame it on foreign lorry drivers with different standards in their countries but it's always been like this. I see cars chucking stuff out. So many animals about

@SpringSprungALeak No I tried them as a teenager and it went everywhere!

@soupfiend I said it was a DIY back seat loo Let me spell it out for you. I kneel on back seat, put the jug over my fanjo and wee in it. If i can i throw it in the hedge, if not then a bottle until I can dispose of it properly. I wipe and put the paper in a nappy sack and tie it up. I rinse the jug and spray it with anti bac. Then I wash my hands.

Oh I forgot to mention that I pull my trousers back up before continuing my journey. Sometimes I do a moonie at a passing coach of football supporters if I'm in a mischievous mood.

Not sure how old you are OP but you would have hated the early 80s - the drive to my grandparents took around three hours and service stations weren't really much of a thing or certainly not on that route. So mid journey we'd all stop in the same layby for a wee although was usually just me, DB and DM, DF wouldn't.

Yes it's not ideal and obvs in this day and age there are many service stations. But if you're stuck in traffic and may not be able to get to a ss for another hour or so and you're desperate...well there's no judgement here. I suffer from a very weak bladder and prolapse issues which mean if I 'hold it in' it's actually much worse for me. I've never had to resort to a layby wee as an adult but to know it's an option helps my anxiety.

Although don't think I've ever seen anyone weeing in a layby for years now??

We never know anyones medical condition . My daughter had colitis...my sister incontinence...men still have urinary issues. Yes you said bar anyone with medical issues but policing that? Embarassing.
Sometimes cant wait and its urgent. Just make sure try to limit what others can view

Also if people are on tight driving schedules or working in a remote location it can be difficult to have accessible toilets

Yes agree about the litter and don't understand people doing this

Yes, YABU

Totally agree - YANBU Op!

I drive a lot for work and I always see men weeing. I often see their piss stream and that offends me. I once saw a man doing a shit in a lay-by. I couldn't see it but he was squatting trousers down. Half of me was disgusted and part of me felt bad a she must have been caught short/ill etc.

DP has a 250ml bladder at most and has been known to enjoy a few beers as we drive ti a holiday destination or maybe for a day out. We constantly have to pull over but he is discreet and polite about it. doesn't stop me being mortified. he is his own person so it is what it is.

@IBegYourBiggestPardon Your OH is the one being ridiculous by not being prepared for a situation which is likely to occur. Why can't he pull over and use a portable male urinal in his cab, seal it and then empty it into a toilet at the next services? Too lazy?

You don’t think it more likely stinks because people’s dogs have been let out on leads? I see that more often than people. And I can’t get that worked up about it.

When you gotta go you gotta go.

There definitely aren't enough public toilets in this country. I have no problem with an emergency wee, done discreetly.

However, in our area, I've seen men over the past few years standing in full view of traffic and walkers, a big stream of wee flowing. They could stand behind their car, by the hedge, but no, they're right in the open. It feels like a deliberate act to do it so publicly. It is definitely a new thing as I didn't see any men doing it this openly until recently.

it’s always men I see doing it

That's because men can wee standing up anywhere, whereas women have to squat and go somewhere a bit more hidden.